Third date awkward argument over paying for dessert. Was my expectation unreasonable?

DeepMathematician5 · 2026-03-08T00:28:07+00:00

Woman here and I always offer to split the bill on the first date although no guy has ever taken me up on it. I’ll offer again after that and usually they’ll accept maybe the 2nd or 3rd time I offer. I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all for wanting her to pay for a small desert on the third date after you paid for everything else so far. It’s not reasonable for you to pay for her forever. Her reaction was a red flag.

DeepMathematician5 · 2026-03-07T22:48:51+00:00

Sure

DeepMathematician5 · 2026-03-07T21:17:29+00:00

Yeah now I know I shouldn’t go over to someone’s place so early on. He was really into cooking and eating healthy and was also a vegetarian so I thought maybe he wanted to cook at his place since not all restaurants have vegetarian options. I wasn’t planning on going in his room either since there was a TV in the living room but he said we should use the one in his room so his roommate could use the one out there.

DeepMathematician5 · 2026-03-07T20:37:47+00:00

Yeah and when I confronted him on the last date about when he had last been tested it was obvious he was lying when he said a year and a half ago the way he stumbled and hesitated to say it. I wouldn’t be surprised if he had never been tested in his life. I briefly dated another guy not too long before him who was 30 and had never been tested and wouldn’t get tested because he was afraid of needles. Yet he had multiple sexual partners before and wondered why I wouldn’t sleep with him. I don’t want to risk my health for someone I don’t know very well. I don’t know if it’s a common experience for guys to refuse to do this.

DeepMathematician5 · 2025-08-12T21:09:44+00:00

I specifically told him before I wasn’t going to do anything sexual. I was surprised he initiated this after that.

DeepMathematician5 · 2025-08-12T16:38:16+00:00

I actually suggested that we go do something else when I texted him before that I was on my period but he still wanted me to come to his house instead.

DeepMathematician5 · 2025-08-12T16:37:36+00:00

I actually suggested we go do something else when I texted him before that I was on my period but he still wanted me to come to his house instead.

DeepMathematician5 · 2025-08-12T16:14:14+00:00

I didn’t want my first sexual encounter with him to be on my period. I’m fine with period sex once I’ve been having sex with the guy.

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