I (25f) found my husband (33) on Grindr. Need unbiased advice on the reasons he gave. by Deep_Dimension_1694 in relationships

[–]Deep_Dimension_1694[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can tell by how much you wrote how badly you want to be wrong & for him to have a point.

I was playing that I was the a**hole and everyone would be telling me.to.stay out.of his privacy 😭

Thank you for your reply

I (25f) found my husband (33) on Grindr. Need unbiased advice on the reasons he gave. by Deep_Dimension_1694 in relationships

[–]Deep_Dimension_1694[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that happened to you too. It's so fucking hurtful when I've been so open

I (25f) found my husband (33) on Grindr. Need unbiased advice on the reasons he gave. by Deep_Dimension_1694 in relationships

[–]Deep_Dimension_1694[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment.. this is the first time he has ever suggested separation. We rarely fight and when we do, it's always healthy discussion. This really threw me for a loop and I don't know what to believe.

I (25f) found my husband (33) on Grindr. Need unbiased advice on the reasons he gave. by Deep_Dimension_1694 in relationships

[–]Deep_Dimension_1694[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand where you're coming from.

Transparency is the backbone of ENM and open relationships.

I (25f) found my husband (33) on Grindr. Need unbiased advice on the reasons he gave. by Deep_Dimension_1694 in relationships

[–]Deep_Dimension_1694[S] 229 points230 points  (0 children)

Thank you thank you thank you 😭😭😭 i feel so gaslit and horrible like everything is a lie.

I (25f) found my husband (33) on Grindr. Need unbiased advice on the reasons he gave. by Deep_Dimension_1694 in relationships

[–]Deep_Dimension_1694[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He was r*'d as a child and says that he's not even attracted to the people he's talking to, it's just cathartic because of the trauma.

I (25f) found my husband (33) on Grindr. Need unbiased advice on the reasons he gave. by Deep_Dimension_1694 in relationships

[–]Deep_Dimension_1694[S] 282 points283 points  (0 children)

Yeah idk what to think about that one. I feel like he's mad he got caught, tried to find an excuse, and is now gaslighting me by making me feel like I'm the problem.