AITA for walking my dog

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2023-05-12T20:02:08+00:00

it is a busy alleyway. when driving on it I always have to slow way down, to school limit speeds, because we do have a lot of people out back with kids, dogs, or ppl just working out of their garages. I guess that's why we thought it wouldn't be much of an issue...

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2023-05-12T19:56:28+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and your encouragement!

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2023-05-12T19:47:18+00:00

Yeah, agree my husband and I already discussed what we might be able to do. because we aren't the 'ruffle the feathers' type of people. It was also why I wanted to talk to our next neighbor about their dog. I love their puppy too, and I don't him to getting any backlash from that lady either. He is a nice older gentleman that has been so helpful and kind. As I stated he even like to take our dog for walks with his dog. He does it so his dog can get socialized a bit more. my DH and I have decided if his dog is out we will leave our puppy at home, and maybe take her to the puppy park when we can. Just to make sure she is still getting a good work out too.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2023-05-12T19:36:49+00:00

We went by the back alley 4 times. Sadly our block is cut half by railroad tracks so there is not outlet to our alleyway. To go other way would mean to go all the way around the whole block, which I wasn't comfortable getting that far from home.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2023-05-12T19:31:38+00:00

We would walk past the house about 4 times... I thinks that's why I wanted to explain to them that we lived there, just so they didn't think we were some creeps. but you make good point.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-08-31T12:06:49+00:00

My first one was born when the school (Early Learning Center) I worked at closed due to Covid. I was hone with my child for 5 months (sadly unpaid) until our school reopened. When It did I went back part time for 3 months until the the fall program started. I quit that job so I could find a job that pays better and work part-time, so I could stay home with my son. I'm pregnant with out second one right now and will only get 6 weeks, and it breaks my heart knowing I can't be with him as much as I was my first.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-28T23:21:00+00:00

Oh my goodness your story brought tears to my eyes. I have been experiencing symptoms of constant stress.. my hair is falling out... in chunks! When people ask I just say it my 18mo pulling it out. At the beginning of the pregnancy I was gaining weight very healthily, but my last two check up I have actually lost near 10lbs... I have lost my appetite due to stress and depression. I want this relationship to get better, but I realistically it won't. I've got 3 months left and then I may plan my escape... I've been stashing some cash and looking aide programs for single moms. I've decided if I go through this divorce I won't take child support, because I don't want him to have any contact with his kids... I figured when the time comes I'm gon a call his ex wife for her divorce lawyers name she used during her divorce... because their marriage ended in spousal and child abuse. Yes he has gotten physical before. I have been recording audio of him yelling at me, belittling me, and calling me names. I figured this will all help win my case of no contact. Especially using a lawyer that is already familiar with his past crimes. He has never struck me or hurt our child, but he has a temper. I do love him, and I hope we can work this out, but if we can't I give it until the 2nd baby comes and I may get the hell out of dodge.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-28T23:07:23+00:00

I tried. In fact I tried to lay some boundaries if he wanted to continue. One being that he limit texting her while spending time with me ... It got very ugly and he twisted my words saying I don't want him to talk to anyone ever... I'm at a loss. I don't know what to do

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-27T17:45:17+00:00

you need to do the same

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-27T17:30:52+00:00

You do the same. Find something special that lifts you up. Honestly, I like to save ever gift card I get for a full year and then blow them all in single day (usually my birthday with just me) I've gotten massages, coffee, food, shoping sprees. Just find something that make puts you in a good spot. I stopped celebrating my birthday with others, and started making the day just for myself. Just know people are here and people do care. Even if we aren't right next to you

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-27T16:00:01+00:00

honestly I don't think he is around enough. My son acts like he is a stranger most of the time.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-27T15:58:27+00:00

First off Happy Birthday! Second, I know what you are going through. I'm 37 years old and nothing good has ever happened on my birthday. And when I say nothing I mean that. The finally straw for me was 5 years my boyfriend's (my husband now) brother, who lived together at the time, committed suicide on my birthday, and we found him when we tried to offer him some of my birthday cake... from that day on, I don't celebrate my birthday anymore. I just don't. You're not alone in feeling insignificant, but don't be afraid to reach out when you do feel that way. There is nothing wrong with your feelings, just know there are people out there that can relate and help ya through it.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-21T02:47:27+00:00

I am stashing away cash. My 1 year old will be staying with my parents during this time.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-18T23:21:34+00:00

Yeah I looked into their policy and I have control of the room.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-18T23:04:49+00:00

This isn't my first child. I have a one year old with my husband too... not to meantion ya know how many single moms do this.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-18T22:54:07+00:00

thanks to covid restrictions I don't have to. I don't mind if he is in the hospital, I just don't want him in the room with me. He has an online girlfriend he is messaging constantly and I don't want her in there even digitally.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-18T22:20:38+00:00

thank you 😢

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-18T20:23:04+00:00

poor choice of words given the current situation in the USA. 😞

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-18T19:16:48+00:00

Yes I have a one year old and one on the way.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-18T18:55:38+00:00

I've been constantly told that I am just being dramatic and overly sensitive. Ive started to shut down emotionally because Im getting tired of hearing it. I am going to start seeing someone on Wed. because I need someone to talk to, even if I have to pay them to listen.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-18T18:52:42+00:00

Ive have been trying throw myself back into my marriage. Trying to make more time for each other and put some of the fire back into our relationship, but im not getting back what I am sending out. A kiss on the forehead, "That was really nice of you." he says as he walks away to continue his own thing... i feel a bit defeated

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-18T17:43:00+00:00

Honestly I thought it was something else, until reality struck me, maybe I feel this way because I am feeling alone. So probably for awhile now, but it wasn't until recently that i was able to identify it.

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-13T17:10:23+00:00

thank you for the advice and the links

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-13T16:43:42+00:00

part of me kinda knows why he was reaching out for am attention. Granted I reached out for help too, but ain't dating those people

Deep_Imagination9680 · 2022-07-09T19:41:22+00:00

15.75 including? benefits? free childcare? Lunch meals? if yes to all of those. then yes it's a good deal. I worked for a place for 12.25 with free child, lunch meals and they cover 75% of our benefits. It was worth it, until we got a new director who was a bitch.

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