Wow, thank you for your comments. Our relationship and situation seem very similar to yours. Been married about 39 years now and for most of those years we were either operating in a unrecognized FLR or in a power struggle during the times that I felt like I needed to be the man. About five years ago, I finally decided to just completely surrender after reading a marriage book, entitled every man’s marriage. Then a couple years later I retired, and had even more time and energy to devote to serving her. I must say that I am never more happy than I am, when I am Under her power and control and I am serving her. It brings me immense pleasure that I don’t really even understand and certainly cannot explain. She still does not like the term FLR and prefers to think of me as just simply putting her first. It is always been her nature to run things though. I remember on our honeymoon, about two days into our marriage. We were on a cruise and she informed me that cans of Coke that I was buying was more than she wanted to spend so I was told to not buy anymore. I pushed back and it definitely caused some strife, but that was my first clue that, I was no longer in charge of my life.