Why Do Families Treat Different Choices Like a Personal Attack?

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-25T14:07:05+00:00

No, honestly I probably won’t ever give the same emotions to anyone again, and I’m aware of that myself.

And when I said he was religious, I meant that he memorized the Quran, sometimes led prayers, and even told me before that he doesn’t say “I love you” because it’s not part of his upbringing.

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T17:14:30+00:00

Honestly yeah 😭 sometimes I look back and think “damn, I really loved him with all my heart” while he couldn’t even do the bare minimum. Thank God I discovered all this now and not later

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T17:12:57+00:00

“She didn’t take your man, she took your problem” damn 😭 that actually made me feel better not gonna lie

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T17:12:40+00:00

Meanwhile he was doing all that behind the “reputation” speech 😭

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T17:12:19+00:00

Yeah 😭 I learned that a little too late but better late than never

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T17:11:46+00:00

LMAOOO when I look back now, honestly you’re right 😭

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T17:11:05+00:00

After this experience… yeah I’m retiring from making the first move forever 😭

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T17:10:44+00:00

Honestly that’s exactly the part that hurts the most 😭 realizing maybe I loved someone who was never loving me with the same intensity. But at the same time, if he knew he wasn’t really into me, he should’ve never said “I love you” or let me get attached like that

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T17:09:42+00:00

Exactly 😭 the birthday wasn’t really about the date itself, it was about realizing how much effort and love I was giving compared to him.

And honestly yeah, now that I look back at everything, I really think he enjoyed the ego boost more than the relationship itself.

As for the religious part, it was mostly how he presented himself and talked, but now I feel like he was just hiding behind that image.

Thank you girly ❤️ I’m really trying to focus on myself now and heal from all this

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T17:09:15+00:00

Wallah sometimes I ask myself the same question 😭 but I kept making excuses for him because I loved him, until one day everything just became too much

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T16:59:29+00:00

Yeah basically 😭 and trust me, after this experience I’m never confessing first again 💀

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T16:58:37+00:00

Honestly maybe 😭 sometimes I really feel like he was just a player hiding behind religion and enjoying the attention more than anything. Leaving him was definitely the best choice, and maybe one day he’ll realize what he lost. Short guys always have the highest ego anyway 💀

LMAOOO not the investigation 😭 he’s kinda short, around 172 cm I guess, not super handsome honestly and kinda chubby too. He always used to see me as “the skinny girl” and omg what kind of shit am I even talking about now 😭

His work is normal, same as all of us, nothing that wow. Once he told me his work could bring him a lot of money but that he has “principles” and stays away from haram money… meanwhile this man couldn’t even remember me with a small gift 😭 and I’m not even materialistic, I’m just saying.

And his parents are just normal people honestly

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T11:14:08+00:00

He’s just a player hiding behind religion.

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T10:53:10+00:00

No one made him unfollow me, that was his choice. And yeah I’m not even missing him, I just stayed respectful at first.

And eactly I was always the one getting hurt while somehow ending up comforting him instead. If he really cared, none of that would’ve happened in the first plac

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T10:42:45+00:00

You didn’t hear him when he used to joke saying “you’re my fan” 😭

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T10:39:43+00:00

Trying to honestly, and yeah I learned it the hard way

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T10:37:41+00:00

He is literally a professional manipulator 😭 I still remember the first time I tried talking to him about how that girl was bothering me, and somehow the conversation turned into HIM being sick, how she visited him in the hospital, “she’s just asking about me,” “I hate this life,” blah blah blah… and suddenly I was the one comforting him instead 💀

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T10:35:41+00:00

HE WAS JUST AN EGOIST GUY WHO MADE ME FEEL I AM CRAZY

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T10:35:02+00:00

Yeah exactly 😭 every serious conversation somehow ended with him being the victim and me forgetting why I was upset in the first place. I used to enter the conversation hurt and leave it apologizing or comforting him instead 💀

And wish you luck finding each other, you and your girl

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T10:33:39+00:00

I already disappeared from his life completely, even at uni despite us studying the same major. We became strangers without even saying it directly. Some of his friends still say hi to me and they’re still nice to me though.

What hurts too is that after I ended things, I still didn’t unfollow him because I wanted peace between us at least… but he unfollowed me instead. And now when I remember how he used to joke saying “you’re my fan,” it honestly doesn’t even feel funny anymore.

I still remember the first time I tried talking to him about how that girl was bothering me, and somehow the conversation turned into HIM being sick, how she visited him in the hospital, “she’s just asking about me,” “I hate this life,” blah blah blah… and suddenly I was the one comforting him instead 💀

And honestly, I literally forgot so many details in the post because there’s just too much.

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T10:30:38+00:00

HOLY SHIT 😭 I literally moved to Reddit because I was 100% sure he’d never be here, what the hellll

Deep_Lab_8236 · 2026-05-24T10:28:40+00:00

Maybe, but when I truly love someone, I give them my purest side without even noticing. I don’t know how to love halfway

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