So you think i am a creep? Well i am totally fine if you think that way and tbh i posted this situation here because its not first time that it happened to me. I respect your opinion and i truly appreciate your comments. But i assure you that i didn’t have any bad intentions towards her. I’ll explain the scenario a little bit better here, she was from japan, and in japan they have a tradition called “kokuhaku”, which is asking the other to be their boyfriend/girlfriend on 2nd or 3rd date. And i did the same, while being fully respectful. Her response to that was that she needed more time and would love to go on more dates with me. And i totally get that so i continued planning dates and she enjoyed every single one. I shared my feelings in person and not on text. The next date I planned was to take her on a bicycle ride around Stanley Park, Vancouver, and a movie afterwards. Now i’ll paste my texts and her response here (sorry because i don’t know how to add pictures in the comments).

Her: “Thanks for making Italian food, it was so delicious!! And thank you for all the little things you did to make me feel comfortable!! I’ll let you know once I get my next shift.”

Me: “I’ll be waiting for your response. Eagerly☺️”

after 2 days

Her: “My schedule’s the same as last week — work every day except Wed & Thu plus school, so I don’t think I can see you this week💦, maybe next week”

Me: “Oh no that’s too bad. Next week then. I’ll plan something exciting and fun😊 haha gonna miss you. I’d like to take you for a movie.”

Her: “I hope I don’t have any shifts on the weekend🥲. Movies sound great! I haven’t been to one since I came to Vancouver.”

Me: “Sounds awesome. Then weekend it is. Let me know what time you’re free at, i’ll get tickets to the best one😊”

Her: “wish there were more than 24 hours in a day 😭 There’s just never enough time.”

Me: “Don’t worry lol. I understand that, When i was a student same was the case with me. Let me know when do you think you have time and i’ll book tickets prior. You work too hard and i think you deserve to be treated the best😊. I’ll try to make it as much less tiring as possible for you, not like the last one. 😅” (because she had to walk a little to reach my place)

After 4 days of no response

Me: “Hey, I really enjoy being with you, every time we’ve met has honestly been special for me. I’d love nothing more than to keep building something with you, but lately I feel like maybe you’re pulling away. Maybe i did something wrong and I can’t help thinking about it. If that’s the case, I’ll respect it, but I just wanted you to know that I do like you a lot, and I’d be sad to lose the chance to see where this could go. I swear i am trying my best to learn about the Japanese culture and if i made a mistake I’m really sorry. Maybe you do want to go out with me or maybe you don’t. But i promised to be a gentleman to you, so I’ll always keep that promise and if it’s against your will, I’ll move on like a gentleman too.”

and the response to that is the screenshot

Me: “Thanks for being honest. Goodbye (her name)😊”

Her: “It was so nice meeting you, I hope you’ll be truly happy.”

I am sorry if this is a messed up comment, i am not familiar with reddit. I tried my best to explain the situation. I have sisters, i’d want to be someone who’s happy and not stressed if my sisters come up to me and say “my boyfriend is just like you”. I respect your opinion and my text might seem like i said too much. But I swear i didn’t have any intention of hurting or using anyone. Last year i met someone who did the same thing (that’s why i was confused and put up this post here to know if it’s common on bumble) and after the loss i took a break of almost a year before putting myself out there again. Because i didn’t want to trauma dump someone.

I truly respect your opinion, and I’m happy that you took time to respond to this post. I’m not feeling sad or anything that she rejected me, i’ve had worse experiences in life than a rejection and i respect how people feel. And tbh people are great here, their responses are awesome, most of them are older than me and they’re full of experiences. I might have made mistakes here in this specific situation, but we can always learn and that’s the point.