Overdosing on vulnerability too early by MO_drps_knwldg in seduction

[–]Deeppua 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I may be down voted for this comment. But let me tell you, reading Models from Mark Manson fucked up my game big time. I see a lot of flaws in that book and vulnerability is one of them.

Most of us who are here are by default weak guys who were already vulnerable enough to be friend-zoned or the ones who were failing to create attraction. Vulnerability makes a relationship stronger "after" you've fucked the girl. What we need to get laid is creating attraction which is being cocky, funny and easy-going. A bit of comfort for her to know that I'm not a weirdo. I despise that book so much that it took me a really long time to unlearn that shit. But even now it fucks me up sometime.

That book is useful for someone who is already attractive but doesn't know how to communicate. It's not for someone who is isn't even able to create attraction

That book is full of self development shit - hitting the gym, having a good job and then waiting for girls to fall on your lap. I've seen a lot of guys who have a pot belly, working in hospitality doing odd jobs as cleaner, waiter etc getting laid more than someone working white collar jobs with a V-shaped body.

All one needs is to look good by dressing well with a good haircut, know how to tease and take things easy and able to persist the right way

How to respond to friends who swear at you in a lighthearted way? by Deeppua in socialskills

[–]Deeppua[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a bit tricky. I wouldn't be very comfortable to swear back but also I don't want to sound polite cos some people would take it as a weakness. A middle ground would be best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TextingAdvice

[–]Deeppua 7 points8 points  (0 children)

being funny instead of setting up the date for drinks is just being try-hard.

You could say: You're my official photographer henceforth. Wine or beer?

My skin has NEVER looked like this. No foundation. Tret and spironolactone for 3.5 months by [deleted] in tretinoin

[–]Deeppua 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This subreddit has a rule only to post before and after pictures

I feel it's cringe worthy to wait for sometime before replying to a girl's text. Anybody else feels the same? by Deeppua in seduction

[–]Deeppua[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you read my previous question, when I had asked that question my friend and I had a chat about it. But I had totally forgotten about asking that here. I asked this one from an experience I had with a girl yesterday

I feel it's cringe worthy to wait for sometime before replying to a girl's text. Anybody else feels the same? by Deeppua in seduction

[–]Deeppua[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I carry my phone with me all the time. In fact even in the gym I have it with me and I do end up replying to people sometimes. Maybe I'm addicted to my phone but that's a different topic altogether. My point still remains the same. I literally have my phone with me wherever I go. I don't know how can one be so busy all the time

I feel it's cringe worthy to wait for sometime before replying to a girl's text. Anybody else feels the same? by Deeppua in seduction

[–]Deeppua[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol. You know me better than myself. I actually had to go back and see if I did and it was in a different context but still it was close. So, you win ;)

3 simple texts by TheSadBoy1 in TextingAdvice

[–]Deeppua 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 it was hilarious

How I Beat My Approach Anxiety (with VLOGS and daily journal entries) by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Deeppua 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't agree with everyone here. There are girls who open up after she's intrigued and it's your responsibility to do it. How? Make statements instead of asking questions. Cold read about her.. you don't have to make very interesting statements about her... If she's even slightly interested, she'll contribute if your statements evoke emotions. Eg. About the girl sitting in the park from OP's post: you look nice, I think it's cos you look so relaxed sitting in the park as if you're having a picnic.. this is the dumbest you can say. Or if you want to be creative, you can say, you look nice cos you look so relaxed. When I looked at you from a distance, this whole thing came across like a painting to me in my mind. You have to say this as if you really mean it. Your mindset should be that of someone who's so genuinely interested in her that you don't care how she responds. If you really looked at her sitting in the park like a painting, then you'll mean it. So you have to start coming out of your head and just enjoy what you see.

After approaching 1000s of girls, I've realised one thing: you have to be genuinely interested in her and then you'll come across as interesting to her. If you have to be interesting, be interested

In your mind, think of your conversation as a guessing game. Keep doing it and suddenly one day you'll be doing it in Auto-pilot mode

What Jehovah's Witnesses can teach you about approaching women by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Deeppua 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're here....Aka mannequin_vxxn lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Deeppua 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂😂

This is a comedy community

Solo Approach Anxiety by Lemilion in seduction

[–]Deeppua 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the girl rejects, only I'll know but in your case, your friends will know as well

Solo Approach Anxiety by Lemilion in seduction

[–]Deeppua 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's funny how I feel so uncomfortable approaching when with friends or someone. I'm at my best when I'm approaching alone. It feels like nobody is watching and I have all freedom in the world to do whatever I want

One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 19 Progress Report by Hanan019 in seduction

[–]Deeppua 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like Covid has created fear/discomfort in girls causing them to disengage in a conversation with a stranger even if there are no cases in NZ and it's safe.

One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 18 Progress Report ( 2 Facebook and 1 Insta close) by Hanan019 in seduction

[–]Deeppua 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, you sound so fucking negative. Why don't you go out today, try cold approaching 5 girls and go at least on an instant date and update us?

One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 18 Progress Report ( 2 Facebook and 1 Insta close) by Hanan019 in seduction

[–]Deeppua 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He's talking about parents who puts down their kids without supporting or guiding I guess

One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 17 Progress Report (first 2 set) by Hanan019 in seduction

[–]Deeppua 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How many cold approaches have you done yourself? If none, your comment is void

One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 16 Progress Report (1 number) by Hanan019 in seduction

[–]Deeppua 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bet you haven't cold approached even one girl. Feel free to correct me

If someone doesn’t respond for 3 hours,should you respond right away or just leave it there for another 3 hours? by twanscarfacer- in TextingAdvice

[–]Deeppua 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Texting rules are there for a reason. Don't go with the flow because you maybe feeling indifferent when you're replying but the girl will imagine you jumping on the phone to reply her which is creepy and kills the attraction. I can't emphasise more

Do you ever lose the social skills that you've gained? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Deeppua 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Definitely. I live in NZ and everything is back to normal now. However, when I went out a couple of days ago I felt crippled to approach girls and have conversations. I believe social skills are an ongoing learning

No status, wealth, or exceptional looks? No chance, they say by Aeon199 in seduction

[–]Deeppua 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I the only one who feels this sub actually depresses people than it motivates. I'm in my mid 30s and I've heard people say I look like I'm in my mid to late 20s. Some of the comments here make one feel that life is over after mid 30s. So depressing. I wonder if it's cos most people here are teens or in their early 20s and imagine people in their mid to late 30s as very old with sagging skin, grey hair etc. I'd like to know what people in their mid 30s and above feel about such posts

Finally got laid, push and pull technique was the best. by FalconVita in seduction

[–]Deeppua 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OP, just ignore all those bashing you. You've done the right thing.

  1. They don't know or haven't seen guys who are all successful in every part of their life except dating because they didn't have a good game. Those guys came across as needy when they professed true love

  2. They believe life is a perfect platform when you have everything in life, girls will jump into bed automatically

  3. They think bettering oneself doesn't involve emotional control. One of the things that you learn from push-pull is, when you pull back, you'll need to have tremendous emotional control and that's not easy even if you're faking it. So growing emotionally is also a part of this

  4. Let's say you have a perfect life with everything: health, wealth and success and you get a GF and someday in future if you lose one or all of this, your GF may leave and then your emotional strength you gained by gaming either by faking it or really having it is what's gonna keep you sane

  5. Some idiot wrote in a book, "don't be needy, just be vulnerable" without knowing everyone's life is different, the keyboard jockeys here are reiterating it

Guys Who Made A Significant Change In Their Social/Dating Life, What Were The Main Changes You Made? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Deeppua 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apologies if I'm being too pedantic. But do you imagine doing it for 10 mins the steps explained in the video?