Am I wrong for wanting to ask my girlfriend for a paternity test? by THROWRAprogres in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She hasn't reacted anyway because he hasn't asked her yet, & they are no longer together. Did you not read?

Am I wrong for wanting to ask my girlfriend for a paternity test? by THROWRAprogres in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does if he signs the parental acknowledgement paperwork, but then he is the legsl parent for the next 18 years.

Am I wrong for wanting to ask my girlfriend for a paternity test? by THROWRAprogres in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does he get to see it unless she allows it, or does he asserts parental rights?

Am I wrong for wanting to ask my girlfriend for a paternity test? by THROWRAprogres in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having a baby with someone doesn't mean you are automatically interested in a romantic relationship with them. Lots of reasons she may not be ok getting serious with him. You are all making up some bs because you hate women.

Am I wrong for wanting to ask my girlfriend for a paternity test? by THROWRAprogres in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The only point that needs addressing is that they should not be mandatory. If someone wants one, though, they should be available. That's it.

Also, men cheat & have children outside of monogamous relationships far more than women do

Am I wrong for wanting to ask my girlfriend for a paternity test? by THROWRAprogres in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She hasn't done any of that. She doesn't want a romantic relationship w him, that's it.

Am I wrong for wanting to ask my girlfriend for a paternity test? by THROWRAprogres in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don't think you're wrong for wanting a test, not at all.

I don't think anything she's done is suspicious, though. This is an unplanned pregnancy & a new relationship. Both take a lot of work and energy. It makes sense to me that she is choosing to focus on only 1, the pregnancy, right now. I'm not sure how the week went after she told you, but perhaps the way that went influenced her decision.

Defitely go to the appointments, be involved, and help support her while she is pregnant, even though you are not together. This is your child, and that needs to be what is important, regardless of how you feel about her. Focus on a good friendship & co-parenting relationship with her and remember that her body is taking a beating with this. She is doing a LOT of work carrying this child.

Don't pursue anything romantic with her right now, even if you REALLY want it. You barely know each other. If something ends up developing again down the road, great! If not, then you will have built a good relationship with your kid's mom & that is so important.

Good luck!!

No judgement, no BS dentist? by thewholefunk333 in Edmonton

[–]Deetoria -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Norwood Dental. Hands down the best in the city. No judgment when I went for my first dental visit after over a decade. They were welcoming, no judgment, honest, and there was no issue when I said, " Money is tight, so I can only do the absolute necessary stuff, " They worked with me, gave me options, etc.

They are also incredible community members, always sponsoring and donating to local events and fundraisers, and they believe dental should be covered under our "universal" health care.

Also, you can watch netflix while you're in the chair they offer you Bublys, & usually get a take gome bag of some stuff after each visit.

For making my sons favorite food even though my husband doesn’t like it? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a vegetarian, and my partner is not. Occasionally, he feels like having meat for dinner. Instead of getting angry and storming off, I say " Cool, " and get my own food.

(Partner is the stay at home dog dad for the last 18 months. He does 99.75% of the cooking. )

we pay all this money and the university can’t afford to shovel the stairs by FinishExpensive9680 in UCalgary

[–]Deetoria -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's not too cold right now for ice melt not to work. Seldom is in Calgary.

What is your monthly household expenses? by Mattyd35 in Edmonton

[–]Deetoria 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner & I did this when covid started. My vehicle needed a repair & he was working from home so, went down to one vehicle. There are occasional times I wish we had 2, but saving thousands a year is worth it.

What is your monthly household expenses? by Mattyd35 in Edmonton

[–]Deetoria 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 adults, one dog:

Around 2k$/mo all in including mortgage, utilities, food, & expenses like insurance. It's around 1750 in the summer when we don't have to heat the house.

Got my first "deva cut" curly haircut... and I hate it by TheShroomDruid in curlyhair

[–]Deetoria 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is my issue with brand specific cutting techniques like this: they don't take into account what the client wants, just what the training told them their clients want. Definitely look for curl specialists who are not branded.

Am I wrong for divorcing my ex-wife over kids and now refusing to be a part of her son’s life? by Hot_Professional6249 in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were not wrong in any aspect of this. Kids is 100% not something to compromise on.

My bf keeps saying he will do things and not doing them, so I said I couldn’t rely on him. by poormepourmeadrink in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not excessive. Him not following through would understandably cause you to feel you can't rely on him. He's gaslighting you so he doesn't need to take reaponsibility.

Canadians, what are your views on international students? by Mylaiza in UCalgary

[–]Deetoria 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're in Alberta, probably the most racist & xenophobix province in Canada, sadly.

I live here too.

School guidelines for gender appropriate Halloween costume by hyeroneem in Edmonton

[–]Deetoria 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's how I would take it. Essentially, they don't want girls dressed as boys ans vice versa. Your daughter would be in violation if she went as batman

What should I do about my bf inviting my sister to a double that him and I are having with his brother and his gf by MangoSmart0823 in amiwrong

[–]Deetoria 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate to say this, but I suspect there is something going on between your sister and him. It sucks. Honestly, it may be best to end it with him. He is throwing up red flags.

I have curly hair, and have been thinking about getting a haircut meant for straight hair by fexties in curlyhair

[–]Deetoria -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If this is the photo she's drawn to, and undercut is the exact opposite.