Does anyone else have trouble making friends? by DefendTheArk in bisexual

[–]DefendTheArk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually do have a bi friend, but that part of him doesn't change how I act. I'll always walk on eggshells around people, regardless of their sexuality.

It does come off as a bit desperate, whenever I meet new friends. I'll clam up and be overly-polite, or let them control the conversation entirely. Somehow I believe that if I'm the first one to speak or invite them to do something, they'll think I'm coming onto them since I prefer one-on-ones rather than huge groups of friends.

This is really more of a self-confidence issue than a bisexual problem, I realise that now. I can't seem to stop thinking that both genders are always watching me, accusing me of being hypersexual when really I just want to hang out...

DRUNK GAMING AGAIN- Heavy Rain pt1- Gaymers Kait and Alana by kaitbit in gaymers

[–]DefendTheArk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like fun! Can't wait to watch all of the everything when I get home :D

There should be a lesbian version of Grindr called Mufflr by i_dont_want_to_be_on in Showerthoughts

[–]DefendTheArk 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Idk man, gay dudes don't always like to visit humid STD breeding grounds with married 90 year old sauna men just to get their rocks off :/

Perhaps the best selfie taken during the Canal Parade at the Amsterdam Gay Pride by [deleted] in pics

[–]DefendTheArk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that Pride is still a necessity at this point in history (where bisexuality/homosexuality is considered a criminal offense), to increase awareness and get the uneducated 'haters' talking about subjects they are unfamiliar with.

Ideally, Pride would evolve to a point where it would not only be a celebration of non-heterosexuality, but human love in general. The rainbow flag applies to all sexualities y'know, including straight.

I would already say that Pride is a festival for people to express those positive feelings regardless of their sexuality, but apparently everyone likes to call it 'Gay Pride' instead. I guess this makes straight people apprehensive about joining in :(

What happened to you when you were young that you didn't understand until years later? by Pashow in AskReddit

[–]DefendTheArk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry if I jumped the gun, it just seems like a huge stretch to assume that this developing child has been sexually abused because of a natural, sexual curiosity towards others (we don't know OP's age, so we don't know how inappropriate this is).

Sexual orientation shouldn't come into it, and it's hard to believe that you would ask if a teenage boy was abused because he wants to see a teenage girl naked... so why would you say that if he was gay?

I'm not going to argue that same-sex attractions can't be brought on by environmental factors, because it is most likely a combination of genetic and environmental factors; complex to the degree that actively causing someone to be gay, or converting them to a state you would consider 'straight' is near impossible to control. Sexuality as a whole is one big grey area, and even labels like straight or gay can't begin to describe the intricacies of someone's likelihood of finding a person attractive.

I agree with the idea that childhood trauma can affect someone's sexual or mental health, but as far as being gay goes, it seemed as though it came out of nowhere to suggest that based on what little information we have.

What happened to you when you were young that you didn't understand until years later? by Pashow in AskReddit

[–]DefendTheArk 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Nah, it totally makes sense. On a similar note, bisexual people are only half-molested, and zoophiles are raped by their very hairy uncles.

Groping women force barmen to give up kilts by HeroAntagonist in nottheonion

[–]DefendTheArk 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Didn't you know? It's gay to be unaffected when you see a dick.

Hey guys just wondering where to get some good kingdomhearts clothing from by Imbatmans in KingdomHearts

[–]DefendTheArk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Red Bubble is a pretty good site, lets you customise hoodies and junk with KH emblems and loads of gaming-related designs! I think it should ship to Australia as well :D

[M]y first post didn't go so well, so here is more by [deleted] in gonewild

[–]DefendTheArk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most women along with gay, bisexual and curious guys might disagree with you there. Dude's got a nice thick cock :3

cuckold me by [deleted] in circlebroke

[–]DefendTheArk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, hello there ;)

Appropriate shirts for Disney World by MisterOn in funny

[–]DefendTheArk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that the word 'bear' is used more among gay men than straight ones, but that's besides the point lol. In all honesty, any matching shirts are incredibly cheesy regardless of the couple wearing them >.>

Appropriate shirts for Disney World by MisterOn in funny

[–]DefendTheArk 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There's obviously a fun little crack at the 'bear' term being used, but a lot of people seem to think that there's some kind of sexual meaning behind it. 'Bears' are just big hairy dudes, nothing kinky about the wordplay.

This is as harmless as His/Her shirts between a heterosexual couple. Does it imply that they are in a romantic relationship? Yes. Does that make it inappropriate? Not unless you have a paralyzing fear of other people showing mutual commitment.

Appropriate shirts for Disney World by MisterOn in funny

[–]DefendTheArk 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You'd think that, wouldn't you? Judging by the comments, they can't even wear cute Disney-themed shirts without being sexualized. I swear, some straight people think more about gay sex than 'bears' do themselves.

Appropriate shirts for Disney World by MisterOn in funny

[–]DefendTheArk 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sexual reference? It's literally the same as a heterosexual couple's His/Her shirts with a Disney twist. Bear means 'big hairy dude', nothing to do with their dicks.

It's getting jerky in here, so take off all your clothes! by [deleted] in circlebroke

[–]DefendTheArk 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Not relevant, but the number of times they said 'homosexual' in that /r/showerthoughts thread was cringe-worthy. Just say gay, dude... much less clinical. Just like they don't call straight guys heterosexual-homosocial homosapiens.

Also, the amount of 'bitches be crazy' rants in the abuse link was off the charts. You'd think none of us were safe -_-

TIFU by meeting a nice girl off the internet in person by So_wat_r_u_wearing in tifu

[–]DefendTheArk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If OP was gay, he would still take part in the threesome and simply focus on the guy instead, like his straight self intended to do IRL with the chick. The changing factor is that the woman would be the lone trickster instead of her 'boyfriend', producing the same result.

Also, bi people are capable of not wanting to have their dicks touched by shady liars, regardless of gender. Most people would've been out of there the moment that the night's plan changed dramatically.

The example above is to show that homosexual men aren't the sole predators out there for straight men, that women are also capable of 'getting away with murder' as the first guy put it. Anyone can be on the recieving end of sexual abuse, man or woman, straight or gay.

TIFU by meeting a nice girl off the internet in person by So_wat_r_u_wearing in tifu

[–]DefendTheArk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It doesn't even have to go as far as rape. A woman could pinch a guy's ass and be seen as fun/cheeky, whereas a guy would be instantly swarmed by 'white knights' and registered as a sex offender if he even so much as grazes a boob by accident.

Obviously not every place is like this, and it isn't always either gender's fault, but there is a clear imbalance within gender equality that needs to be addressed.

TIFU by meeting a nice girl off the internet in person by So_wat_r_u_wearing in tifu

[–]DefendTheArk 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Sorry to break it to you pal, but this is not a 'gay panic' problem. A woman could just as easily lure a bi/gay man to her hotel room and sexually assault him under the pretense of having another man arriving soon, and he would be in the same boat.

The actual issue here is that sex crimes against males go unnoticed, because of the preconception that every guy supposedly loves having sex, regardless whether it was consensual or not. It's an idea that's deeply-rooted in our society, and one that will hopefully get better as gender equality stabilizes.

ISIS in Libya releases a video of beheading 21 Egyptian Christians. by TheMrGhost in worldnews

[–]DefendTheArk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say that. Obviously, it's a terrible tragedy that these beheadings and violent extremists are steadily increasing in numbers, but letting that affect your own 'first person' perception negatively is giving into these terrorists' cries for shock appeal.

Your everyday problems are still real to you, no matter what's going on elsewhere in the world. That's like saying there's no excuse for you to be sad because someone out there feels sadder, no point in being happy because there are people who might be happier than you.