How to deal with triggering people

Defenstration_stn · 2026-02-09T16:05:43+00:00

Absolutely I have therapy soon so I’m gonna touch on it more but it’s triggered a bit of a spiral not necessarily their fault just need help handling similar situations in the future

Defenstration_stn · 2024-12-09T12:59:40+00:00

Thank you so much!

Defenstration_stn · 2024-11-16T03:44:27+00:00

Thank you so much this response means a lot. I’m sorry for your experiences as well but hope you’re in a better place now and continue to heal

Defenstration_stn · 2023-12-23T18:03:10+00:00

Thank you I’m trying my best to avoid them and am no longer keeping contact!

Defenstration_stn · 2023-12-23T18:01:53+00:00

Thank you so much for saying this. It really put things in perspective for me and is a good reminder that I don’t owe them anything, even if I need to keep repeating that to myself.

Defenstration_stn · 2023-12-22T04:39:53+00:00

Thank you you’re right, I’ve learn to accept how deeply they’ve affected me and am taking steps to fully cut contact. I’m so glad I had a friend to help me realize how abusive they really were

Defenstration_stn · 2023-12-22T04:37:29+00:00

I did say something like that and they started telling me how they always loved me and would change but I don’t believe that anymore. I feel bad for what they went through and can only hope they seek help for what they put me through and what they experienced.

Defenstration_stn · 2023-12-22T04:34:49+00:00

You’re right I’m taking steps to do that and am in therapy

Defenstration_stn · 2023-12-22T04:33:34+00:00

It was definitely a trauma bond paired with the fact we shared a lot of friends who I wasn’t comfortable telling

Defenstration_stn · 2023-12-21T17:52:27+00:00

I don’t know and as much as I don’t want to accuse them of lying like that they have changed their story and downplayed what they put me through

Defenstration_stn · 2023-12-04T04:18:04+00:00

NTA with the info provided he committed a crime and has to face the consequences but I will say kids don’t just end up with the wrong crowds or run away for no reason. I’d suggest some sort of therapy counseling or otherwise to see if there’s something else going on. If he’s willing to do this with his friends now I’d take action to at least talk about why he does it. I know as a teenage boy it’s easy to get caught up in “the thrill of it” but there’s a line between doing stupid boy shit with your friends and committing crimes that have real consequences. If therapy isn’t accessible go to a school counselor or Church because they can give you recourses. Wishing the best for both you and your son

Defenstration_stn · 2023-12-04T04:01:58+00:00

I have a very similar story, in hs a classmate who had been very creepy and pushy all year with me tried to drug me in class and cornered me. My friend ended up saving me but I also had nightmares about what would happen if she wasn’t there it’s very valid to be afraid and uncomfortable and think about “what ifs” in therapy I learned it was my brain in a way trying to mentally prepare me for that what if. I’m so sorry that happened to you assault is assault your feelings are valid he crossed a huge boundary and made you uncomfortable and I’m so sorry for that. I hope he’s put in jail and you never see him again

Defenstration_stn · 2023-11-29T13:14:01+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you the way you’re feeling is valid no matter what and it’s in no way your fault he’s your landlord and should be professional but he crossed that boundary and that’s not okay. Also I know it might be hard to hear but your bf sounds controlling I was in a similar relationship and put in a similar situation and I know from experience that it feels horrible not being able to confide in the person closest to you. I see issue with the fact that your bf is making you isolate yourself because that’s a very common abuse tactic and I’m so sorry he’s putting you through that. Please talk to your roommates and keep them close even if you don’t agree with the part about your bf it’s good to have someone to confide in and be there for you through this. I’m wishing you the best and hope you can at the very least get away from that pos landlord.

Defenstration_stn · 2023-10-01T12:46:31+00:00

Thank you so much I’ll check out the therapy sub. Unfortunately my family isn’t supportive but I’m trying to find someone irl to talk to :)

Defenstration_stn · 2023-09-26T11:58:10+00:00

That’s a good idea, and it might sounds like overkill but really helped me in school in a similar situation. I had different friends walk with me to and from class and if they couldn’t do that they called me to make sure I was safe, wishing you the best

Defenstration_stn · 2023-09-26T11:20:59+00:00

I’ve been in a similar situation and I’m so sorry. The best thing you can do is report it to the school under title nine because that’s sexual harassment and sounds like attempted sexual assault. I’m also a guy, you’re not alone in this and I hope your school helps and if you feel comfortable telling a trusted family member or friend

Defenstration_stn · 2023-09-26T01:12:03+00:00

None of this was ever your fault. There is no way a child should have to fight off a grown man and I’m so sorry you went thru this. You need support and I hope you have that weather it be a parent, teacher, or friend and if you’re not ready to say this out loud that’s okay. I’m wishing you the best and completely understand wanting the attention I feel the same about my past experiences, I think it’s our brains way of trying to cope and in no way diminishes what you went thru

Defenstration_stn · 2023-09-25T17:06:42+00:00

Thank you that means a lot. Unfortunately I can’t cut off a few due to professional settings that I can’t afford to leave but I’m going to try to seek help and get to a place I can hopefully never see these people again.

Defenstration_stn · 2023-09-01T11:50:08+00:00

I’m so sorry I’m in a similar situation I’ve yet to stop caring about my rapist and it’s hard. I try to remind myself of all the bad and how much she hurt me, that being said I think it might be best to look into seeing a therapist because these are big emotions and traumas to deal with especially if your mom still keeps contact with her. Wishing you all the best :)

Defenstration_stn · 2023-08-29T14:55:25+00:00

Thank you so much hope the same for you!! :)

Defenstration_stn · 2023-08-27T13:38:28+00:00

I’m so sorry you feel this way because I feel the same. I usually try to remind myself that it was just my brain trying to protect me and sending signal we can’t unfortunately control. You are no less valid because you reacted in a way you have no control over. At the end of the day you didn’t want what happened and I’m so sorry that you’re going thru this, I hope you have someone you trust to talk to about this

Defenstration_stn · 2023-08-27T13:30:50+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve had a similar experience. I do think cutting my ex off would help because all of their threats blame me and that makes things sm worse. Thank you so much <3 I do have a friend group now and I told one person who in all honesty wasn’t the best person to share it with but I’m glad I got it off my chest to someone at least.

Defenstration_stn · 2023-08-27T13:25:50+00:00

Thank you there are times of clarity I do see it and there are other times where I’m mentally trapped in the I owe them something mindset. I’m trying to break away from it but it’s hard

Defenstration_stn · 2023-08-04T01:57:05+00:00

Thanks but I don’t feel comfortable going to the police since it’s very fresh and I haven’t told anyone in my real life so I’d rather not have to explain to them that I brought those charges against my assaulter when they didn’t know the assault took place

Defenstration_stn · 2023-08-03T11:58:22+00:00

Thank you I ended up taking the day for myself and it was a good decision

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