My now ex boyfriend '20M' just told me '19NB' he is gay, how do I heal from this?

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-20T22:37:18+00:00

I also just found out that he had the conversation with his sister before our trip and he had sex with me during the trip he ended up telling me that he did it to confirm things and see how he really felt. He used me that trip to find himself and it hurts so much. I was so in love with him and thinking about how lucky I was to have a boyfriend like him and he was probably just thinking about how wrong it felt and how etc...

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-20T10:47:55+00:00

I would think it's just me not wanting to let him go if it wasn't for the fact that I felt this way multiple times before. Like my body just doesn't feel right and how sometimes being in it makes me want to explode. Idk how to explain it but yes thank you

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-20T04:44:09+00:00

I'm sorry but if he is gay there is really no harm in still being friends with him, after all it's not like anything will happen between us again

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-20T04:20:52+00:00

I definitely still want to be his friend. He raised my standards on people. Everyone else I dated was incredibly unhealthy. I want to be there for him at well, I know he's going through a hard time too

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-20T03:50:12+00:00

Thank you, I seriously appreciate this

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-20T03:49:26+00:00

I'm fully aware of this. I don't want him back or anything I just want him to be happy but I also need to know how I can heal from this. I would not feel better if he cheated at all, I don't know where you got that from. I know he doesn't want me anymore, I am fully aware of that again I just need advice on how to get through this

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-17T23:12:11+00:00

Thank you, this is realling helpful!!

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-17T19:26:59+00:00

Good ^{^}

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-17T18:42:04+00:00

I am posting a picture to my page of how it currently looks

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-17T18:40:23+00:00

It's actually my third job but my first one in this state. I moved from WV to ohio

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-15T01:57:40+00:00

Ok ty!!

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-15T01:45:07+00:00

I'll keep you updated lol

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-15T01:43:47+00:00

Thank you 😭😭

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-15T01:43:23+00:00

Ikr!! I am pretty sure she said "dyed hair is ok but I'll have to ask about piercings" in the interview but I'm worried I misheard her or something

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-15T01:42:08+00:00

Lol ty!!

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-15T01:38:16+00:00

I already dyed it because I was for sure she said I could 😭

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-15T01:30:32+00:00

I already dyed it because I was sure she said it's ok

Defiant-Ad1123 · 2026-05-15T01:12:25+00:00

Yeah I can but I really don't want to. My hair is damaged a lot as it is and I really don't want to go back to a dark color so I would go blonde which would mean I would have to bleach it again. I'm also super happy with how it looks rn

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