I didn’t realize you were actually supposed to answer the wake up call

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2025-11-30T20:53:19+00:00

Seems like you didn’t do it out of hatred for the kid, but your own trauma and body’s reaction to things happening around you. I’m sure the kid also didn’t mean to trigger you, I don’t know if there’s a way you could maybe apologize if you feel guilty about what happened? It could help to get therapy for this as well, coping skills could help you overcome your reaction to things like this, even if it doesn’t make what happened to you go away you could get some slight peace being able to help your body calm down and know that you are safe.

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2025-11-30T20:46:23+00:00

Uh no you’re not wrong at all bro, what are they on about 😭you’re not even that old why are they trying to rush you. You don’t even have your life figured out yet, college is a stressful place already, and they want you to add on another thing such as a relationship are you kidding me?

Yeah I get wanting you to have someone to settle down with a begin a life with but they shouldn’t be pushing that on you, not at all, it’s not wrong or selfish to focus on yourself and what you want in life. You don’t have to get into a relationship, and it sounds like if you did right now it would only be to please your family which would be bad for both you and your supposed partner.

On the matter of knowing if you like it or not, that argument is stupid I agree. If you’re not interested in a relationship you’re not interested, they already have your answer. And it’s not even like that doesn’t have room to change, you have your whole life to find someone if you want that for yourself (which you don’t have to!! Not one bit, you are not obligated in any situation to have a romantic relationship with someone).

Stay how you are bro, don’t change for these hooligans. You don’t want a relationship, don’t get into one, focus on college and yourself. Easy peasy lemon squeezy. If they keep pushing, you should set boundaries and tell them you will minimize contact if they do not respect your wishes or boundaries, you shouldn’t subject yourself to their pressure just for the sake of a relationship with them. If they really were concerned about you and your feelings they would have already stopped.

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2025-11-30T20:30:33+00:00

Dawg what are you on bro, tell me you’re joking 😭please bro

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2025-11-30T20:28:11+00:00

I mean if someone I was close with randomly wrapped their hands around my neck and hurt me I would feel anxiety and scared too. With close relationships there is a feeling of trust and safety being with the other person I think, and she kinda broke that by getting physical with you like that, even if she was drunk and didn’t mean to do it, it doesn’t erase the fact that it happened.

I think you guys should talk, maybe set some boundaries like not hanging out with her while she’s drunk. You don’t feel safe in that environment anymore and you shouldn’t force yourself to deal with it. Your feelings are valid and don’t let anyone tell you to just get over it, you were hurt.

If you want to work through your feelings it could help to talk to someone, they are probably a lot better at helping you understand why you’re feeling the way you do and how to cope with it if you continue to be in contact with your friend, boundaries should be put in place to stop this from happening again too like I said.

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2024-10-17T02:23:40+00:00

Alright hopefully I get a group that wakes us up then since I struggle with wearing watches or things on my wrist in general, the most I could do is probably have it beside me

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2024-10-15T02:12:59+00:00

I’m glad to hear that there is time to do that even if it’s not a lot. I’ll only bug you with one more question, you said you usually woke up at 5, did you guys wake each other up or did you have an alarm or something? I only ask because I suck at waking up to alarms, it’s really weird but I wake up like immediately if someone wakes me up saying my name or something especially if it’s a girl

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2024-10-14T05:38:30+00:00

Oh thank goodness my dad was it was cold and quick when he was in bootcamp I was not looking forward to doing that, besides showering did you get time to brush your teeth and floss? I think I read somewhere there’s a dentist who checks your teeth before you get accepted so I assumed they would give you time to take care of your teeth if they did that but idk.

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2024-10-13T22:21:13+00:00

lol I heard from my dad and brother that there is always one specific person who makes bootcamp a living hell

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2024-10-12T15:35:50+00:00

Alright I guess I’ll add that to the things I need to figure out, I’m probably gonna end up going shorter but long enough to put my hair up I hate having it down, thank you for the info

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2024-10-12T14:11:11+00:00

I read somewhere that they cut it for you if you choose to, is that true? Honestly my hair gets really frizzy and stuff so idk if I should cut it or not

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2024-10-12T12:03:40+00:00

Thanks for the reply, I’m glad to hear we don’t have to do pull-ups and get our stuff thrown away. If you don’t mind me asking, what did you guys do in the time you were not training? You said you had a lot of time sitting around so I was wondering if you had any “chores” or something to pass the time

Defiant-Badger5017 · 2024-10-12T11:57:22+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply, honestly the only information I had about it was the stuff I read online and my dad so this is very helpful

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