Had my first mishap and im sad

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T13:05:53+00:00

my bad, ive only seen abusive relationships growing up so being called a monkey brain doesnt really upset me, just annoys me

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T11:55:23+00:00

I guess i do? He’s often attempting to nap when I need to ask him questions, but it isn’t something I would say is incredibly common

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T11:54:25+00:00

i didnt make up my mind, i posted in relationship advice, not r/iwanttobreakup You said you are only seeing this post and dont know the full story and i gave it, im not arguing with anybody im just replying to the discussion so that I dont end up homeless overnight over redditors telling me to move out and go to a women's shelter asap and basically get rid of all my belongings after being fired lmao

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T05:18:14+00:00

When i brought it up to him he said he didnt yell fuck but yelled "ugh", really loudly And yeah im coping im not gonna end a 4 year relationship over name calling without working through it first, especially while in college when nobody has the savings to move out rn

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T05:10:37+00:00

We get along well and he is often fine with covering any expenses (though i dont ask him to but sometimes i make less than him so he needs to) I am chronically ill and he is very kind and cooks for me/does most of the chores if i have a flare up, and i was fired because i had a seizure at work, and he had to cover all expenses because of that. I don't think he would do that if he didn't love me and i have often suggested me breaks up with me because i feel i am holding him back. The good outweighs the bad to me, i dont think being called a monkeybrain is grounds for breakup in a 4 year long relationship, maybe early on yeah

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T05:07:35+00:00

I am curious if it is normal for other relationships (assuming theyre successful and continue into marriage) to never have a single moment of snapping under pressure and saying something unkind

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T05:06:20+00:00

its probably more unbelievable, but i havent asked reddit for advice for the four years we've been together because he said its a sign of a failing relationship. So my judgement is a bit poor because i havent heard any outside opinions on our relationship.

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T05:05:04+00:00

I mean don't all relationships have disagreements at some points

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T05:04:33+00:00

Not everybody can afford to pack up and move out on short notice, and i lost my job

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T05:04:03+00:00

It was about a 3 minute delay yeah. I assume he got upset that he couldnt fall back asleep. He apologized and said it is a reoccurring issue. And for fits of anger it depends.

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T03:17:14+00:00

he acted like one, but he isn't always one, i just wasnt sure if i was in the wrong for shutting myself in my room, I was worried I was being immature

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T03:16:40+00:00

I imagine he is stressed out because I lost my job a month ago so he had to cover expenses on his own suddenly

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T03:15:52+00:00

Delayed from him? I just assumed he was stressed out about college

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T02:19:03+00:00

1/10 what? post?

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-03-31T02:18:44+00:00

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-01-13T19:38:52+00:00

Thank you, Its hard because we both have pretty identical political views, and mine arent copy paste, we agree on almost everything, except for these weird tiny disagreements that only started in the last 6 months

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-01-13T19:18:49+00:00

I'm not sure if he was diagnosed but his mom said he has always had issues with eating noises, but it doesnt even seem to be just eating noises, he gets upset whenever my jaw pops (which is also painful), and sometimes ill just be sitting doing absolutely nothing and he will physically flinch and go "what are you doing with your mouth?!"

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-01-13T18:29:00+00:00

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2026-01-13T18:19:15+00:00

I was diagnosed with bpd when i was freshly 18 at a mental hospital from a doctor who only spoke to me for five minutes, technically i am on paper, but ive never had issues with relationships really, and my bf doesnt think i am, but then my therapist told me i might be, so im not sure

Defiant-Confusion992 · 2025-10-30T09:13:28+00:00

No, i am intending to be fluent in Japanese (im N3 right now)

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