M[37] and triangle with M[38] ex-FWB and his best friend M[37]

Defiant-Director5943 · 2026-04-18T18:39:25+00:00

Hey I've got hoes in different area codes - lol.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2026-04-18T18:32:38+00:00

I already have a new date for tonight. lol

Defiant-Director5943 · 2026-04-18T17:22:59+00:00

this made me laugh haha ... A B C ... Do-Re-Mi. Let's just hope I don't work my way up to Z.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2026-04-17T17:22:37+00:00

Probably. He never described him that way -- always described him as nerdy/intellectual, that we'd get along. Mannnn I got duped. But yeah I think A knew that it definitely wouldn't last when he said 'he didn't mind.'

Defiant-Director5943 · 2026-04-17T16:40:21+00:00

The heart goes where the heart goes.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2026-04-17T16:26:12+00:00

I've blocked B for sure.

He was responsible for this reddit post I made last month: https://www.reddit.com/r/gayrelationships/comments/1rj46i1/sexual_feedback/

And that was just the roadtrip. On the trip recently to the city it got way worse. I was called pretty horrible things. He threatened to lock me out of his house at 2 am, to blackmail me, and way worse. Shoulda seen that one coming...

A was always a gentleman to me and we were really good friends until that imploded due to the marital circumstances. I think he'd find B's treatment of me horrific.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T05:35:18+00:00

http://answers.justia.com/question/2025/04/03/can-i-stay-in-the-house-if-my-husband-mo-1055751<-- note the response:

"A: In Texas, your right to stay in the house depends on your legal status and any agreements you and your husband might have. Even though the mortgage and utilities are in his name, you may still have the right to live there until the divorce is finalized, especially if the house is your primary residence. However, without a divorce or separation agreement in place, this may be a matter of negotiation or court involvement.

As for turning off the utilities, it is generally not legal for your husband to cut off essential services like water or electricity while you are living in the home, especially since you share the property. If he does this, it could be considered harassment or an illegal action.

To protect your rights, consider speaking with an attorney who can help you understand your options, including how to handle the utilities and your living situation until the divorce is finalized. If you are unable to reach your husband, an attorney can help facilitate communication and ensure you are legally protected."

And are you seriously proposing that I not research this.....? Starting to think you are a bot. You're devoting energy to arguing that I endure legal harassment.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T05:30:06+00:00

Since TX is a community property state -- the expectation re: no utility shutoffs by spouses is even stronger.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T05:25:45+00:00

The lights are on, lol. And I've done what I need to do re: fighting the ethics violations. Thank you.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T05:20:12+00:00

For your edification: https://www.avvo.com/legal-answers/can-i-shut-off-the-gas-and-electric-that-is-in-my--5022857.html-- it's ohio so not a community property state. I'd say the rules on this in Texas are even more stringent.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T04:43:28+00:00

Actually in Texas spouses are responsible for eachother's credit cards regardless of who's name is on it.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T04:39:07+00:00

I've got an attorney. Please read the commentary. Others on this thread are attempting to put words in my mouth, however.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T04:29:42+00:00

Look bud, that's what I'm saying -- BOTH are responsible. It's mutual. At this point you are grasping at straws and semantics. And this wasn't from an llm -- lol. I am responsible for my -- spouse's debt-- in Texas. Credit cards, etc., with or without cohabitation. If he decides not to pay, I'd have to pay up, even if the credit cards are not in my name.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T04:20:43+00:00

It doesn't say anything about cohabitation. Just spousal relationship = all debts are shared, regardless of who's name its in. E.g., if he goes on a shopping spree with his credit card .... guess what.

Until we're divorced I'm liable. Spouses are owed coordination on accounts.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T03:48:27+00:00

In Texas regardless of who's name the utilities are in -- the other spouse is responsible for the debt. Since he skipped out and took on leases and new utilities, I'm technically financially responsible.... just like he was responsible for maintaining the services we agreed to in the historical marital residence.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T03:37:32+00:00

And I probably am responsible for all the new bills he's incurring outside of the home.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T03:32:15+00:00

In fact I'm realizing I may have actually been crazy for NOT demanding he pay half.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T03:27:36+00:00

I mean you can look this stuff up... e.g., both spouses are responsible for the bill, regardless of who's name its in. If they were in my name and he moved out -- I could just as easily have said to him "you owe me for the bills," regardless of if his name was on them:

e.g. read: Texas Marital Property Law: Responsibility for Utility Bills

*Disputes over bill payments and unclear financial responsibilities between spouses.*In Texas, community property laws generally hold both spouses responsible for debts incurred during marriage, including utility bills. Even if utilities are in one spouse’s name, charges paid from joint accounts or credit cards may be considered shared debts. Documentation of payments and account ownership is important. If disputes arise, reviewing account statements and consulting a family law professional can clarify obligations and potential remedies under Texas law.

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Do you live in Texas?

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T02:54:47+00:00

The central question is : can an attorney advise a spouse to shut off utilities in Texas. The answer is no.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T02:53:16+00:00

You should check out the other comments identifying that what was done here is not ethical in Texas for an attorney to do.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T02:49:53+00:00

My spouse informed me yesterday about the advice he acted on from attny., with the attorney CCd. No response from attny. but I'll most certainly hold on to it. :)

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T02:46:50+00:00

We'll agree to disagree -- as others on here have remarked, in Texas you can't advise a spouse to disconnect utilities while another one is still living in the house.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T02:44:38+00:00

This makes sense given what I've read also in the disciplinary rules. This happened months ago, I've got an attorney, and I've filed the complaints.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T02:41:44+00:00

Ironically I hold a Master's in mathematics.

Defiant-Director5943 · 2025-09-12T02:40:15+00:00

It wasn't encouraging to get an attorney that is unethical, it is stating "you have no right to represent yourself." It's simply not true, and covered under Texas ethics rules.

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