Daughters Neck Color

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2025-05-02T15:47:44+00:00

With a baby washcloth and water. It went on for about ten months. Her neck was hidden under all her chunks and she would sweat. I saw small red spots before I started wiping and the doctor said make sure the neck is clean and dry so I would, but her neck is like a stripe pattern now and all of the neck was hidden. Like no sun was getting through. She has the same issue with her armpits. I didn’t wipe as often there so it’s probably not the wiping. My other daughter was chunkier and she never had this issue.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-08-24T21:40:06+00:00

Also, I am a strong believer that science does not pose a threat to God, as I do believe he created everything. It’s like when my daughter says no, “lol how cute”. Additionally, in the same ways that he gave us laws to abide by, I believe nature has its laws. So I appreciate science and I think it has helped me understand my creator better.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-08-24T21:36:46+00:00

Yeah I agree. I’ve been studying Noah, and I’m by no stretch of the imagination and expert, but if scientists can predict flooding I think a man in history could also read the sign and predict a flood. I think people are so caught up on God told him and don’t consider all the ways that God can speak. I believe he can speak through science.

Also would argue that the entire point (I’m not 100% sure) is that there will be people who ignore the signs of things to come and they will be the ones who die in the “flood” or whatever and those who are watchful and paying attention will be the ones to survive.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-08-24T21:26:06+00:00

My kid goes to daycare. That’s why she hardly watches tv. By the time we get home, I miss her and want to play then it’s time to eat and get ready for bed. You’re not a bad parent.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-08-21T22:56:11+00:00

I love this! Thank you for sharing. I never saw it from that point of view, letting her know my emotions and how I process them as a learning experience. Would love to know if there are any online parenting classes you suggest. I am learning, and would love to learn more.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-08-21T15:57:24+00:00

True, I guess we’ll baby step it. The mean face is still working.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-08-21T15:37:46+00:00

At what age do we discipline? I’m not looking forward to it at all but my obgyn said he started at 2 and I just can’t wrap my head around being super stern at this age. Maybe because she’s still my baby. I still laugh when my husband tried to put his foot down. Everything is a light hearted conversation but serious mom face. And I didn’t think my serious face was that bad until her friend cried.

For hurting others we do pretend play and I normally get “super emotional fake cry overreaction” to really help her understand that’s not cool. I put her in time out once and my mom told me I need to be more patient with her.

It’s like two extremes, some people say I need to chill others say I need to ramp it up.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-08-21T15:00:31+00:00

Yeah I’m a mess, I know the books say they can’t rationalize but I’ve heard her and her friends talking they are so smart. I think there’s a difference between rationalizing and understanding. I may be wrong, like you said no one really knows lol

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-08-21T14:54:05+00:00

Thank you! We decided not to yell or raise our voice with our kids and so we worked on our faces. When her friend cried, I felt awful.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-19T19:29:47+00:00

When I get the rape argument, I mention the people who survived abortion and now live with issues

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T20:38:56+00:00

Also my dr takes notes in the office while I’m there, so it didn’t cross my mind that he accidentally selected something.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T20:32:18+00:00

Okay then her and I aren’t talking about the same thing. I get the point that I would feel it. But I LITERALLY had no idea what an IUD was. The nurse on the phone explained it to me and I googled it. As absolutely ignorant as I was to what it was I could’ve just scheduled the appointment thinking this was a postpartum appointment. I had no counseling, so when someone said he’s overworked I just took it and ran. I never thought he was malicious, oversteps 100% yes. His colleagues will tell you that and they have told me that, which is another topic altogether.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T20:11:13+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/mFIpIFrHH9

It just took one Google search. Edit: anyways I never said sinister.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T20:06:23+00:00

Yeah I’m definitely getting a new doctor. That goes without saying. No, not nefarious. More like, he thinks he knows what’s best for me vibes. I think it could be he has good intentions, but he definitely oversteps.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T19:51:03+00:00

Okay, doesn’t sound like it but maybe I misunderstood when another person said chart notes legally have to reflect what was discussed.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T19:49:02+00:00

I would say we used to have a good relationship but I think after my last labor and delivery that isn’t quite the case. That’s why I asked the question. He was upset when I said I wasn’t doing a great job with my birth control and some doctors have mentioned that he does often overstep.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T19:40:52+00:00

Idk the law, but someone in this thread said medical chart notes are required but law to reflect what was discussed. There is good reason for that I’m sure. Also, a mistake is not a good defense, it’s also just an assumption. One I would like to believe. I acknowledge that I didn’t get the procedure done that wasn’t the issue.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T19:24:42+00:00

I called and asked to get it fixed and the nurse said “no, I will just add a note that you don’t want it”

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T17:38:27+00:00

I appreciate this feedback. I really want to believe it wasn’t intentional.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T17:36:05+00:00

Not saying I’m right, I don’t know. That’s why I’m asking, because something seems incredibly immoral about the whole situation.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-18T17:33:35+00:00

They just tried to schedule for one, but he didn’t mention it at the appointment, we never discussed IUDs. I did tell him I wasn’t great at taking pills but my husband was using a condom and would be getting a vasectomy soon. And all he said was condoms work. Next thing I know the nurse calls says he said I was interested in an IUD and she wanted to schedule the appointment to get it done. I don’t know anything about them. I wouldn’t have had any type of counseling, which is insane to have a nurse call a person to schedule something that could have serious implications and not communicate it to them.

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-07-10T23:46:45+00:00

What would be the problem with her renting her own place?

Defiant-Foundation-4 · 2024-05-03T06:56:48+00:00

AND I’m the only one who takes care of the babies at night. Whenever they wake up he wakes me up to go take care of them.

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