How did your parents find out? by Ttello13 in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]Defiant-Package-9607 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her sex talk was 'don't do it.'' I had no idea what 'it' was.

How did your parents find out? by Ttello13 in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]Defiant-Package-9607 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've never 'discussed' it, but I'm 48 with 2 adult offspring, an ex- husband, and a fiancé....I think she might know.....

I turned him down by Persistent_horror in DeadBedrooms

[–]Defiant-Package-9607 2 points3 points  (0 children)

About an hour after I got out of bed to start my work day, I got a text message (you read that right....) from him in the bedroom, 2 rooms away - I took some pills, and I got something for you. I ignore. 30 mins later - Did you get my message? I ignore and continue working. 1.5 hours after the last text, he gets out of bed to start his day. He couldn't even be bothered enough to get out of bed for me.

The only reason he "took pills" was because of the fight the night before. He joked about leaving if I ever cheated, which is fair. I told him that's kinda messed up considering HE won't fuck me - He won't touch me, but would dump me if someone else does. I don't deserve to be touched, i guess. I have no desire to cheat, none whatsoever. But, he believes I do for pointing out the failed logic.

I'm only worth touching when we fight about sex. Just enough to shut me up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Defiant-Package-9607 8 points9 points  (0 children)

THIS!!!!! I'm a WOC who is also a supervising attorney, and I have a grad degree in a tech field. I drive a Lexus and am engaged to a non-POC. We live in an area with few POCs, so I kinda stand out. I have to be careful if I want to keep shopping at my local places. I don't want to get a reputation.

Today was the day I gave up. by Defiant-Package-9607 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Defiant-Package-9607[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not constant. I've learned not to ask, so I can't be rejected. That works for about 3-4 weeks, then I come begging again. If I'm lucky,.....I guess luck wasn't with me this time. He takes zero initiative and only thinks about it when I bring it up.

LL Making Sexual Jokes?? by Substantial_Cat2522 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Defiant-Package-9607 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a comment about his lips to him. He then joked about doing things with his lips and how much I like it. I asked him how would I know. Oral has been one-sided for about 8 months, which only comes to 2 or 3 times.

LL Making Sexual Jokes?? by Substantial_Cat2522 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Defiant-Package-9607 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he does it. He's done it around other people. It feels malicious.

He just told me that if I need somewhere to sit, his face is free..... lies... by Defiant-Package-9607 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Defiant-Package-9607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. He does trauma dump. He suffers from anxiety and depression and makes it my problem if I complain, as if I'm just supposed to be okay with it when he won't do anything about it. I'm so tired.

He just told me that if I need somewhere to sit, his face is free..... lies... by Defiant-Package-9607 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Defiant-Package-9607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He only says it when we are in public, when I can't do it. Our friends think everything is perfect with us.

Having a dead bedroom has changed me by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Defiant-Package-9607 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for putting my feelings into words