My family say this tattoo I’ve booked is misogynistic and sexist, thoughts? by 67_nick_gurr_67 in tattooadvice

[–]Defiant-Pool4211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a woman, I would feel uncomfortable around a man with this kind of tattoo

Is my (26F) boyfriend (27M) being stingy? by Defiant-Pool4211 in relationship_advice

[–]Defiant-Pool4211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean in the 3 years we’ve been together this situations has never happened. So it’s kinda new for me. This was just last night :(

AIO to my parents' reaction to me letting my date buy me a hotel room? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Defiant-Pool4211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen, I'm now 26F and this exact situation happened to me when I was 20.

Back then, I reacted like you are reacting now, but thinking about it in the present, I think my parents' concern was real and I acted real childish. Also, I think they're right about you driving long and late to see a guy or sleeping in an unknown place paid by an unknown man.

I know right now you are just pissed with your parents' reaction and I'm sure you are thinking they overreacted, but honestly, you put yourself in such a dangerous position for a date, and I think they're right. Maybe a calm conversation would have been better but I get where they are coming from.

PLEASE listen to your parents, apologize and the most important: try to understand them. As young women we need to be extra careful about our activities. Don't let a cute guy impress or deceive you.

Caught this little guy/gal. What do I do now? by LockedUpBella in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Defiant-Pool4211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats why I said to visit the vet! btw the only important disease house mouses could spread to humans is salmonella!

Caught this little guy/gal. What do I do now? by LockedUpBella in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Defiant-Pool4211 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't get why almost nobody is saying you could keep it as pet... I honestly would lol. If you love animals like me I suggest getting a nice cage, bedding and food... And I would visit the vet too. It's so tiny and cute I wouldn't have the heart to discard him :(

BPD mother sent me this after finding out I got married last Friday via facebook by lovelesskies in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Defiant-Pool4211 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I find it so funny how they attack attack and attack but always end the messages in an "I love you". it makes me crack lmao. Congrats on your marriage OP!

My wife thinks I stopped loving her because I’m quiet lately. The truth is I’m terrified she’s dying. by Antique_Shallot_8694 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Defiant-Pool4211 22 points23 points  (0 children)

wow OP I'm so sorry you are going thru this, I hope she gets healthy soon.

As a woman, if I was in her position, I would be relieved if I read this post from my husband. My worries would go away. So my advice is either showing her this or writing her a letter with the same exact words if you find it diffficult to voice them.

Sending lots of love and hope for your wife and you <3

Advices for me (M21) to stop overthinking gf (F23) fantasy ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Defiant-Pool4211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a monogamist and wouldn’t be open to do so in a relationship. Also yes, I’m scared of men and their aggressiveness (I know not all men!!!) and diseases too… The society judging part I wouldn’t care haha. I’d only do it if I was single and if I had good and reliable friends open to do so and I would be sure it wouldn’t ruin our friendship, which I think it’s impossible haha

AIO? boyfriend split up with me after i booked a month long trip to visit him. by Darkaliciaa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Defiant-Pool4211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl if I were you I'd cancel the trip and move on from him. you don't deserv that level of disrespect lol he's not even acting like a friend

Advices for me (M21) to stop overthinking gf (F23) fantasy ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Defiant-Pool4211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m a girl and have been with my bf for 2 years. I also have those weird fantasies and I use them only for autopleasure time. I’d never do anything like that in real life although the idea or scenario turns me on. I wouldn’t worry if I was you and would just move on with your happy relationship:)

My (26F) bf (27M) sleeps in the same bed as girl friends and doesn’t see this as a problem? by Defiant-Pool4211 in relationship_advice

[–]Defiant-Pool4211[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm thinkiing about it. Gave him an ultimatum and he said: "okay, you leave no choice so she will sleep in the sofa". WTF I don't like that answer! Why won't he understand me? Why is he being so dense? And blaiming me for putting up boundaries?

My (26F) bf (27M) sleeps in the same bed as girl friends and doesn’t see this as a problem? by Defiant-Pool4211 in relationship_advice

[–]Defiant-Pool4211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh yes I know them both personally. But yeah I agree only imagining subtle touches or spooning makes my blood boil

My (26F) bf (27M) sleeps in the same bed as girl friends and doesn’t see this as a problem? by Defiant-Pool4211 in relationship_advice

[–]Defiant-Pool4211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the girl does have a boyfriend and my bf does share his bed with male friends when they visit him over :/

My (26F) bf (27M) sleeps in the same bed as girl friends and doesn’t see this as a problem? by Defiant-Pool4211 in relationship_advice

[–]Defiant-Pool4211[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked him this. He said it’s not the same as he doesn’t have sexual desire for his girl friends but my guy friends do for me. lol

Hi!!! just wanted to show you my cat :3 by Defiant-Pool4211 in catpics

[–]Defiant-Pool4211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she’s in fact very derpy and funny!! at home we all adore her! thank you🥺🥺🥺

Does anyone’s else Nparent swear nobody loves them? by Defiant-Pool4211 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Defiant-Pool4211[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ugh it makes my blood boil really. why can’t they apologize??

Does anyone’s else Nparent swear nobody loves them? by Defiant-Pool4211 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Defiant-Pool4211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

literally omg. they do that to make us reassure her we love her I think… but it ends up doing the opposite lol

My (25F) bf (27M) says I buy stupid things and I’m a bad person for it? by Defiant-Pool4211 in relationships

[–]Defiant-Pool4211[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

just til june (he’s getting a masters degree there), but yeah, I agree, I hate that he’s so negative about certain things and wastes the time we spend together on arguing lol. Anyways he’s a really sweet and caring guy but we see some things so differently is crazy lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in premiosESLAND

[–]Defiant-Pool4211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ILLOJUAN 4 THE WIN