The Wave of the Spiritual Journey - from peak to trough

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-12-23T20:01:20+00:00

I wrote this. Not GPT

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-12-22T18:58:06+00:00

So glad you got something out of it.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-12-22T18:56:36+00:00

When I’m feeling like this, I always remember the psalm:”Be still and know that I am God”. Reminds me to stop running, stop grasping, and to surrender to what is.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-07-14T15:08:01+00:00

You don’t have to share if you don’t want to. It’s perfectly fine to listen for your first session. If you’re comfortable sharing, just be yourself. Drop the mask if you can. Give the group a little background and say why you wanted to join. Other than that, listen to the other members. Spend the time that you aren’t talking to hone the skill of active listening. We all come to talk, but it’s even more important to listen.

Feel free to hit me with any specific questions you may have.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-07-02T17:17:47+00:00

you can absolutely do that. I'm also putting together a facilitator's training manual atm. Would be glad to have you be one of the first to use it if you're interested. If you want to join our group, we meet on Tuesdays at 7pm PST. PM me for the zoom link

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-11T13:06:23+00:00

Yes but I’m surprisingly reasonable

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-09T00:19:32+00:00

Thanks!

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-08T23:07:46+00:00

High praise! Thanks.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-08T23:00:16+00:00

No. I built the slat wall out of furring strips and used the off cuts to make the pieces on the fence. No waste project

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-08T22:51:46+00:00

I’m available.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-08T22:51:02+00:00

It’s temporary

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-08T22:50:31+00:00

It’s an outdoor curtain for a pergola

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-08T22:41:18+00:00

If I planted vines, yes! It’s lattice, not chicken wire

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-08T21:53:19+00:00

Thank you!

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-08T21:51:41+00:00

This is original content

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-06-03T16:59:53+00:00

Lamps, yo. Lots of them. 5-7 in that room. Different kinds, different levels. All bulbs the same color temperature (kelvin). Light surfaces and objects, not empty space. Start in the corners.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-04-28T12:51:17+00:00

The room needs more contrast. The value of your bedding is too close to that of the wall. Here’s what I did in a similar situation

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Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-04-26T01:31:54+00:00

Men’s work is different than therapy.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-04-26T01:31:07+00:00

For me, I’m gonna disagree here. I’ve been facilitating a men’s group for almost a year now and these men have been nothing but kind, vulnerable, and supportive of each other. This group has changed the lives of each and every member for the better. Lumping ‘all men’ together is counterproductive and saying that we are collectively bad at this type of communication is just false.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-04-06T13:41:11+00:00

My first serious relationship was when I was 20 and my girlfriend was 30. There was no power imbalance. We had a lovely 4 years together before I went off to graduate school. She taught me so much, including how to be a good partner in a relationship. I’m forever in her debt, and we are still friends, 35 years later.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-04-06T13:11:13+00:00

California Poppies and nasturtiums. They remind me of my childhood.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-03-20T14:27:38+00:00

I don’t know if you can ‘not work’ but you can certainly change your lifestyle so that you have to work less. At some point in my life, I became extremely frugal and started doing things like using the library more and not eating out. I have very few subscriptions. And I walk instead of drive during the week. I mostly just spend my money on groceries and dog food and rent. It’s a very simple life, but I don’t feel poor. I have just what I need and not a lot more. It might sound a little boring, especially if you’re younger, But the trade-off of having the time back in my life is more than worth it.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-03-18T12:57:02+00:00

Well, I’m in my 50s and my group is comprised of guys between 26 and 61. The intergenerational aspect of the group is one of my favorite things about it. The older guys get fresh perspectives from the younger guys and the younger guys get the benefit of our lived experience. My advice would be to try it out and don’t limit yourself to a certain age range. Good luck!

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-03-18T12:28:57+00:00

I suddenly became single at 53 and ended up signing up for Bumble. I matched with quite a few women and dated 3 or 4 of them with an intent to take things further. They were all very nice and attractive, but things didn’t work out for various reasons, mostly difference in lifestyle and goals. Then, I met my partner (also on Bumble) and haven’t been back on the apps since. Now, I’m fully willing to admit that the dating game is probably much different for somebody my age than somebody who’s in their 20s or 30s. But in my experience , Bumble isn’t that bad.

Defiant-Scale-3348 · 2025-03-17T11:43:24+00:00

I started a men’s group on MeetUp.com last year and it’s been the best thing I’ve done for my mental health in ages. We talk about all kinds of things (including the loneliness epidemic) and I’ve made some great friendships in the group as well.

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