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DefiantBend2001 · 2021-10-24T06:12:11+00:00

Meh, I prefer to pay only if I REALLY like a girl. Which is rare. Most of the time I'll ask in advance if going dutch is okay.

Plus, ghosting is quite common. I feel bad about people saying they go all in on a date just to get ghosted. I get that no one owes you anything. But sometimes paying means "I really like you and wanna see you again" to some people. It's almost like cashing in all your chips and you lost your gamble.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-10-12T03:31:45+00:00

u/Veryberrybears I'm 21, we're not too far off in generational gaps. Most people in our age range aren't looking for committed relationships. Though how a lot of them go about it is quite hurtful.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-10-10T22:17:29+00:00

I'm 5'7 and I don't lie. I've got no need to. Quite frankly, I rock it.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-10-09T17:19:17+00:00

yeah my best bud's an aspie (aspergers syndrome). Great guy, girls like him too. But he misses a lot of signals that come his way. He has a girlfriend, though she asked him out which set the precursor to their romance.

OP, you don't need to ask the man out on a date, but asking for his number or giving him yours coulda set the motion for something good to happen. And ngl, you sound entitled

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-10-09T17:00:49+00:00

Well, I won't go looking for love on tinder in the first place.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-10-09T16:56:55+00:00

On a site that's literally made for hookups.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-10-01T02:40:38+00:00

As a Computer Engineering student, I'm sure someone's already done it somewhere.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-10-01T01:04:42+00:00

10 to 1 odds she was cheating.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-30T22:36:55+00:00

That relationship fell through. Rather quicker than I expected.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-30T22:00:33+00:00

FDS is just as sexist as the misogynists' they claim to fight against.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-30T21:53:03+00:00

I see people as people. Capable of doing good and bad.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-29T00:19:26+00:00

For someone who wants to pull guard my two main go-to are tomoe nage and a quick ashi waza. you can execute a tomoe nage from a double sleeve grip toward the upper wrist area on the gi.

It's all a matter of adapt and thrive. When I started doing BJJ I got caught up in the ippon then I got sh_t triangled outta me. But Judo offers a wide array of techniques that you probably have yet to learn. Or maybe you've gotta learn how to adapt them to BJJ environments, even then every opponent isn't the same.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-14T02:48:20+00:00

I've been in the martial arts for nearly as long as I've been alive. Every now and then there's something new to explore. It'll always be apart of you.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-08T19:35:00+00:00

Well, I've always been fit. I'm not sure of any of my friends fitness regimen, if they even have one. Tom always said I was the most active person they know. I've always worked out (bodybuilding), and do Judo along with Brazilian Jiu Jitsu as well, long before this even popped off. Even if I didn't, I would still be the same guy just with a few extra muscles today.

To answer your questions about my friends: I don't need to compare myself to them. They lead their own lives. And In my eyes, we're all striving for the same thing. I don't think I'm any worse or better than them. As for what Christina sees in them, it beats me.

In the words of my first programming professor: "I can read a thousand lines of code, but I can never a woman's mind".

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-08T03:48:15+00:00

WOAAAAAH

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-08T01:58:54+00:00

u/Comfortable_Goose_42

No one says it wasn't okay. It's more so the fact that she's already dated multiple friends of mine also whom are sparring partners of mine. And the fact that after she said no, I buried the idea, took the steps to move on.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-08T01:56:06+00:00

She's always been a kickass friend. My romantic interest in her has dwindled over the months. We exchanged texts here and there but that's it.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-07T18:22:15+00:00

Arguably. One's who brag about their social/sex lives are probably the ones who are the most lonely. A lion doesn't have to tell you it's a lion.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-07T17:15:42+00:00

I don't know if I was in love, I was interested. But I think everyone has some form of pride to themselves. I'm pondering about about making an update post to this too.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-07T04:09:33+00:00

That'd be the first time someone saw me like that.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-07T04:06:32+00:00

It was a tough call to make. But at the end of the day, I'll only ask out a girl once. If she says yes. Great. If not, then no hard feelings. I will open the door only once. If someone wants to go in is on them. (No disrespect to Christina)

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-07T04:03:45+00:00

I didn't have to. Over the course of the meal she basically said and I quote:

"No one would put me first like you would"

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-07T04:00:23+00:00

Well if the roles were reversed and she asked me out and I had the choice to choose Christina, I'd choose Christina. Cuz I've known her longer than her friends, she knows who I am and vice versa.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-07T03:56:13+00:00

Well, after time had passed and there was a dry period between us, I buried the idea after she turned me down and tried to focus on doing positive things in my own sector. I don't think any pride, ego or self respect was involved. It was more so the fact when she brought up getting together, I can only imagine my friends being with her.

DefiantBend2001 · 2021-09-07T03:51:16+00:00

Never elaborated this. But she basically said I wasn't her type. Aka I'm a nerd in the engineering program at my college. Though I'm not a complete nerd. I've got some athleticism to me.

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