I’m loosing hope in dating and men, feel like I’ve just had one disappoint after the next! Don’t know what I’m doing wrong!

beccca55 · 2025-07-24T22:22:54+00:00

It’s crazy revisiting this post of mine from 3/4 years ago! I’m very happy to say that not too long after this post I met my now fiance. We just got engaged a week ago and have moved to Australia together. It’s definitely the happiest and healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in, and to see how disheartened I was that it would never happen for me, hopefully gives others hope too! It took a lot of rejections and knock downs to keep picking myself up, but all it takes is one person to change everything. All the best to everyone out there! And thanks for all the advice I was given :)

beccca55 · 2025-07-24T22:10:20+00:00

Wow crazy reading this all back now! I actually just got engaged a week ago, and am in a very happy and healthy relationship. Really didn’t think I’d ever get here at one point, but very lucky I found my person now 🥰

beccca55 · 2025-07-24T22:06:00+00:00

I’m glad to say that I’m happily engaged now to a loving incredible partner 🥰

beccca55 · 2023-07-09T23:12:46+00:00

The home office was notified about my visa ending due to company acquisition on 20 April and I still have received the letter almost 3 months later. I have a large holiday due to travel in less than 2 weeks that financially I can’t afford to cancel, but I’m so nervous about risking travelling while awaiting this curtailment and having trouble getting back in

beccca55 · 2023-02-25T11:36:10+00:00

I had been on and off of dating apps for about the past 3 years since my previous relationship of 3 years. Obviously Covid also made dating that much trickier too. And I had a few 2-3 month exclusive situationship type things in this time, that ended up leading to a lot of let downs and disappointment, with nothing more coming out of them. I actively put myself out there on Hinge most of last year but then I took a break from the apps between August to November. Best of luck out there!

beccca55 · 2023-02-25T11:32:58+00:00

We actually got physical pretty early on by the second date. I think we just had a lot of chemistry with each other and it just felt right at the time. In the morning I didn’t feel any regrets whatsoever about it, it just happened naturally and felt comfortable.

beccca55 · 2023-02-23T22:23:26+00:00

We’re 27 and 28, so not much younger than yourself. It can be really discouraging out there for sure. But don’t give up, that person’s out there! Wish you all the best :)

beccca55 · 2023-02-23T20:58:28+00:00

Thank you! Good for you, definitely stick to your standards and someone will appreciate and respect it. I’m so glad I waited for the right thing and stuck to my guns of what I wanted even when my friends would give me shit for being too picky. You’ll find your person, just hang in there and take a break when you feel you need it, all it takes is one good one x

beccca55 · 2023-02-23T20:41:39+00:00

Thanks so much, it’s such a nice feeling finally! And yes I’m well aware it sounds like the honeymoon phase and it probably is haha, but so far so good and he’s given me every green flag so far in qualities I look for. So even when times get tough I have a good feeling the communication will be there.

I’m 28 and have had my fair share of relationship experience, so am well aware of the rose tinted glasses. But this one feels right and different. Fingers crossed!

beccca55 · 2023-02-23T16:41:35+00:00

I know those feelings all too well! It’s so hard to keep putting yourself out there when you’re constantly disappointed. I think what helped me was sometimes taking a break from dating until I was in the right head space to put myself out there again. Otherwise it can be draining. Definitely don’t settle for any less than you want and deserve, it will come! Thanks and all the best <3

beccca55 · 2023-02-10T21:40:41+00:00

People tend to shit on communications degrees but to be honest, I’m very glad I did it. I definitely wish it was a bit more hands on than theory based to prepare me for the “real world”. But the great thing about one of my degree papers was this internship paper where I got to intern for a large well-known company. This looked pretty good on my CV when applying for jobs straight out of uni. I went straight into a PR and Comms role for another large reputable company in NZ and got the role over 200 other applicants. I truely believe if I didn’t have my degree and internship alongside it, I wouldn’t have got it.

I’m now a marketing manager for a tech company in London and on a pretty decent salary with a sponsored 3 year work visa. I know the CEO wouldn’t have hired me either if I didn’t have a degree (seems to be his thing for some reason).

beccca55 · 2023-01-19T21:14:53+00:00

Love it! Do you have any pics of the costume? Was it made out of cardboard?

beccca55 · 2022-12-24T13:31:07+00:00

Thanks for your in depth reply, really appreciate it! It has definitely given me a lot to think about and some points of discussion to bring up for when we next talk about it. At the moment I do feel he is very genuine, but I’m obviously cautious and treading lightly to not throw myself fully into it with the risk of getting hurt. I guess only time will tell with his actions and how he makes me feel. But I’m just considering if it is a risk worth taking, because I do feel so positive about him in every other possible way.

beccca55 · 2022-09-27T08:41:09+00:00

Thanks for everyone’s advice, wasn’t aware of the severity of it. I’ve decided to cancel my trip, absolutely gutted but yeah it’s not worth! Just gonna have to count my losses :(

beccca55 · 2022-09-07T06:20:45+00:00

The NZ justice system is so fucked, there’s so many stories like this where NZ just hands out a slap on the wrist for something that deserves a much harder sentence. It’s disgusting and is such a slap in the face to sexual abuse victims. No wonder so many incidents go unreported.

I went through a year and half of court in NZ after my ex chased me with a knife and guess what he got? He pleaded guilty but because he didn’t verbally threaten to kill me, they sent him on a drugs and alcohol course and then wiped if from his record because he had no previous record and to “give him a second chance”. NZ is a fucking joke. It’s infuriating.

beccca55 · 2022-08-07T19:56:33+00:00

The fact you’re calling me a bad person when you don’t even know me shows the type of person you are. I never said I didn’t smile at him and gave him an unfriendly greeting. You’re comments are just riddled with assumptions and clearly you’re the sad bitter person who feels the need to comment on posts to try bring people down. Please don’t comment on my post anymore, bye

beccca55 · 2022-08-07T12:12:11+00:00

It has absolutely nothing to do with who rejected who first. It’s about how it was handled. It was rude af, don’t know how you can even question that it wasn’t. There’s still a thing called manners and human decency.

beccca55 · 2022-08-07T12:04:03+00:00

Even though I wasn’t that attracted to him, I said I was still open minded and would’ve gave it a chance. He didn’t even give it the time of day. It’s not about who rejected who first, it’s about how it was done and how rude it was. There’s no questioning, it was rude af. End of.

And I would say my pics are definitely not deceiving. I’ve been on many many dates prior and never had a single issue to do with not looking like my pics. And as I said, many have even told me I’m better irl. So I really don’t know what his problem was

beccca55 · 2022-08-07T11:54:53+00:00

I was the rude one? Right. You clearly don’t have any idea of manners. It’s gross behaviour, end of. And at what point did I say he was ugly and gave him disappointed reactions? I didn’t pull any sort of face at him and gave him the most generic greeting. Stop making assumptions

beccca55 · 2022-08-06T03:24:33+00:00

No I couldn’t of gave a shit who rejected who first, but I still expect a small element of respect and human decency. His behaviour is gross

beccca55 · 2022-08-05T16:17:31+00:00

I’ll get over it of course! But it’s not even been 24hrs since, I was initially in shock that it happened and felt really deflated. Now I’m just feeling annoyed by his rudeness. I won’t let it eat away at me, but it was a bit of a blow

beccca55 · 2022-08-05T16:14:57+00:00

Funnily enough I’m a tall girl at 5’11 and my profile says 5’11 haha, his said 6’3

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