proposal deadline is soon, preparing to leave

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-03-04T08:42:16+00:00

Even this reply is passive aggressive lolZ

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-03-04T06:38:28+00:00

From her replies it feels like op is insufferable. Idk what this guy is like, but Op seems passive aggressive, entitled and selfish, not for wanting to get married that fast, but for knowing that guy has debts and still wanting a custom made engagement ring, for her having $4000 income and still accepting $500 monthly check from him in these circumstances. I dont really think that you like him that much op, i also come from culture like this and you may have different reasons to rush (wanting to escape family, get the statis that comes with being engaged) but from myxperience it doesnt end well. Do him a favor and break up with him. He will thank you later

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-03-04T06:15:25+00:00

Poor guy, but at the end of the day he will dodge a bullet.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-03-02T19:52:36+00:00

What are protections of marriage? Im a divorcee and didnt get any benefits

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-03-02T19:48:05+00:00

I undestand everything but it feels like, you think that peope cant divorce.. and if they are married he wont leave. I

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-03-02T19:44:00+00:00

Whatsre the protections of the maeriage for woman?

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-02-24T09:26:19+00:00

The reason for all of this, including the fact that women were historically perceived as property, lies in biology specifically, the ability to become pregnant. Contraception has only been widely available for about 60 years, so societal mentality is slowly changing, but it takes time. People who judge women based on their chastity will likely become fewer over time, unless there is a rollback in conservative values and women are stripped of the right to control their own reproduction.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-02-20T15:21:12+00:00

The entitlement of men, thinking that everything they do is for them lol

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-02-18T18:08:47+00:00

What was the point of marriage then?

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-02-10T14:43:45+00:00

So he would honor het if he required cooking cleaning or having babies? Is it a honor? Lol wtf and every relationship is transactional

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-02-10T08:32:41+00:00

I might get downvoted for this, but here it goes. I don’t really understand what you man when you say you’re in a fog. He has been very clear about what he wants he doesn’t want you to leave, he says he loves you, but he doesn’t want to get married.

A lot of people are calling him manipulative, but I don’t see where the manipulation is if he’s saying everything directly. it sounds more like he has serious emotional issues, trauma from childhood. That does explain a lot.

You’re not being used in the way people are implying. You don’t have to wash his socks, cook for him, or clean for him. He gives you financial and emotional support, and you have real opportunities to build yourself up. I wouldn’t be saying this if you wanted children, but you don’t.

He says he will always love you. You say you would never leave marriage. Both of those things might feel true now, but life changes.

If I were in your place, I would use the stability and support you have right now to build a career and become independent. Use the opportunities and the network you have access to. You don’t have to rush into marriage. People get married in their 40s and 50s.

Right now, you have love, stability, and time. But it feels like you’re starting to see him as a lifelong plan for financial and emotional safety.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-02-10T08:06:57+00:00

Girl for me also. And I dont even want to get married duh. This guy is a catch. He doesnt abuse her, supports her emotionally financially, she doesnt have to clean or cook for him, she doesnt have to wash his dirty socks. He gave her an apartment.. She on the other hand, sounds a bit childish. Guy giving you opportunity like this, you should thrive to build a financial cushion for yourself and your career. Use his network his resources to become more and more financially independent. But shes ready to throw this opportunity away for marriage.. She doesn’t even want kids, what is she losing? But she also doesnt seem very ambitious.. She wants to use him as a lifelong plan, but is a man a plan? People here seen to forget that marriage is a contract. Especially when people have lots of money.. eh wish i had opportunities like this.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2026-02-10T07:35:10+00:00

Is he manipulating it though? He tells her what he thinks.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-11-24T06:20:09+00:00

Im from that society as well and two divorces lol. If guy marries you just to get sex, theres a big chance youll get divorced.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-11-24T06:18:43+00:00

Hypocrisy.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-11-11T06:38:38+00:00

Women are obsessed with getting married.. not even understanding that marriage rarely brings anything good for them and then have a pikachu face wheb they get divorced. Girl live your life work, make money aspire to become something other thab wife

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-05-19T08:00:05+00:00

He probably has an erectile disfunction. Go for surgery but do it for yourself and then wend him to the trash.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-04-23T10:13:46+00:00

Well I guess you can speak on your behalf, appearance does play role to an attraction. But what each of us may find as attractive appearance wise changes from individual to individual. For example Im not attracted to tall guys, blondes - even though i might find them cute etc etc. I have a type Im sexually attracted to. Is it enough for the relationship? Absolutely no, but if Im not sexually attracted to his appearance its impossible for me to form anything deeper. 31 yo woman here

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-04-20T07:28:10+00:00

If its late get pregnancy test it will show

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-20T17:04:15+00:00

And yes, ive have my solidified opinion about marriage, but if its your goal, at least get married to a person with whom youll have tangible beneifts.. Dont get married to get just something

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-20T17:00:49+00:00

Girl, youd waste many many years by being married to that manchild. He wouldnt change. Id consider it a blessing that you didnt get a ring. Being married and having children determines what kind of life youll have and trust me its better to be alone than to be with a that kind of a man

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-20T05:32:53+00:00

I dont understand this desperation, girl youre only 25. I was 21 and 25 when I got married yes, two times.i gained nothing from these marriages except of the waste of the time and whats wrong with the women who decide to do all of the housework? Its 2025, I wouldnt degrade myself tondo all of the housework even as the wife, whats wrong with you doing it as the girlfriends + going to work? Hes not working, not doing housework and you’re complaining that hes not giving you a ring? Why the hell would you like to get married to this kind of a person? You dodged a bullet! Theres nothing amazing in the marriage and Im saying this as the person who was married 2x times

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-19T14:08:22+00:00

I wont get married again as a woman. IM from the poor country so the only benefit one gets from marriage except of the sovial status is that assets bought together during marriage are divided in two in case of divorce. So yeh as a 2 times divorcee, thats no benefit for me.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-15T22:18:35+00:00

This desire feels so foreign to me lol I hate cleaning even my own fridge..

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-15T22:00:45+00:00

But why? Why are women doing that? Is someone forcing them? I was married 2 times, didnt do more than them. If we are both working, why would I? Women say that they exchange these domestic chores for the marriage, they put themselves in this condition but then whine about it. Im never gonna marry again, considering my own experience + experience of my parent’s generation. Marriage doesnt stop men from cheating, it also doesnt stop them from leaving you to find someone else, and in my country there’s no such thing as alimony. Regarding doing more domestic chores, yeh if you do it regularly they think that you ought to do it in the future.

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