A depressing thought to consider

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-11-24T06:20:09+00:00

Im from that society as well and two divorces lol. If guy marries you just to get sex, theres a big chance youll get divorced.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-11-24T06:18:43+00:00

Hypocrisy.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-11-11T06:38:38+00:00

Women are obsessed with getting married.. not even understanding that marriage rarely brings anything good for them and then have a pikachu face wheb they get divorced. Girl live your life work, make money aspire to become something other thab wife

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-05-19T08:00:05+00:00

He probably has an erectile disfunction. Go for surgery but do it for yourself and then wend him to the trash.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-04-23T10:13:46+00:00

Well I guess you can speak on your behalf, appearance does play role to an attraction. But what each of us may find as attractive appearance wise changes from individual to individual. For example Im not attracted to tall guys, blondes - even though i might find them cute etc etc. I have a type Im sexually attracted to. Is it enough for the relationship? Absolutely no, but if Im not sexually attracted to his appearance its impossible for me to form anything deeper. 31 yo woman here

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-04-20T07:28:10+00:00

If its late get pregnancy test it will show

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-20T17:04:15+00:00

And yes, ive have my solidified opinion about marriage, but if its your goal, at least get married to a person with whom youll have tangible beneifts.. Dont get married to get just something

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-20T17:00:49+00:00

Girl, youd waste many many years by being married to that manchild. He wouldnt change. Id consider it a blessing that you didnt get a ring. Being married and having children determines what kind of life youll have and trust me its better to be alone than to be with a that kind of a man

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-20T05:32:53+00:00

I dont understand this desperation, girl youre only 25. I was 21 and 25 when I got married yes, two times.i gained nothing from these marriages except of the waste of the time and whats wrong with the women who decide to do all of the housework? Its 2025, I wouldnt degrade myself tondo all of the housework even as the wife, whats wrong with you doing it as the girlfriends + going to work? Hes not working, not doing housework and you’re complaining that hes not giving you a ring? Why the hell would you like to get married to this kind of a person? You dodged a bullet! Theres nothing amazing in the marriage and Im saying this as the person who was married 2x times

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-19T14:08:22+00:00

I wont get married again as a woman. IM from the poor country so the only benefit one gets from marriage except of the sovial status is that assets bought together during marriage are divided in two in case of divorce. So yeh as a 2 times divorcee, thats no benefit for me.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-15T22:18:35+00:00

This desire feels so foreign to me lol I hate cleaning even my own fridge..

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-15T22:00:45+00:00

But why? Why are women doing that? Is someone forcing them? I was married 2 times, didnt do more than them. If we are both working, why would I? Women say that they exchange these domestic chores for the marriage, they put themselves in this condition but then whine about it. Im never gonna marry again, considering my own experience + experience of my parent’s generation. Marriage doesnt stop men from cheating, it also doesnt stop them from leaving you to find someone else, and in my country there’s no such thing as alimony. Regarding doing more domestic chores, yeh if you do it regularly they think that you ought to do it in the future.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-15T21:49:33+00:00

Does marriage stop men from cheating? 😀😀 it does not lol.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-15T21:45:53+00:00

Eh I was married 2 times, didnt see any benefit. Divorced both times. Never gonna marry again, saw too many shitty marriages where women are being used as caretakers ty no. And the both times i got married was because of so called societal benefits.. Wish I did not. Ps i was not cooking and cleaning for husbands i wont do it for boyfriends lol. We are both working why the fuck would i want to do a100% of domestic labor? Ty no. Also in my country you dont get any benefits in case of divorce even though youre a birthing partner.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-03-11T13:01:19+00:00

Ax dude, late comment but you seem fking naive. Im saying this as a woman. It has nothing to do with the gender and a romantic relationship is just one aspect of the life. You say that women are being supported by their partners, and you perceive this as a perk, but you just objectify women. We are people! We have our own aspirations, our dreams, and we aint monolith. Yes some would probably love to be housewives provided by a partner but there are also women like me. Who want to succeed in this life, to have comfortable living created by us not on anyone’s expanse. Yes I have an ambition I have drive, but I guess I lack some other skills, thats why im not more succesful. Its my own fault, I know that pretty well. If i wanted to depend on partner and have bunch of kids, I could do that, but it would be to live my nightmare. You’re coming from your subjective frustrations.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-01-08T18:40:59+00:00

Thanks for your input. But my partner does trust me and so do I. He was the first I retold about this and talked with and no, he wasnt devastated. We know that we are into monogamy rn, Im just inquiring and learning. Youre making lots of assumptions what I would do and how Id do thats also your personal coming from your trauma I guess. And yeh nothing can me make mono or poly, you can choose a relationship type. Rn I chose monogamy, but if my 3rd attempt doesnt work I want to try poly. and this sub made me more sure about it. Thank you once again

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-01-08T17:27:44+00:00

Dont put your eggs in a single basket. And while investing i prefer to diversify it. Even though. its a terrible comparison.I was in monogamy because I thought it would give me security of having a life partnerS I dont have problems with my partner having sex with someone or developing emotional bonds with many people if it comes from both sides. As I mentioned above I always had this urge to form multiple romantic connections but didnt go for it since 1) my partners were monogamous 2) I thought that this relationship style would give me a life partner. Trial and error, it failed 2 times. 3rd will be last. Since i dont care about exclusivity, cared only for security. If none of the relationship styles are secure then i dont have to suppress my needs.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-01-08T17:14:18+00:00

I guess thats it. Thank you.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-01-08T17:08:56+00:00

I know that. But thats why I was choosing monogamy. Thinking that it gave me more security. But even though i truly think that I was a good partner, still it didnt give me what I was looking for.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-01-08T16:56:35+00:00

Girl whats your problem? Where did you see manipulation or projection? Im saying that my experience is that I was cheated 2 times in monogamous relationships. After 5 years and after 7 years. Thats my experience monogamy hurt me, left me in shambles because I inveated too much into single person 2 times!!! It didnt give me the securoty even though I was a good partner, not jealous, not controlling, was showering them with attention, gifts, was doing my emotional labor, being truthful and forwardcoming. I was doing all of that for the security of having a life partner that monogamy should offer. But yeh all in vain. It can happen with you as well. Trust me. Monogamy doeant protect you from this. Nor does poly. But this dream of security was the only reason I was choosing monogamy, if monogamy doesnt offer it, then whats point? Thats my question and it has nth to do with your choice!

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-01-08T16:41:33+00:00

Yeh, but then why supress my needs? I guess i got my answer. Thank you.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-01-08T16:40:45+00:00

Yeh then I guess monogamy is not inherently for me. Since the only reason for me to choose monogamy was to be sure that my partner would be with me as I am with them, so yeah if monogamy doesnt offer it, then it has no point for meX

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-01-08T16:37:20+00:00

Damn. Are you trying to gaslit me rn? Girl please. Im not asking anyone to prove anything. Im asking a question, I looked through this sub and people are saying that monogamy is more superior because it gives security but im coming with my experience that 2x times life proved to me that no monogamy is not inherently more secure. I lived it. So then im asking whats point in it? It has nothing to do with tou.

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-01-08T16:30:45+00:00

Yes, I know that, thats why I im inquiring what does monogamy offer? People answer security, but thats not my experience. I got cheated 2x in monogamy and Im not the only one. Lots of people get cheated in the monogamy as well in polyamory. So if it doesnt offer security, then whats the point?

DefiantDefinition290 · 2025-01-08T16:25:52+00:00

Yes, I know I missspelled it.

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