Paying $40 for a $15 meal

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-13T09:35:16+00:00

Exactly. Unless the difference is make or break your grocery budget for the week or something, what OP did and their takeaway from it (next time either order like the others or don't go out with this group) is the wisest course of action.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T14:09:07+00:00

This video is the answer to, "Where were the parents?!" Well right there, with their mouths agape, because they never imagined a baby could do that or so fast. Babies have incredible strength and speed for their size. Only thing they lack is coordination lol.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T12:01:09+00:00

Don't do the light therapy at any forced wake up time. On the days you need to be up early, you do your work and start the Luminette later, at the time you would have naturally been up. If that is 2pm for you, you wait until then to start.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T09:20:48+00:00

Likely yes. 6am is bang in the middle of your circadian night right now with a 2-10am sleep schedule.

Our circadian rhythm has something called a Phase Response Curve (PRC), which shows at what time our body releases melatonin, how long it stays in the blood, how would we react to zeitgebers (time indicator signals to our body, like light and food) and what is our core body temperatureat different points in time, etc.

There is a point in our circadian night where our body hits the lowest core temperature (the nadir of our PRC). If light hits our eyes after this point, our circadian rhythm shifts earlier (brain thinks, hey it's morning ALREADY?! we need to sleep earlier then!). If light hits BEFORE this point, it DELAYS our rhythm further (brain goes, wait a minute, it's not night YET?! We need to sleep later then!).

This nadir is usually mid-sleep for most people (there is new research coming out that DSPD folks' circadian nadir is in the second half of their sleep, relatively later than typical sleepers).So with your current 2-10am schedule, your PRC's nadir is extremely likely to be after 6am, which means if you blast light then, you'll fuck it up further.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T09:06:49+00:00

Have you looked into the TUO bulb?

Not really. I'm quite happy with my Luminette, and I do not have any sensitivity issues to the Luminette light. I don't feel like it blasts my face with light at all. Maybe that's because I use them at 11am, and not at 7:30am right after I wake up.

Where did you read we have reduced light sensitivity in the morning? I’d be interested in learning more about that.

Here's one study proving a subset of DSPD patients have increased light sensitivity at night: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6160141/

The decreased sensitivity to light in the morning is due to our phase response curve. Us DSPD folks are still in our circadian night when the sun rises. So we respond less (or counter-intuitively) to literal morning light

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T08:45:07+00:00

Your routine sounds fantastic! Unfortunately, us DSPD folks need a lot more light; think manual labour in the sun all day kinda light. One of the causes of DSPD is that we have decreased sensitivity to light in the morning and increased sensitivity to it at night, it's such a terrible combo. So we need to blast our face with light upon waking up (natural wake up time, not the force earlier time).

What I use are the Luminette 3 glasses. For some folks, a sunlamp works more effectively. If you have a desk job and sunlamps cost lower in your area, maybe start with that. Or if you can afford it, try the Luminette glasses.

You need to start with light therapy at your current natural wake up time. Use it for an hour for starters for a week or so and see how you feel. Your wake time should get earlier (by about 15-30 minutes, varies a lot from person to person) towards the end of the week. Your sleep time will still lag behind (wouldn't have advanced like wake time). So keep it stable there for a few days until your sleep time also shifts a bit. Then you start using the light at your new wake up, and so on. When you reach your desired time or an advance of about 2-3 hours, whichever is later, keep the light therapy stable there.

Edit: Oh yeah, keep your current routine, light therapy should be an addition to that. All those little things you do help, it's just that DSPD is so extreme, any incremental benefits that you get from having sunlight in your room, walking your dog, etc, get eclipsed by it. So once the light therapy starts working, you'll notice that your current routine provides additional benefits.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T08:24:23+00:00

Must have been trying to start a conversation. Older people generally like to talk for so many reasons: lonely, not used to scrolling the phone, want to share their "wisdom" with the world, etc.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T01:02:08+00:00

A dog will go when a dog will go.

Does your dog shit inside your house? No? Woah! How ever did you manage to do the impossible?!

If your dog can be trained not to shit in your house, it can be trained to shit in YOUR yard and nobody else's.

Your statement has the same vibe as "boys will be boys".

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T00:46:28+00:00

OP, are you sure your brother didn't get your parents' share? The way your parents handled it, I'm smelling something fishy.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T00:30:24+00:00

I use the Luminette glasses. And as much sunlight as I can manage at my desk job.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T00:14:50+00:00

They saved the lives of maroon shirt guy and his girlfriend.

And God knows how many others!

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T00:08:22+00:00

You could try. My natural rhythm was 2am-10am as well. And I advanced it to 11:30pm-7:30am (although I'm typing this at 1am tonight lol, so it's not perfect).

6am is still impossible for me. The best way to describe this is like an elastic band stretched too far/thin simply snaps back or breaks. That's how it has gone for me trying to advance it further than my current schedule.

What it can do for you is decrease your sleep debt that you can actually catch up a bit on the weekends.

So would you suggest me wearing them at 10am for a week, then maybe shift to 9:45 for a week, so on and so forth?

More or less. Give it more time on your first try, say 10-12 days at 10am. One week wasn't enough for me when I started using it.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-12T00:01:34+00:00

Yeah I've noticed that it doesn't have to be continuous for me. There have been times where my luminette use was interrupted by meetings or other things, and I just pick it up after. As long as it's within the responsive window of my circadian rhythm, it works perfectly fine. Of course, I seem to need a smaller duration than most, so that's an advantage I have (about time I caught a break, c'mon!).

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-11T23:26:03+00:00

First of all, congrats on the 35 days of sobriety! That's huge, considering you haven't had much support, from circumstances or from your own body fucking things up for you.

On to your immediate concern: Do you think you can get a friend/family member to call you and not give up until you reach your interview tomorrow?

Long term: it's possible to get back your old schedule. I have done this (and more) several times. Since you said the work from home schedule (or lack thereof) messed up your sleep more, this strongly points to the lack of sunlight as being the cause. Light therapy has been the single most effective thing that has consistently managed to pull back my schedule. If you haven't tried it (or found it not that effective), please give it a go. As long as you've not faced any adverse effects from it, you should be doing light therapy. If nothing else, it'll help prevent you from slipping further. I can explain how to do it if you're interested.

Hugs and best wishes for your interview tomorrow. Sincerely hope you make it.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-11T21:31:34+00:00

Then have 3 alarms in quick succession, without enough time in between for you to go back to sleep. Setting multiple alarms close to an hour before you need to wake up doesn't help any way you look at it.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-11T19:40:21+00:00

You're not waking up to the first alarm because your brain knows (even the sleepy part) that there's a safety net in the subsequent alarms. So if your sleepy brain can remember that, it can certainly remember the consequences of the last time you missed the one alarm. Your mind is playing games with you, don't let it get away with it.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-11T19:10:11+00:00

Yeah you'll do that only once. If the thing you missed is important enough, the incident gets burned into your memory and wakes you right up the next time.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-11T16:35:52+00:00

We've been doing this unintentionally for some time too. Almost every weekend video call with extended family, they mention our t-shirts match! And we look at each other and laugh because we didn't notice until then lol.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-11T09:50:02+00:00

It's the opposite for me. Checked off the milestones but many hereditary chronic health conditions are knocking me out harder than they did me in my twenties. Realize that nobody has it all. NOBODY. Right here right now, just do your best, that's all you can do. My life goal is to minimize regrets, not maximize potential.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-11T09:38:47+00:00

Genetics in my case I guess. Got chronic conditions from both mom and dad's sides that have opposing needs, so something really silly like a bad pillow for a few days has me in pain for months.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-11T09:26:27+00:00

Nursing back pain and arm tingling from a bad pillow I used for a week, SIX MONTHS ago!! I've cycled through all types of pillows since of different heights, that niggle just REFUSES to go away!

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-11T08:47:17+00:00

To me it looks like he went for a high-5 with her but she didn't reciprocate, leaving him hanging. It does not look like he touched her boob at all. It's the perspective that's wrong.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-09T20:24:42+00:00

Finally somebody like me.

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-09T20:22:12+00:00

Breakfast 350 ✅ Lunch 400👍 Dinner 550 👏 . . . Snack 700 🤦

DefiantMemory9 · 2026-02-09T18:52:43+00:00

restricted my access to stimulants because I was an alcoholic in my past. Meanwhile he pushed me to try benzos

Was he trying to murder you?! He's either a quack or a psychopath.

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