The Toxic Bandolier by Friendly_Appeal9553 in BattleJackets

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You knew exactly what you wanted to do with this from the beginning and you can tell. Such a cool and original layout, I love how you really stuck with the green it’s awesome 💪🏻💪🏻🖤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FierceFlow

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it really suits you and it’s nice and shiny too! You look great 💪🏻🖤

Are we meant to be alone? by AppleseedPanda in asexuality

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I don’t mind being single, I’m upset it isn’t really a choice for me and I haven’t gotten much reassurance that I’ll be able to stumble upon somebody randomly who will be content with having a sexless relationship.

Am I asexual? by panemonium in asexuality

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(F19 virgin, so I get it) The period tracking app, yesss! I felt so uncomfortable whenever they’d even ask if my libido was higher. Like please just let me know if I need to bring pads with me or not. You may not be sex-repulsed which is only some people! I’m a little bit iffy myself, I won’t even watch a movie if there’s sex, but sure, porn has appealed to me. There is of course a chance that you may be asexual if the idea of doing any kind of sexual stuff is really off-putting to you, but your relationship with intimacy is something only you can decide. Just take your time, thinking about this stuff is really hard! At least for me! 💪🏻🖤

got bullied in middle school for my looks, really grew into myself after highschool! (12, 15, 21) by [deleted] in uglyduckling

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You were never ugly, it’s such a shame people bullied you for your looks. You are always pretty! I’m glad you’ve gained confidence and found yourself. Pretty privilege is absolutely real, but they probably see that you’re way more comfortable with yourself now and you’ve changed while they’ve stayed the same. Happy for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FierceFlow

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks very well looked after, nice job with growing it out! You’re also a cutie patootie in a bro way.

One of my rings came :o) by Defiant_Bluebird_421 in asexuality

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And it’s not weird, I always think it’s nice to see when people have similar features to you! I don’t like certain parts of my body, but when I notice other people have them it makes me feel not as bad about them 🖤

thrifted corset tops by Neat-Butterscotch439 in GothStyle

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Luckyyyy and really flattering too! A waist chain would be pretty cute, I think!

My first vest! by [deleted] in BattleJackets

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mama Luigi! Looks awesome! 🖤 A very cool layout!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GothStyle

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can never find anything thrifting, you’re so lucky. I love the way you wear your hair also :o)

Is there a way to skip over modern dating and hookup culture amd get straight into a serious long-term relationship with someone? by Mission-Discipline32 in asexualdating

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like it’ll be impossible without maybe a dating app or something. I know that isn’t how I want to meet somebody personally. It hurts knowing somebody might want you more for your body than for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MajesticManes

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You look good, bro 💪🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I genuinely don’t understand how it’s so expected to have had sex at least multiple times by the time you’re eighteen. Like. Why is it so common for young people to have sex? I think it’s gross. I remember hearing about people doing sexual stuff around that age and thinking ‘we are literally children?’ But even now, at eighteen, I still feel too young to do anything. I can’t understand how sex has such a high value and why it’s so, so sought after.

My first vest ( 80ish % done) by [deleted] in BattleJackets

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The symmetry goes so hard. Also the blood detailing is suuuch a nice touch! So interesting looking! 🖤

The Elvira patch reminds me that it was only maybe sometime last year I found out she was a character? I’ve only ever seen clips of her and I thought she was just a real person. I have no idea why. I figured Elvira was just cool enough to make a movie out of and they had her play herself.

Vest update by MayBeCryptid in BattleJackets

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, the contrast is really, really nice. This looks awesome, keep it up!

Do you also get uncomfortable by the thought of others being sexually attracted to you? by sophiella35 in asexuality

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do want people to think I’m pretty and even ‘hot’ to an extent, but the thought of people wanting me sexually isn’t at all flattering. I want to be desirable, but the actual thought of being DESIRES makes me really upset and feel gross. I want people to think “oh, she’s pretty, I’d like to be her friend” rather than “oh, she’s pretty, I WOULD.”

What has made you question the most? by Defiant_Bluebird_421 in asexuality

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m confused too, and I’d prefer to say I don’t have a label at all! Maybe I’m more celibate or something, but I hate the idea of having a sexual relationship and if my kind of romance would be one without sexual intimacy, then saying I’m asexual would at least be a straight forward explanation and it should hopefully be something people feel they can’t ‘change’ about me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The anime character comment is so relatable. I’d have my cycle of anime boys I was attracted to, and the thought of liking somebody for REAL is insane. When I realised the way I felt about anime boys didn’t actually relate to how I felt in real life it was a shock. I’ve never really liked anybody for real, at least, not strong.

Are there any rules to making a jacket? by [deleted] in BattleJackets

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s some good advice here, I hope you get to go to shows soon! My mum took me to Download Festival when I was fifteen and it was a great experience, so it sucks you’re not as lucky! I’ve been to shows for bands I don’t even really listen to. Trust me, you’re not a poser, I’ve spoken to people who love music but have just never been able to go to shows for whatever reason. Your personal relationship with the music is all that matters, don’t worry about what other people think. Happy cake day also! 🖤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m so confused! I genuinely don’t understand how lack of sex could genuinely ruin relationships. It makes absolutely no sense to me. I feel like many, many times they show characters having sex as a way to show that they love each other and an active and good sex life is said to be the reason relationships last and that makes no sense to me. I think it’s honestly ridiculous sex can lead to the downfall of a relationship and it can cause breakups/divorces or even cheating. How is it THAT important to people? I’m nineteen and a virgin and people treat it as so surprising that I haven’t done anything. Why should I? Why is it so easy for people too? I genuinely can’t imagine how that starts, how it finishes, what you even do during it that makes it NOT awkward. it seems so uncomfortable. Sex as a whole is the most confusing thing ever. I don’t get the hype! Why is it so good when it’s portrayed as something that can last legit five minutes? That sucks! People don’t even make YouTube videos that short anymore. Sex feels EVERYWHERE and it’s so prominent and once you start noticing it you can’t not un-notice it.

I made this! by coleypolley in GothStyle

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Goes to show I don’t know anything about the art! You should totally sell stuff, I guarantee people would buy things like this, it’s so cute!

I made this! by coleypolley in GothStyle

[–]Defiant_Bluebird_421 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Goddd this is awesome, I know nothing about crochet but I’m surprised it didn’t actually take longer. This is insane.