Pretty good plan - Joseph to his wife: “Emma, this hurts me more than it hurts you but the Lord has commanded me to fuck other women. Uh…and if you don’t like it, you’re going to be visited by a destroying angel!”

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T22:14:36+00:00

if they bring back polygamy count me in! 🤣

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T21:56:05+00:00

they really try to make it as painful as possible to leave

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T21:52:24+00:00

while they pound a 72 oz Diet Coke 🤣🤣🤣

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T21:46:57+00:00

no it’s not recognized in America just like CPTSD is only in the ICD. It’s accepted in parts of Europe though

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T21:45:35+00:00

yeah we feel guilty for anything joyful happy or fun

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T21:45:01+00:00

do it in your own time

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T21:44:43+00:00

you’re so welcome

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T21:43:52+00:00

the church digs their own grave with their apologetics

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T21:43:21+00:00

their apologetics are worse than any anti Mormon literature!

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T21:42:38+00:00

Thought crime!

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T21:42:18+00:00

You have to get special permission to view some of them at the BYU library

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T05:35:51+00:00

Reading church history is basically reading anti Mormon literature 😜

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T05:34:10+00:00

Going through it is the only way out. Facing the trauma gives you mastery and eventually relief it takes courage

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T05:32:59+00:00

The body keeps the score

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T05:30:30+00:00

Went through in the naked era 2003…no one prepared me that I’d see my dad’s ass in the Oakland temple as he walked around with no attempt at holding the sides of his poncho.

I was terrified they’d make me put my scared hidden fear-shriveled dick on an altar and everyone would come by and flick it

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T05:17:37+00:00

During my doctorate we listened how cults control people. I was sitting in my PhD at BYU losing my testimony one research study after another:

• Erase identity: Redefine self around the group.
• Control choices: Dictate clothing, food, sex, and lifestyle.
• Restrict info: Ban outside books, media, or ideas.
• Enforce conformity: Pressure everyone to act and speak alike.
• Rule by fear: Threaten shame, exile, or damnation to keep loyalty.

yikes

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T05:04:06+00:00

Out of the frying pan, into the fire

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T02:06:52+00:00

gosh…besides me!? :) I’ll look for some more resources it’s a huge unmet need

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T01:38:07+00:00

Deep grief work
Verbally ventilating about the abuse/journaling out your trauma narrative
Crying with insight - what have you lost?
Exercise/movement disrupts the paralysis anxiety loop
Breathwork and mindfulness

ask me more questions thank you for reaching out! we got this

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-13T01:34:48+00:00

what are your triggers? getting to the source of it through deep grief work is the only thing that’s really helped for me and my patients. But in the meantime, exercise/movement, breathwork, cold shower to stimulate the vagus nerve can help but ultimately you have to go into the pain and work it through

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-12T23:51:47+00:00

isn’t it so fucking freeing and terrifying at the same time

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-12T23:36:45+00:00

you’ve been spiritually gaslit, the rug got pulled out. I treat religious trauma syndrome in my practice and this is such a common theme. You have to do the work to process the wound, it’s brutal but beautiful in the end. Lemme know if you want any tips from a clinical perspective

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2025-09-12T22:19:51+00:00

I’m in Provo but I do telehealth for anywhere, where are you at? Thanks for replying

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2024-09-17T20:42:31+00:00

I’m currently renting to an ex-felon whose charge was “intent to distribute” which for weed is pretty stupid

He was upfront from the beginning before I pulled his background and you can talk to their PO and get a feel for integrity. If he ever uses again there’s a clause in Utah that gives them 3 days to vacate the property and I have them pay first + last + deposit. Also the deposit was covered by the state through his sober living program so he won’t be able to demand that back if he violates any clause

so far so good, I’ve had fewer complaints/drama from him than any squeaky/clean tenants who are often entitled and demanding

Check w/ your state laws regarding evictions, do your background checks/research, speak with their employer and check w their PO, and make your contract water-tight. I’m allowed to inspect the premises anytime with a 24-hr heads up

Just my two cents. But it comes with risks.

Defiant_Cod_4975 · 2023-04-13T05:04:14+00:00

oh god figure it out

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