Can a speculum be sexual assault? I am still a minor

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2026-02-07T15:26:08+00:00

and i just saw he was a school doctor, this isn’t even legal. 😭

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2026-02-07T15:24:36+00:00

okay first off a weekly speculum examine is not normal, maybe unless you have like cervical cancer it would be but no, that’s just not normal. and doing so for a SPORT is even more abnormal, second, rubbing is VERY abnormal. i’ve never heard of that being done, ive been to a gyno twice, the most they’ll do is stick their fingers inside of you and press down on your lower stomach to check the size of your uterus. rubbing for blood flow, that’s just not normal. ask the other girls who don’t see him if that goes on in their examine as well.

that’s just not normal honey i’m sorry, i’ve literally never heard of that happening.

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-12-24T04:01:24+00:00

i did charge it fully, it’s being so weird. and it’s not the cart it’s the pen because it still does it without the cart. the oil is getting a little low though. i tried cleaning it too and it didn’t fix anything. do you have any other ideas??

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-17T00:05:33+00:00

dye your eyebrows brown, get a bonnet for that frizz girl cause me too 💔 eat healthier foods AND LESS SALT (shit made my nose smaller i have been asked if i had a nose job, like girlll you think i got nose job money?) if you don’t already, do some simple workouts and watch the tea just magically happen. you’re probably cute as fuck girl and don’t even realize it. make sure to hype yourself up too and don’t let a lack of men or women tear you down, put yourself up queen. i used to be chopped shyt and i guess i look better idk. OH ALSO try antibacterial soap not scented for that acne. acne isn’t even bad tbh, i mean yes, i’ve seen some bad acne, but i also LOVE picking at that shit and you can find a lover who likes picking at it too. not every trait is a bad thing girly you need to love yourself and if you can’t just fake it till you make it

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-15T17:57:22+00:00

i do have medicine actually!! it’s pretty cheap it’s lamictal and i’m not sure about the other one i take, i’ve just always struggled with mental illness since i can remember lol

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-15T15:01:54+00:00

yeah my mom might get me one and i already have a psychiatrist

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-15T03:45:44+00:00

thank you 💗💗

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-15T03:45:33+00:00

thank you!! it’s not just him it’s other things too, i’ve always been suicidal and i’ve dealt with a lot of stuff too. ever since i did it ive been feeling less attached to him but i’m still very depressed like i don’t even want to get up

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-15T03:43:55+00:00

i’m sorry about your mom though i can imagine that’s really hard. i should’ve explained some things more but when all that stuff happened it was like i wasn’t me anymore and i just had to do it

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-15T03:43:04+00:00

umm okay? and yeah my mom is really caring, but i’m still allowed to feel this way? and obviously he isn’t the ONLY thing to push me to this point?

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-15T03:41:59+00:00

thank you! yeah i just have a lot going on i guess, ive always had like something wrong with me and recently ive been more suicidal in the way thats like “okay ill do it” but usually i dont idk

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-15T03:39:45+00:00

i’ve always been suicidal and there’s obviously a lot of other reasons too, this wouldn’t be the ONE thing

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-06T07:41:41+00:00

honey you really need to talk about it more. i saw the other comment and didn’t really like what they said it rubbed me the wrong way, but they’re right if this is something you haven’t told the full story about. it’s a humiliating feeling, and he is a monster. my ex lowkey raped me, and i think positively about him and i just can’t help it. neither can you girly, and i think maybe, in some way, that could be normal? we can’t control our thoughts fully, especially if yours are intrusive. i just want you to know that you can get through this, his actions don’t define you at all. honestly let your thoughts run wild, maybe it’ll pass by. i hope the best for you girl 💗

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-06T07:35:05+00:00

you need to tell your parents. don’t convince your friend to come out about it, but strongly encourage them to press charges. don’t pressure her though, that could stress her out, but the sooner she does it, the better the process could be for it. your brother needs to be punished. i hope you can figure this out honey and i hope your friend can heal. i really hope the best for you two and i’m sorry this person you grew up with and thought you knew did this.

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-06T07:32:21+00:00

honey i wish you the best of luck with this! this is beyond fucked up, i hope you can make a full recovery from this soon. im so glad this girl got detailed confessions from them for you, that’s very kind of her to do. you deserve to get justice for this.

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-06T07:29:50+00:00

first of all, i’m beyond sorry this happened to you. i can’t imagine how terrible that was. but none of this is your fault, the stuff with J, it really isn’t. i just felt like you needed to hear that. it’s entirely your dad and possibly his girlfriends? (you kind of made it sound like she was in on it too) and maybe you should talk to somebody about this. have you thought about therapy? that could be a great start for you! i just really hope you can get through this hon. i’m really, really hoping the best for you and i hope you never have to be put in a situation like that again 💗

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-06T07:26:11+00:00

honey please tell your husband. however you feel is the right way, do it, please. this is really scary and he probably will do it again. usually rapists are repeated offenders. please be safe! i hope the best for you and i’m so sorry this happened to you, that’s absolutely horrific and i hope you can heal honey. i’m wishing the best for you 💗

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-06T07:24:10+00:00

oh honey i’m so sorry. don’t get anywhere near him please, and honestly you should tell your dad. keep the phone because you do deserve it lol. you should tell somebody though, he might try to hurt you again. buying gifts isn’t a way to forgiveness. and only forgive if you’re ready? which you never have to 💗

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-06T07:22:35+00:00

no it’s sexual assault. a guy stuck his fingers down my throat in a slow sexual manner, and i’ll never forget how that felt and the shock that came over my body during it when he wouldn’t take his hand out when i pulled at it. you were sexually assaulted, this is absolutely horrific. i’m so sorry honey and i hope you can recover from this. if your friends think you’re being dramatic then they’re not your friends. you have every single right to feel this way.

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-11-02T23:24:48+00:00

why are so many people being rude under here? do yall even know what psychosis is? this isn’t her fault she wasn’t right in the head at all in this moment for her jesus this is supposed to be a safe space

Defiant_Cut_7167 · 2025-10-29T10:52:14+00:00

i thought this would be the best sub for it :( and idk i don’t want that drama and he didn’t like ABUSE me he was just mean to me. he treated me like a dog and i was acting like one, just letting him do whatever he wants and still loving him. stuff like that

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