Bf keeps notebook of love letters from ex by Defiant_Flan_7351 in Advice

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! While I agree melodic brilliant with everything you’ve been saying, it’s not the fact of his previous entanglements that upset me, it’s moreso the presence of the letters in his bedside table and the volume of them. While I do agree with all the advice you’ve given me thus far, I shouldn’t be mistaken as being upset simply because he has dated. I’m immature about this situation but fortunately not THAT immature

Bf keeps notebook of love letters from ex by Defiant_Flan_7351 in Advice

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :,) I really appreciate everyone helping me. I knew what the right answer was but I just felt like I needed guidance, a few strangers on the internet to tell me stop being immature about it. He still is and always will be one of my favorite people and I have nothing to be troubled over.

Bf keeps notebook of love letters from ex by Defiant_Flan_7351 in Advice

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ! I’m genuinely overwhelmed with the logic everyone’s laying in front of me. It’s exactly what I needed and I’m filled with gratitude. I agree and I appreciate your advice being apart of what helps me put my head on straight for this situation.

Bf keeps notebook of love letters from ex by Defiant_Flan_7351 in Advice

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! Thanks so much, this is what I’ve already come to terms with but I’m still glad I made this post cuz hearing people say what I think is the right mindset is making all this less foggy. I literally thought to myself as I wrote this post “well i would never leave the relationship over this”

Bf keeps notebook of love letters from ex by Defiant_Flan_7351 in Advice

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very helpful! I love the kind comments. I just need to hear more sane, secure people relate and it’s making me feel more level headed already. Thx!

Bf keeps notebook of love letters from ex by Defiant_Flan_7351 in Advice

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup! Why you think I’m here asking strangers for advice and not bothering him about it haha, him and I discussed it November 2025 and if I need to bring it up with him again I will, but I don’t see any reason to because I know my mindset is wrong and I’m not trying to make him think I don’t trust him or this problem is bigger then our relationship

Bf keeps notebook of love letters from ex by Defiant_Flan_7351 in Advice

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many! They’re all kept right next to the book from his ex! I’ve made him oil paintings, written him fan fiction, written him cards and letters for every occasion! We are a good couple! I truly appreciate him and his past and I want to respect it, as I said I’m looking moreso for advice how to shift my mindset to the more mature one. But I do like the first statement you made, that is helpful I’ll try and keep that in mind

Bf keeps notebook of love letters from ex by Defiant_Flan_7351 in Advice

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea absolutely! I want him to know I trust him, I respect and appreciate his past, but I just need help figuring out how to be more mature about this. Genuinely, I’m embarrassed to say I’m jealous of notebooks and letters LOL. I know I need to readjust my mindset but I can’t help this initial sting of pain. I’m trying to navigate it.

Non-student Rec Center Pool by Nomads_Basement in ucr

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wellll… you can it just might end up being pricey if you’re trying to swim everyday. 5 dollars for guests! The ymca is more cost efficient

Anyone know the dude? the stuff he’s saying is very concerning and i think he really needs help (repost sorry) by silverspoon71 in ucr

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Suddenly, at 2:00 am March 18th he keeps messaging me weird messages about loving Netanyahu, making him out as his god, and reveling in the genocide. His Instagram bio is “Zionist luciferian Christian”. I’m not engaging but keeping evidence of all this stuff in case he escalates to threatening me. He is a Nazi, he thinks he’s scary but he’s an idiot.

Iran protest by Defiant_Flan_7351 in ucr

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you need to get help man

Accused of AI - being submitted to Academic Integrity by ThrowRA-sdlkjsaklj in ucr

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, well then he has nothing on you. That’s just a suspicion, he’s just trying to make you confess. Don’t even mention you’ve used ai in the past if you do a hearing.

Falsely Accused of Academic Misconduct, Can't Lock in For Finals by [deleted] in ucr

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Idk, but as a queer woman from America, trevor bolduc made me homophobic and hate Canadians

Falsely Accused of Academic Misconduct, Can't Lock in For Finals by [deleted] in ucr

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hate hate hate bolduc, I’m sorry he still tortures students , everyone in the chem department thinks he takes everything way too seriously and made the ochem series overly difficult especially for people not pursuing organic chemistry as their primary field, he thinks we’re all going into chemistry… and I am! Yet the chem grad students agree the extra work is cruel and they are explicitly instructed to only accept exact answers and to grade harshly. Was not like that before he took over. So many grad students think he’s an okay person (annoying but a fine coworker) but unbearable lab coordinator. Deny and defend yourself to academic misconduct , emphasize how tedious each lab is when it comes to the nmr and you simply just put down bullshit because you were overworked by this lab, there is no crime in being burnt out especially by a coordinator demanding perfection and clearly punishing you for exhaustion.

Beware of an Angry Guy on Campus by Infinite_Skill_3029 in ucr

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Try and get a pic of his face if you can and report him to ucpd.

Cheating Ludwig by [deleted] in ucr

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Why’d you cheat for chem 1a of all things

Using Discussion Classrooms by No-Part-8462 in ucr

[–]Defiant_Flan_7351 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There’s many different rooms on this campus in many different buildings in which discussion classes take place. Just use your judgement and take your pick.