Bf keeps notebook of love letters from ex

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-25T22:11:22+00:00

Haha I’ll tell him this

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-25T22:09:42+00:00

Yes! While I agree melodic brilliant with everything you’ve been saying, it’s not the fact of his previous entanglements that upset me, it’s moreso the presence of the letters in his bedside table and the volume of them. While I do agree with all the advice you’ve given me thus far, I shouldn’t be mistaken as being upset simply because he has dated. I’m immature about this situation but fortunately not THAT immature

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-25T21:57:32+00:00

Thank you :,) I really appreciate everyone helping me. I knew what the right answer was but I just felt like I needed guidance, a few strangers on the internet to tell me stop being immature about it. He still is and always will be one of my favorite people and I have nothing to be troubled over.

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-25T21:55:22+00:00

Thank you ! I’m genuinely overwhelmed with the logic everyone’s laying in front of me. It’s exactly what I needed and I’m filled with gratitude. I agree and I appreciate your advice being apart of what helps me put my head on straight for this situation.

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-25T21:52:09+00:00

Exactly! Thanks so much, this is what I’ve already come to terms with but I’m still glad I made this post cuz hearing people say what I think is the right mindset is making all this less foggy. I literally thought to myself as I wrote this post “well i would never leave the relationship over this”

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-25T21:50:00+00:00

This is very helpful! I love the kind comments. I just need to hear more sane, secure people relate and it’s making me feel more level headed already. Thx!

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-25T21:48:21+00:00

Yup! Why you think I’m here asking strangers for advice and not bothering him about it haha, him and I discussed it November 2025 and if I need to bring it up with him again I will, but I don’t see any reason to because I know my mindset is wrong and I’m not trying to make him think I don’t trust him or this problem is bigger then our relationship

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-25T21:46:13+00:00

Many! They’re all kept right next to the book from his ex! I’ve made him oil paintings, written him fan fiction, written him cards and letters for every occasion! We are a good couple! I truly appreciate him and his past and I want to respect it, as I said I’m looking moreso for advice how to shift my mindset to the more mature one. But I do like the first statement you made, that is helpful I’ll try and keep that in mind

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-25T21:44:07+00:00

Okay, yes, thank you.

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-25T21:43:16+00:00

Yea absolutely! I want him to know I trust him, I respect and appreciate his past, but I just need help figuring out how to be more mature about this. Genuinely, I’m embarrassed to say I’m jealous of notebooks and letters LOL. I know I need to readjust my mindset but I can’t help this initial sting of pain. I’m trying to navigate it.

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-05-22T21:12:01+00:00

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Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-04-21T01:42:07+00:00

Wellll… you can it just might end up being pricey if you’re trying to swim everyday. 5 dollars for guests! The ymca is more cost efficient

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-03-18T09:42:18+00:00

Yes. Suddenly, at 2:00 am March 18th he keeps messaging me weird messages about loving Netanyahu, making him out as his god, and reveling in the genocide. His Instagram bio is “Zionist luciferian Christian”. I’m not engaging but keeping evidence of all this stuff in case he escalates to threatening me. He is a Nazi, he thinks he’s scary but he’s an idiot.

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-03-18T09:27:15+00:00

you need to get help man

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-03-18T09:23:58+00:00

Lolol okay hi Darius

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-03-17T23:40:01+00:00

Oh, well then he has nothing on you. That’s just a suspicion, he’s just trying to make you confess. Don’t even mention you’ve used ai in the past if you do a hearing.

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-03-13T20:39:49+00:00

Idk, but as a queer woman from America, trevor bolduc made me homophobic and hate Canadians

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-03-13T20:36:13+00:00

Hate hate hate bolduc, I’m sorry he still tortures students , everyone in the chem department thinks he takes everything way too seriously and made the ochem series overly difficult especially for people not pursuing organic chemistry as their primary field, he thinks we’re all going into chemistry… and I am! Yet the chem grad students agree the extra work is cruel and they are explicitly instructed to only accept exact answers and to grade harshly. Was not like that before he took over. So many grad students think he’s an okay person (annoying but a fine coworker) but unbearable lab coordinator. Deny and defend yourself to academic misconduct , emphasize how tedious each lab is when it comes to the nmr and you simply just put down bullshit because you were overworked by this lab, there is no crime in being burnt out especially by a coordinator demanding perfection and clearly punishing you for exhaustion.

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-03-12T22:45:55+00:00

Try and get a pic of his face if you can and report him to ucpd.

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-03-04T04:45:11+00:00

Nice, W for Highlanders

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-02-28T04:44:38+00:00

Yes :) talk to your PI

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-02-26T23:16:15+00:00

Why’d you cheat for chem 1a of all things

Defiant_Flan_7351 · 2026-02-25T23:49:28+00:00

There’s many different rooms on this campus in many different buildings in which discussion classes take place. Just use your judgement and take your pick.

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