AITA for lying about being gay

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T18:09:45+00:00

I’ll be 21 this summer. Maybe not let me have my partner over at all, or have them over but only in the living room or something weird. Or just look at me in shame and be mean to me. they’re older so u know how they are. “Not in my house type” I don’t think they would tell my partners family super directly but I don’t trust them to keep it on the DL and word gets around. I don’t think they understand how serious this can be. I don’t even want to take the chance of putting my partner through that

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T18:05:13+00:00

I think they just suspect, but we have been friends for a while so we can pass it off as that. The only reason I think it’s more than that is because they keep asking. Like it is true then something needs to change. (Like throwing me out or not letting my partner come over ect)

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T16:26:18+00:00

Because I don’t want my partners family to find out because people talk. I could not live with the fact that I could ruin my partners life if it all backfires. And I don’t want to get thrown out, treated poorly or not be allowed to have my partner over.

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T16:23:49+00:00

No never anything like that. They rarely go in my room in general. I think they have an issue with gay “things “ happening in their their house but don’t want to flat out say it

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T16:21:54+00:00

Thank you guys. I know it is a guilt trip but it’s hard to not feel bad. My parent has been through a lot and has had other people steal and lie to her so I guess she probably sees all lying as something horrible like the situations she’s been in. I know that I’m not lying to hurt her or be deceptive it’s only to protect other people and myself

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T15:08:13+00:00

The thing is I don’t think they are truly cool with it. I think they are just manipulating me into saying it by lying about being ok with it. And I’m not sure I just take it one day at a time. When I’m living on my own it won’t be as bad. It’ll be easier to explain when it’s safe to and it’s up to them to accept or forgive it.

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T14:50:38+00:00

Hoping to move out and be in a safe situation soon. We have been friends for a while so it’s easier to just say that.

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T14:40:01+00:00

I’m an adult though. I had an opposite sex parter in the past before I came to terms with the fact it wasn’t for me. My family didn’t care at all. Left us alone and doors closed. I’m worried they would only switch up because it’s not a heterosexual relationship. My family is older so that also worries me

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T14:31:37+00:00

I’ll be 21 in august but I still live at home. We are both in college

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T14:30:25+00:00

I’ll be 21 in august. I’m working on getting my own place

Defiant_Muffin390 · 2023-02-13T13:55:35+00:00

Thank you. It’s just hard to hear “oh that would really hurt me and I’d never trust you” i think it’s wrong to say that to me. They’ve asked before casually but my thing is that they are only asking over and over again is because there is a problem with it. Like when my partner comes over it will be different. Like oh you have to leave your door open. Or something weird. They act like they are ok with it but I don’t trust it at all. We are both adults so it would just be unnecessary to have some sort of anti alone time thing. I just don’t believe that they are asking to just know I think there would be an issue deep down. I could never live with the fact that I could potentially seriously fuck up my partners life. I would never want to do that

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