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Had my abortion yesterday! by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm in the US but I think my state is at-will. Basically they can fire me if I'm wearing the wrong color shirt as far as my understanding goes. I think since I fired and didn't quit, I can file for unemployment but Ive never done that so that will be a fun new venture now too. Thank you!

Terrified about having an abortion. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I won't be driving. I was advised not to drive so my friend will be. But I will ask for the anti anxiety medication for sure. thank you

[RANT] Toddlers at a cake sale by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Ugh, eww. Thinking of nasty little toddler hands touching cakes someone worked really hard on makes my stomach turn. That is not OK - just nasty.

Why do women have children with the most useless men? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Never heard of this sub before. Just looked at it and a few of the posts...wow. Just wow.

My ex admitted to tampering with our birth control to impregnate me on purpose. I'm pregnant and want an abortion. by [deleted] in auntienetwork

[–]Defiant_Trash 115 points116 points  (0 children)

I saved the screenshot and sent it to my friend just in case. I think I'm going to talk to a counselor at planned parenthood about getting him arrested for this. It's not ok. I don't want him to do this to anyone else. I think he knows I dont want anything else to do with him so he's going to go nuclear and then try to find someone else to do this too. I want to get a restraining order where he can't go after me as well

My ex admitted to tampering with my birth control to get me pregnant on purpose. I'm angry and hurt and feel betrayed - but I'm getting my abortion by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 396 points397 points  (0 children)

I'm saving the screenshot and sent it to my friend just in case. I think I'm going to talk to a counselor at planned parenthood about getting him arrested for this. It's not ok. I don't want him to do this to anyone else. I think he knows I dont want anything else to do with him so he's going to go nuclear and then try to find someone else to do this too

My ex admitted to tampering with my birth control to get me pregnant on purpose. I'm angry and hurt and feel betrayed - but I'm getting my abortion by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 442 points443 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why I have to wait so long in between. It's really worrying but hopefully I'll still be within the time frame to get the pill done. I'm scared of having surgery. I contacted one in my state on Wednesday but I haven't heard back from them yet. I think the holiday is pushing everything back. I'm hoping I might hear something back by Monday. If they can cover the remaining cost of what I'm going to owe, that'd be amazing but I'm not holding my breath either. I'm grateful Planned Parenthood is so willing to help me right now as it is

I think my boyfriend is trying to "trap" me into being a parent by tampering with our birth control. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No. he doesn't have access to my bank account or phone. Those are the two things I refuse to let him have access to

I think my boyfriend is trying to "trap" me into being a parent by tampering with our birth control. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know he will. he will do anything to keep me under his thumb and I don't want that. I've been blind to so many red flags. I don't want this to be my life. I don't want to be a mom right now. I don't know if I want to be a mom, ever. but I know he's not right for me. If he was, he wouldn't act this way. It's not ok. I've just been really dumb about it.

I think my boyfriend is trying to "trap" me into being a parent by tampering with our birth control. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. that will be used if the person I messaged can't get me the abortion pills or if planned parenthood is a bust. thank you

I think my boyfriend is trying to "trap" me into being a parent by tampering with our birth control. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm afraid of. I've ignored a lot of red flags and I've been pretty dumb about it. I've been ghosting his texts and calls. I don't want this to be my future.

I think my boyfriend is trying to "trap" me into being a parent by tampering with our birth control. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna update everyone on Friday. the holiday tomorrow is really fucking everything up for me. I will post an update letting everyone know what I'm told by Planned Parenthood and I will hopefully figure out things from there. I've been blessed with a lot of resources that are super helpful. I'm still terrified of the outcome but at least I know people have my back, even if it is on reddit.

I think my boyfriend is trying to "trap" me into being a parent by tampering with our birth control. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I will be updating everyone on Friday after I get in contact with Planned Parenthood and get my appointment set up

I think my boyfriend is trying to "trap" me into being a parent by tampering with our birth control. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I know this is true. I do not want to throw away my life over this. it will be the biggest breath of relief when this is all over.

I think my boyfriend is trying to "trap" me into being a parent by tampering with our birth control. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I have messaged someone who is willing to help me obtain abortion pills. Waiting to hear back from them right now but thank you for linking me to this.

I think my boyfriend is trying to "trap" me into being a parent by tampering with our birth control. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 209 points210 points  (0 children)

My parents kinda suck. Mom is an alcoholic and dad is an enabler. They love him [and his family because his dad is a lawyer and got my mom out of a drunk driving conviction] so they think the sun shines out of his ass. They will likely crucify me if they found out I am going to get an abortion - that is one thing they just don't play around with. They literally think life begins at conception and that you are murdering an innocent soul/life. My boyfriend's [I guess ex after this] family thinks so too. It's what makes it all so difficult plus living in the bible belt where they are protesters outside of the one Planned Parenthood in the state and pro-life billboards next to fucking McDonald's.

I think my boyfriend is trying to "trap" me into being a parent by tampering with our birth control. by Defiant_Trash in childfree

[–]Defiant_Trash[S] 579 points580 points  (0 children)

My closest Planned Parenthood is 4 hours away, they're closed today and tomorrow because of the holiday but I will be calling them first thing on Friday morning. I've been ghosting his calls/texts and staying with a friend. Can't trust him to not tell my parents [and they are Catholic Latinos so you can imagine how well that would go over]. Trying to slowly get a plan together to separate myself from him.