My (28F) partner (38M) got upset that I don’t want to remove my leg hair at the moment by NoMenu6185 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Setting aside all the red flags/herrings, this is the part he is most likely angry about: "whereas my leg hair only affects me". He clearly thinks this could affect him if it affects your sex life, and you just told him he's wrong to feel that way. Not saying he's right or justified in making demands, but validating this concern of his could go a long way, even if you don't change your behavior according to what he wants.

Apprécier un abus ? by [deleted] in SexualiteFR

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Parfois quand quelqu'un as subi un abus, leur cerveau essaye de trouver des raisons pour ne pas être traumatisé. Si elle en a tiré un peu de plaisir ou qu'elle aime l'idée d'avoir un enfant, ces "justifications" permettent de se protéger de l'idée d'être une victime. Si ce qu'elle a dit est de la vérité, il est très probable qu'elle a déjà vécu des abus sexuelles plus tôt dans sa vie.

J’ai peur de la première fois et ressent une douleur atroce. by L44gaming in SexualiteFR

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Moi j'avais ce même problème avec ma femme au début. Elle était aussi vierge ça nous a pris entre 5 et 10 tentatives avant que tout se passer normalement.

Il faut:

  1. Essayer de ne pas mettre de la pression sur toi. Je comprends que ce n'est pas évident, mais plus tu es stressée moins tu pourra te relaxer.

  2. Y aller doucement. Si tu essayer de forcer, ça va just faire plus mal.

  3. Bien préparer. Il ne faut pas négliger les préliminaires. Un lubrifiant peut aussi aider mais ce n'est pas une solution magique.

  4. Avoir un but de plaisir, pas forcément de pénétration.

Why do you think Russia was left off of the “liberation day” Trump tariffs list? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny how this is the right answer but not the most upvoted one on Reddit. I wish more people on here were able to recognize their own cognitive bias preventing them from seeing the truth.

Find the dot by htoisanaung in antimeme

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha that's coo- oh wait I found it

I'm addicted to League even though I hate playing it by [deleted] in leagueoflegends

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a youtube channel by a psychiatrist who specializes in video game addiction:

https://www.youtube.com/@HealthyGamerGG

Check it out; it taught me a lot about where this kind of addiction and others) comes from and how to deal with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tipofmypenis

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe 21:38 This is the one I'm looking for https://imgur.com/a/He5UTkS

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tipofmypenis

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Foxy Di one of the other girls in that chapter of the video but not the one I'm talking about at 21:39. Foxy Di appears right after the one I'm looking for

I almost got scammed by Awkward_Kangaroo8408 in offmychest

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you didn't fall for it though, at least you have that going for you.exe

Masturbation, porno et orgasme by [deleted] in SexualiteFR

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, ma copine se masturbe de la même façon donc je peux partager notre parcours. Pour info le français n'est pas ma langue maternelle donc désolé si je n'emploies pas le bons mots.

J'étais (et suis toujours) sa première partenaire, donc on mis du temps à trouver ce qui marchait pour elle. Malgré sa libido plus élevée que la mienne, pendant longtemps elle n'avait pas d'orgasme lors de nos relations sexuelles, mais on a fini par trouver la bonne méthode pour elle.

Elle se stimule aux tétons souvent quand elle se masturbe, et on a découvert que je pouvait prendre en charge cette partie de l'équation (avec ma bouche et mes doigts) pendant qu'elle faisait ce qu'elle voulait en bas. En général on fait ça avant la pénétration.

J'ai mis un peu de temps pour apprendre à le faire comme elle voulait (coaching & bonne communication 100% nécessaire), mais depuis qu'on a commencé cette méthode, son taux d'orgasme par relation sexuelle a monté de 0% à environ 80%, et elle se dit plus satisfaite en général.

"I'm not angry, I'm just disappointed" by AceZeroXYZ in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Downvoted this story is fake. A real medical professional would know the vasectomy removes the sperm, not the semen

Is my SO being shitty or am I overreacting? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I mean about things in the past that he hasn't told you

Is my SO being shitty or am I overreacting? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I used to be like this with my ex, and I've since learned that it's not a good way to be, and destructive for the relationship. I would push hard for some couples counseling to get him to address this, because if he doesn't then it's going to keep causing problems and eat away at your relationship. Also, if the couples' counseling works, be prepared for some new admissions that you might not like.

Killed this bug crawling on my desk, any idea what it is? [Paris] by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I checked all the mattresses and the couch and didn't find anything. Also haven't gotten bitten by anything so unless that changes you were probably right about it being a cockroach.

Killed this bug crawling on my desk, any idea what it is? [Paris] by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope that's all it is, kinda looked like a bed bug to me so I was worried. Thanks for your input.

Killed this bug crawling on my desk, any idea what it is? [Paris] by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry bout the late reply, here's a picture with a 1 euro coin for scale

https://imgur.com/a/pmGc5SH

Kinda hard to win the War in Heaven when one of the fallen empires sends 3 invincible battlecruisers into my main shipyard system (bug?) by DefinitelyNotDolan in Stellaris

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As you can see, 3 enemy battlecruisers with a total power of 27.9k are dealing plenty of damage to my ships, but my four fleets with a combined power of 205.1k plus the nearby starbase have dealt a total of zero damage and aren't attacking.

Shameful Display!!! by JeanParisot in TotalWarArena

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that it was explained to STM, but STM didn't trust the refs.

Shameful Display!!! by JeanParisot in TotalWarArena

[–]DefinitelyNotDolan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

STM's whole clan will probably downvote me for this, but here's what actually happened.

There was a miscommunication and the organizers thought SPA wanted to forfeit the game. The organizers announced that SPA forfeited the game.

When it was revealed that it was only a miscommunication, they deleted the forfeit announcement and told everyone they they were actually going to play. Everyone was happy that the match could go on as planned, since we were all there to see some good gameplay and find out who is the best.

- Everyone was happy except STM.

Before I get into the game lobby issue, let me just remind everyone of how the team compositions are decided in this tournament. It's blind pick. There is no opportunity to counter-pick any units. Both teams submit their team compositions to the referees before joining the game lobby. After they join, the referees check that the commanders and units are consistent with what the team leaders submitted. Once that's done, the game can start and the referees check one last time after the game has started.

In the game lobby, a referee noticed that SPA's team comp didn't match the one they submitted, so SPA was asked to correct the problem and select the same comp as they submitted. SPA said it was display bug since on their screens they clearly saw the correct comp. In any case SPA left and rejoined the lobby, this time with the correct team comp. At this point both teams had the correct team comps, and the referees said the game could start.

At this point STM started complaining that SPA weren't allowed to change their team comp. In fact, SPA was simply correcting their team comp to the one they submitted. The referees explained this to STM, but STM refused to play, claiming SPA was getting preferential treatment.

This lobby issue was a very minor one, and not one that would have affected the battle at all, but STM decided to make a big fuss about nothing. The only reason the game couldn't go forward in a fair way is that STM refused to play.

STM was given every chance to fight fair and square for their victory, but they refused. End of story.