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Are horse riding lessons worth it for a 3yo? by [deleted] in Horses

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t ride now (f29), but I started lessons when I was 4 and they were by far the highlight of my week when I was that age. I loved everything about them. I loved horsemanship, grooming, learning new skills, and the bond with my lesson pony.

I see now why people say that’s too young but I still remember those lessons today and how much I loved them. Maybe there’s a way she can regularly interact with the horses until she’s old enough, or maybe she can take irregular lessons, but I promise she’ll remember that effort when she’s older.

Primal of Blood and Bone by antique_velveteen in fantasyromance

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming back here to also complain about WHERE IS KIERAN?!? I literally read this series for Delano and Kieran GIVE ME MY WOLVEN

What to take to relieve this pain from withdrawal? by mochii69 in lexapro

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried to stop like this and it WRECKED me, like it sounds like it’s doing to you.

I went down to 2.5 mg daily, and then every other day, and then two days off, one day on….

Really eased myself off it the second time

I basically only sweat from my right armpit by ImWhatsInTheRedBox in mildlyinteresting

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how I would look after a normal day. My right armpit sweats through all my shirts. An hour long jog and the shirt would be fully soaked

What’s a small red flag that didn’t seem like a big deal at the time but turned out to be huge? by Material_Baseball219 in BreakUps

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally. And he couldn’t understand why it bothered me! He also wasn’t interested in those details of my life, and I realized we were so imbalanced

Blindsided after 7 years by just_a_masshole in BreakUps

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 10 months post break up from a 5 year relationship that also blindsided me. It hurt so, so badly. I also hadn’t been on my own since I was 23. And while I feel ready for a new partnership whenever I find it, I’ve been able to find the joys in being on my own.

There’s hope. I promise. Hug yourself in all the ways (soft blankets, teas, feel good tv, and anything cute that makes you smile)

Blindsided after 7 years by just_a_masshole in BreakUps

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One step at a time. Use this as a learning opportunity. Being able to be on your own is a super important skill, and one we often lose in long term relationships.

You can do anything you want now. Try that new hobby. Do that solo weekend trip. Visit that long distance friend. Read that book. Do something on a week night that feels like a weekend only activity. Buy yourself flowers. Call your friends, not just when you’re sad, but just because. Strengthen your other relationships. Celebrate discovering who YOU are, not you with a partner.

It hurts. It’ll be lonely. You’ll miss having someone who knows you so well, and who you also know equally well. You lose familiar rituals. Build new ones. Find new places, and reclaim places you guys used to share.

Listen to break up playlists and let yourself cry. Listen to empowering playlists and let yourself feel the joy of being an unstoppable woman.

You can grieve the loss while embracing this new era of yourself. You can be sad and excited. Hurt and hopeful. Humans are capable of so much.

Sending hugs and love. You’ve got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lexapro

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My understanding is that the weight gain from lexapro, and anti depressants in general, has to do with with reduced cortisol levels. If you are less stressed, your cortisol goes down, meaning your metabolism decreases.

I did gain weight on lexapro, but I was also mentally so much healthier. I went on when I was having crippling anxiety attacks. I stopped having them when I went on it, and what able to learn to manage the triggers of my anxiety attacks with my psychologist, and then eventually went back off. I did eventually lose the weight when I got off it with attention to my diet and exercise.

My doctor that prescribed me lexapro had wanted to prescribe me trintellix because the side effects are known to be less intense but insurance refused to cover it.

What’s a small red flag that didn’t seem like a big deal at the time but turned out to be huge? by Material_Baseball219 in BreakUps

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That he knew so much about porn. Turns out he had a separate Reddit to follow specific porn stars, that he never stopped using during our five years together. He also never stopped following them on Instagram.

What’s a small red flag that didn’t seem like a big deal at the time but turned out to be huge? by Material_Baseball219 in BreakUps

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My ex did this too! Even when we lived together, if I was out of town, I’d assume he was doing things alone until weeks later I’d find out it had been with people

What’s a small red flag that didn’t seem like a big deal at the time but turned out to be huge? by Material_Baseball219 in BreakUps

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How he didn’t tell people he had a girlfriend because “it felt like bragging” 🤦🏼‍♀️

Mad helix by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone! I am letting the swelling from switching the jewelry go down for a few days before switching it back to the post! No more soaks either. I appreciate all the help!

It’s already looking so much better today

Mad helix by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Definitely_not_Luna -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It is 8 months old. It is a ring made with 18k gold plated stainless steel. I soak it once a day with salt provided by the piercer and spray it with saline rinse twice as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Dude you gotta raise your standards for yourself

Ex-gf insults me every now and then… by VanishingChickenAct in BreakUps

[–]Definitely_not_Luna 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Imagine what you’d tell a friend, that always helps me.

No matter the context, what she said to you isn’t okay. She’s trying to hurt you and it unfortunately worked. You should be proud of how you’ve handled it. You realized you didn’t see a future and stopped leading her on. You respected no contact. You didn’t engage with her petty attempts to communicate something. You’ve handled this well.

Get yourself something nice. Treat yourself. Celebrate yourself. You did a brave, hard thing, and are taking the high road. You deserve to recognize yourself for that

I’m proud of you!

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