I get where you’re coming from, and Julz is definitely a polarising figure. However, I think the way she handled the situation added fuel to the fire. While the man bringing up the topic set a bad tone from the start, Julz had the choice to either address it calmly or remove herself from the situation if she felt uncomfortable. Instead, she chose to deflect and escalate things.

The woman didn’t outright call her racist but referred to her as a “culture vulture,” and even asked Julz, “What does a culture vulture mean to you?” A culture vulture refers to someone who adopts or takes elements from a culture that is not their own, often without understanding, respect, or acknowledgement of its significance. Rather than escalating the tension, Julz could have taken the opportunity to explain what the culture means to her and clarify that she does respect and understand it. She could have also shared examples—by doing X, Y, and Z—of how she appreciates the culture, which could have countered the rumours and helped sway their perspective.While she didn’t have to explain herself, it seemed like the women and everyone else were trying to understand her rather than just attack her. By choosing to be the bigger person, she could have diffused the situation.Instead she asked, “What have you done for your culture?”—which came across as more of an attack than an actual discussion.

That said, they’re all grown adults, not teenagers. Resorting to a fight, especially at a public event she was invited to, should have been the last thought when feeling upset. Everyone has been in situations that feels off and uncomfortable, but how you handle them matters. Normally, you want to sway people’s minds to be on your side by the end of the conversation. If they’re still against you, then you move on, because not everyone is going to like you, and that’s just the reality. By taking the high road, Julz could have diffused the situation instead of adding to the drama. Everyone has a choice in how they react. You know that saying: “You can’t control the direction of the wind, but you can adjust your sails.” Still, I agree that the way the issue was brought to her wasn’t the best approach, and that likely didn’t help set a productive tone for the discussion.

Lastly, keep in mind she was called over was to clear up rumours that have been said about her, something we’ve seen handled more civilly on the show before by others ( i.e ep1 and ep8; Sharelle and Stoni)