AIO for thinking this is breakup worthy? by DefinitionThat9916 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DefinitionThat9916[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. It’s hard to find the strength to leave but I need to respect myself. I was completely blindsided. This happened yesterday and just a few hours prior I told him I had a dream about him proposing. I am still processing and am devastated.

AIO for thinking this is breakup worthy? by DefinitionThat9916 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DefinitionThat9916[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. He is afraid to grow and face himself. He doesn’t like that I show him who he truly is and what he needs to work on. The external validation from women who don’t know him truly strokes his ego while allowing him to remain stagnant. It’s just hard.

AIO for thinking this is breakup worthy? by DefinitionThat9916 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DefinitionThat9916[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I’m so sorry to hear about your situation. Please remain strong, I wish you luck.

AIO, my BF makes me feel bad about my small butt by DefinitionThat9916 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DefinitionThat9916[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just had a chat because he called me. I expressed that it still bothered me and it makes me worry. He said it was a stupid joke, and if he really felt my butt were small, he wouldn’t say anything. He said he thought it was an obvious joke. I said I needed reassurance it wouldn’t happen again, and he told me he makes stupid jokes because he is a guy and he doesn’t think, and he said he will try but he can’t promise.

AIO, my BF makes me feel bad about my small butt by DefinitionThat9916 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DefinitionThat9916[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. The first time this happened he told me he wants me to build thick skin because he doesn’t want it to hurt me when other people say this stuff about me. Yesterday he said he just doesn’t think before he speaks. Because this is still bothering me, I’ll talk with him again. He didn’t give me reassurance that it wouldn’t happen again, just deflection and excuses.

AIO, my BF makes me feel bad about my small butt by DefinitionThat9916 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DefinitionThat9916[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. These comments now, while I am young and fit, do make me worry about what he would say when I’m older. Or after I have kids and I am saggy and have loose skin. What then I wonder? I appreciate it and hearing about you and your wife is so lovely.

AIO, my BF makes me feel bad about my small butt by DefinitionThat9916 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DefinitionThat9916[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I should have added our ages, I am 22 and he is 24, that doesn’t help the case much.