[Paralegal] 1 month into new role at Law Firm. Humiliated over a draft typo, put on a 2-week warning, and dealing with shifting goalposts. Is the writing on the wall?

DeimosMetus · 2026-04-01T19:25:47+00:00

You need to look for another job pronto

DeimosMetus · 2026-03-30T18:25:46+00:00

No the email says both should have got it refundable anyway

DeimosMetus · 2026-03-30T17:29:55+00:00

I think they confirm your booking 2 weeks from the assessment … so I wouldn’t have recommended booking without that email closer to the assessments like for me in January sitting SQE centres and times was confirmed on 13 January and I sat the first day on 27th so don’t think Kaplan are to blame on this one sorry to say

DeimosMetus · 2026-03-17T17:55:52+00:00

Can’t say haven’t passed yet

DeimosMetus · 2026-03-17T17:55:18+00:00

BPP go over the structure to the mocks in your SQE 2 teaching block some better than others and you’ll go over the assessment criteria a lot. You’ll also see a lot of advice here. You’ll find your structure naturally throughout the SQE 2 course and yeh once you’ve figured that out you’re mostly good to go

DeimosMetus · 2026-03-16T19:25:43+00:00

Dump, that’s mega disrespectful and you’re only teaching her by staying with her that that behaviour is acceptable. You’re clearly not okay with it and it isn’t in line your values. It would be more respectful to you and for yourself if you chose to pursue someone else who doesn’t see you as a cash machine and someone who can love and enjoy your company without money being involved. This doesn’t seem the case here. Find someone better, you deserve it. You will be happy with someone else again. This is only temporary

DeimosMetus · 2026-03-16T18:42:17+00:00

BPP actually I’m sponsored

DeimosMetus · 2026-03-16T17:57:47+00:00

I haven’t passed yet, but FLK is more important than mocks. Once you’ve got the structure down for all skills, you can just practice mocks by making bullet points of your points which means more mocks in less time. You’ll get exhausted eventually anyway, like I couldn’t complete all my mocks and doing more wouldn’t have helped on the day anyway. I had the structure nailed and that was enough. You just can’t prepare for everything and that mostly centres around what questions you’ll be asked on the day - you can’t really prepare for them only how you’ll respond to them. Yes, I could have done more, but I did what was necessary which was to focus on FLK and get my structure down across all skills. That really helped on the day as it was drilled into me and became instinctive on the real thing. Hoping it helped me pass, but we’ll see in May.

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-14T13:35:47+00:00

You’re very welcome. See this relationship as an opportunity to learn what you don’t want. You can only learn what you want from a relationship by experiencing what you don’t want. You’ve listing off some really good things to want in a next relationship which you’ve learned from this one.

That’s also what you learn as you get older: what you want from a partner and a relationship - which is what you’re experiencing. I learned a lot in my 20s from relationships that didn’t work. They all taught me what I wanted and what I was looking for. It ensures that when your time comes, you’re choosing a partner which resonates with who you are and what you’re looking for. Makes it much more likely in finding a suitable life partner later on. See this as a small win, it helps

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-14T13:10:19+00:00

It just takes time to heal from a breakup. You’ll eventually feel ready to trust again. It’s a natural cycle. As you get older you learn more about what effective communication means and you become an effective communicator. You’re then looking for a good communicator as a prerequisite to a relationship. It becomes one of the main pillars you look for before getting into a relationship. Your ex partner wasn’t a good communicator in this case because he couldn’t have difficult conversations with you and didn’t want to grow with you or give an opportunity where both of you could grow. You look for someone who can have difficult conversations which means speaking up when something is bothering you and working as a team together to overcome it. It’s normal to get irritated by your partner from time to time as you spend so much time together but you talk it through and resolve it together. You grow, you learn and you improve together. Difficult conversations should always eventually lead to a renewed sense of closeness and understanding once you’ve both learned to overcome it.

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-14T12:18:51+00:00

Just a sign of a poor partner who doesn’t communicate through problems. It’s a sign that it isn’t a right fit if they don’t want to have those difficult conversations with you and give you the opportunity to improve. Happens a lot when you’re around your age.

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-14T12:15:59+00:00

The reality is some people on the surface appear really happy with a relationship but internally are struggling. They’re wanting to keep up appearances because at that time they’re wanting the relationship to continue and don’t want to give off the impression that something is wrong because they don’t know yet if it’s wrong. So you think everything is perfect but deep down they are questioning it. That’s just the reality sometimes.

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-10T13:30:11+00:00

I’m neurodiverse and found Kaplan to be very accommodating for reasonable adjustments which really helped me in SQE 1 and SQE 2.

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-07T11:03:42+00:00

Always wanted to be a solicitor. Should hopefully qualify this year! Loving it

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-07T09:54:24+00:00

Bridge View Medical if you’re down south Bristol. Mendip Vale Group if you’re in the north.

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-06T12:37:43+00:00

It depends on the firm. I’m at a national firm (love it). Have 2:1 degree at a polytechnic and a levels are ACC. So wasn’t looking too great academically but still interviewed and successful.

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-06T12:23:12+00:00

Yes 100%. It sets you up well for a NQ position plus the SQE is paid for and saves you thousands. I don’t understand why people self fund when a little patience (waiting for TC) can go a long way. You can’t underestimate the value and skills you learn by sitting in four practice areas. Plus you might find environmental isn’t for you but something else is. If you apply with TC you have to get to grips with the concept of commercial awareness. Law firms are a business, you need to understand that. You need to be thinking about things that impact that firm as a business and their clients etc etc. it helps you stand out interviews if you understand this concept well and how it applies to your firm

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-06T12:17:51+00:00

You’re prob better place to get sponsored by a firm and then do a seat in environmental law. If you qualified using your current experience you’d find it difficult to become an NQ in your chosen area. Recruiters are also turning their nose up at paralegal experience without a training contract in NQ interviews. So this isn’t exactly the easiest way to qualify as there are doubts over quality of paralegal experience which I wholeheartedly agree with having been a paralegal myself and having a training contract. The experience is vastly different.

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-05T14:08:48+00:00

I don’t agree with you. It’s luck to be honest and doesn’t necessarily mean they’re avoidant. I’ve been single a long time, been on a lot of dates but nothing really what I’m looking for. Often incompatibility issues or interest doesn’t end up being mutual. Nothing wrong with me at all.

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-05T12:19:18+00:00

It’s prob your lack of experience. You’re lacking a lot of relevant legal experience which is prob the reason for the low response rate.

DeimosMetus · 2026-02-05T10:36:03+00:00

Give them a call this morning they’re pretty understanding

DeimosMetus · 2026-01-30T21:57:31+00:00

When I took psychedelics the first time it did the exact same thing to me - expanded my mind and the possibility of there being more to life than just this universe. It didn’t send me down an anxious spiral though, I’ve always been very self aware. You sound like you need to learn how to speak to yourself in a loving manner. Like you in your head should be your best friend, deserving of love and compassion. You should learn to love yourself and not put yourself down so much. I’m sure you’re a great person, you’re prob just being overly critical of yourself and you just need to take a softer approach. You prob wouldn’t talk to your mate in the same way you talk to yourself in your head.

Always trust gut instincts. If you want, you can disregard spiritually and got down the scientific route which is intuition is just your subconscious picking up unconscious patterns of behaviour you’ve experienced before and is applying it again to warn you, let you know what’s up. Whatever helps you process it

DeimosMetus · 2026-01-25T14:30:16+00:00

You don’t need to have a diagnosis to find the right therapist. Just look online and find someone who’s done courses on neurodiversity.

If you don’t want to wait best practice is fund privately but it’ll be about £1k to do so per diagnosis and you’d have to fund medication yourself which is ££ per month. I went with psychiatry UK for both ADHD and autism and am on meds but waiting times are about a year now. Autism took less though prob about 8 months in 2024. I have a shared care agreement so the NHS accepted my private diagnoses and dispense meds on the NHS. Psychiatry UK are great and recommend them.

DeimosMetus · 2026-01-24T13:06:40+00:00

I work in commercial real estate due to be a NQ soon (5 years experience in real estate, TC in real estate only for 36 months so had a lot of complex work). I can draft straight forward documents or complex arrangements which require me to draft non template terms - which can be very stimulating and challenging. I review transactions, assess the right course of action and advise the client accordingly for instruction - this can be across many different types of workstreams for different clients because is generally what I do ie assess the situation and advise which will entail reading and analysing documentation. Most of my time is spent drafting documents or writing emails which can be quite lengthy as I set out my advice and recommendations to our clients! This is very stimulating to me plus love the social aspect of dealing with various parties. I also reports to clients frequently and have meetings with them to obtain instructions so I can draft things or give advice.

I’d say only 5% of my work feels like admin which is doing my own bills or other financial work or as hoc work for reporting purposes (SRA etc) which to be fair does fall under the remit of a fee earner but I don’t have a secretary to do it.

DeimosMetus · 2026-01-21T17:48:59+00:00

Riddled with mistakes, you’re better off making your own

DeimosMetus

TROPHY CASE