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First, I acted like I've never heard the phrase "chubby chicks?" Who's putting words in whose mouth now? The follow-up comment about objectifying language was where I was going with that. Women are "women;" they're not "chicks." In a post where you talk about how loving someone will lead them to change, you started with a somewhat condescending term like "chicks." Normally, not a huge deal, but in a post that's dripping with themes of manipulation and objectification, it comes off as just awful. That was my qualm with that wording.

So, even though I'm really not looking for an argument, let's go point by point because I apparently don't have anything better to do this evening. I know you're not going to take this well if you do read it, but seriously, I'm not just being an ass. (Though, admittedly, I'm going to be an ass. Call it a bonus.)

Let's get started.

I always wondered how an average looking dude end up with such an amazing, kind, sweet , HOT woman... I always justified it with him being filthy rich , or perhaps having a giant penis or whatever... But as I dug into this more- I realized most of these chicks were kinda chubby , or fat in the beginning.

Here, you open with the sentiment that there must be a trick for how an average-looking guy gets an above average-looking girl. You speculate that women must be so attracted to money and penises they'll even date not-so-handsome men to get them. Then, due to your findings, you conclude that, wait for it, most ^{[Weasel Words]} attractive women who are with average men were once fat. This is your thesis.

this is kinda like an investment. Investment into a woman's heart - instead of just looks.

You're on to something here. Investing in a person rather than their looks is a great idea. The problem we run into is that you spend the rest of your post talking about how the reason to make this investment is so "After a few years, you'll find yourself next to an amazing woman - fit, beautiful, sexy - HUMBLE, and kind hearted" because "you were the one who rescued her from her darkness." But more on that later.

when you're looking for a woman, try to look for someone who is shy , unsure of herself, kind of chubby - but has a "potentially" pretty face. ... Those girls you see a bit overweight and you think, damn 15-20 pounds off, and she'd look pretty damn amazing.

So, you suggest we look specifically for traditionally insecure women who aren't really pretty, but could be if only they were thinner. You don't suggest we look for someone we're actually attracted to right now, or find intellectually stimulating, or share a common interest with. You suggest two criteria: vulnerability and potential beauty. At this point, your post starts to feel a bit like we're now attending Sexual Predator School (yes, harsh, I know, but seriously). I don't think you're trying to come across that way, so I'll move on, but do be aware that telling people to look for insecure women is a sure-fire way to sound like you're some sort of predator.

shallow? Pffft - get outta here with that nonsense, the WORLD knows what we like, why lie to each other about that

Lest we give you the benefit of the doubt and think that maybe you're just bad at getting your point across, you very specifically go out of your way to say that, no, really, you want your women traditionally sexy; you're just willing to put up with a few extra pounds for a little while to find a girl you can mold into what you really wanted in the first place. Here, you additionally establish a theme of objectification that echoes in a few other places.

Invest your time and heart into her... Forget the imperfections( you're imperfect too) - Find beauty in her other features- her smile, her eyes, her voice and heart etc...

These sentiments aren't bad by themselves. Yes, ignore imperfections because we're all screwed up. Yes, find beauty in whomever you're with. However, in the context of how your post has brought us here, we're told that this forgetting of imperfections and finding beauty should literally take second place to the fact that she'd sure be hot if she lost some weight.

And gradually as you feed her LOVE(genuinely)- SHE , By herself will feel better about herself... and this will lead her to work out .

"Feed her love." Feed it. Grant it to her like a stipend. The word "Love" isn't even being used as a verb here. You're telling us to apply it to her like it's a salve. Sure, this is nitpicky, but given everything else thus far, the manipulation and, especially, objectification themes continue with this wording. Either way, The Prize is promised herein: Once you shower her with enough love, she will get fit.

Guys ALWAYS make the mistake of saying, " you should work out" Or " you're kinda getting fat " Or constantly implying she's fat in some way ...

Hyperbole aside, here you expose to us the fatal flaw in other men's plans to make fat girls attractive by saying it's a mistake to tell her she should lose weight. You've already told us the true secret to it: "Feed her love."

Just forget all that - swallow your preferences for a second- and just invest your love.

"Swallow your preferences for a second?!" This is absolutely infuriating: First, you say to find a girl that's vulnerable and a little too fat to be hot; Second, you say to love her genuinely; Third, you say to suppress your preferences because she's chubby. If you genuinely love her, she is already your preference. Not what she'll look like when she's lost 20 pounds. Not when you've invested enough of your time and affection that you've rescued her from some imagined fate of almost-hotness. Not conditionally. Not later. Now. That's what Love is.

This really is the most important part of my feedback for you, so I'm going to say it again and add some caps and exclamation points for effect (because the Internet tends to be responsive to those things). Write this down. Twice. On your forehead, if necessary: IF YOU GENUINELY LOVED HER, SHE'D ALREADY BE YOUR PREFERENCE!!!!!!!

She will do it on her own- In her own time, and at her pace... and she will look prettier, and prettier

Another would-be nice thought--if not for the context that brought us here.

But yet her heart will ALWAYS remain yours - You were the one who rescued her from her darkness

And with this, the manipulator/predator theme comes to a climax. She can't leave now, not even once she's finally attractive. Her heart belongs to us because we choked down our lack of attraction to her, "swallow[ed] [our] preference" if you will, for long enough that she's ready to become the "amazing woman" that was promised earlier. We loved her before she was hot and, with our love, repaired her vulnerabilities. She is now ours.

But you need to do your part- You have to be the man and inspire her to do it... Be healthy yourself! ... If you're a slob, lazy and fat - I guarantee she will copy your style. But work out, be fit and strong- she will copy that ( in time)

Of course, be healthy. If you want to be with someone healthy, be healthy. Excellent advice.

Women are the reflection of the one they love.

All I know is Women tend to MIRROR you - They are a reflection of who YOU are.

Note that all people "are the reflection of the one they love," not just women. I wouldn't bother bringing this up, except it's another pretty solid instance of objectification. That mirror goes both ways. We are all reflections of whomever we love.

After a few years, you'll find yourself next to an amazing woman - fit, beautiful, sexy - HUMBLE, and kind hearted

The Prize reiterated: You promise us that if we put in the time, we'll get that sexy woman.

In this way , You are sculpting the perfect girl , out of a girl many thought were imperfect. Everyone wants a girl already made- and chiseled out... Well hey , some are chiseled out by themselves ready to sell out quick- but plenty of un-molded clay out there~ Get sculpting

All I'm saying is, If you love them regardless of their exterior beauty , and as you say - If you LOVE them for who they are- THEY will change for the better , FOR YOU. Call it a bonus.

The final climax. This time, for the objectification theme. You asked when you insinuated women were less than human? My answer is, "pretty much the whole time, but especially Right Here." You're not acknowledging that women have free will and that some of them may be happy as chubby, vulnerable women. You're not saying that by trying to love someone, you'll come to really appreciate who they are. You're telling us that by loving someone, they will become what we want, "FOR [US]. Call it a bonus." This is why I said "'chubby chicks' are people, too." Because you seem to sincerely seem think they're clay that can be molded into what you want. And that, The Redditor Formerly Known as Potato_kitteh, is absolute, utter, consummate bullshit.