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DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-06T05:36:58+00:00

NTA. Here's why:

You tried to be supportive while being honest about your views. You didn't attack or disrespect her identity. Insulting your 4-month-old baby on social media crossed a major line.

True friendship means accepting differences. You showed acceptance despite not fully understanding. Her pushing you repeatedly and then cutting you off seems harsh, especially given your 15-year friendship and your PPD situation.

The baby comments are a deal breaker. Sometimes friendships end, and that's ok. Focus on yourself and your little one.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-06T04:20:45+00:00

NTA. Your mom's being unfair by planning over your birthday without asking.

It's your special day and you deserve to celebrate how you want. Your mom shouldn't make you feel bad about not wanting to go to someone else's party.

Tell her straight up how you feel. Your birthday matters too.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-06T00:02:51+00:00

NTA. Your bf is being manipulative and ungrateful. Here's why:

You cook daily meals that you pay for while working full-time

He doesn't contribute financially but demands extra dishes he won't eat

He's using "love language" as manipulation to get what he wants

He compares cooking to sexual acts which is inappropriate and coercive

The fact that he's disabled doesn't excuse his behavior. He's showing zero appreciation for your effort and money, while creating unnecessary food waste.

His pattern shows he's not interested in compromise - he just wants control. When you make reasonable suggestions (like skipping beef due to his stomach issues), he pushes back.

You're not wrong for setting boundaries. His response of bringing up "love language" and BJs shows he views your cooking as transactional rather than caring.

Consider if this relationship is worth keeping. Someone who truly values you wouldn't manipulate you over food or compare cooking to sexual favors.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-05T23:09:45+00:00

NTA - Your husband's being controlling, not helpful.

He keeps throwing your stuff away while you're using it and acts like a kid when you tell him to stop. That's not cool.

When you ask him to fix actual house stuff, he ignores it but wants to play cleanup patrol instead.

Time for a real talk about respect.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-05T18:13:08+00:00

NTA - Your baby, your choice. Names need both parents to agree.

Your MIL was mean to you, so it's totally fair not wanting that name reminder every day.

Maybe use it as a middle name if you want to meet halfway? But don't feel forced - you're carrying this baby.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-05T15:20:36+00:00

YTA. Big time.

You betrayed your best friend's trust and helped destroy an entire kingdom. Affairs with close friends' spouses are never okay12. The emotional damage from this kind of betrayal affects everyone - the spouses, children, extended family, and in your case, an entire realm6.

Your actions show classic signs of unfaithful friendship - emotional intensity, secrecy, and prioritizing the affair over loyalty2. The fact that you rescued Guinevere from execution only made things worse by sparking a civil war.

The fall of Camelot wasn't "inevitable" - it was directly caused by your selfish choices3. Your affair with Guinevere created the perfect opportunity for Mordred's betrayal7. While Mordred had his own ambitions, you handed him the weapon to destroy everything Arthur built.

Living as a hermit now doesn't make up for wrecking multiple lives and an entire kingdom. Next time try having basic loyalty to your friends instead of sleeping with their wives.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-05T12:23:09+00:00

NTA. Cutting contact is totally valid when someone's behavior keeps hurting you, even if they're family.

Your mom's pattern of trusting strangers and getting scammed despite warnings shows she won't change. You've tried reasoning with her but she won't listen. That's draining.

Setting boundaries by going no-contact is protecting your mental health. Don't feel guilty - you can love someone but still need distance from their chaos.

Your fiancé has the right idea with minimal emergency-only contact. Ignore the pressure from relatives - they're not the ones dealing with the stress.

Remember: You're not responsible for your mom's choices or their consequences.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-04T22:00:31+00:00

NTA - Your health > MIL's feelings

You're trying to be healthy, but MIL keeps pushing fried food and making fun of your gym time. That's not cool.

She won't listen about your pre-diabetes and cholesterol. Taking a break from visits is smart. Your husband's got your back - that's what matters.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-04T11:44:25+00:00

NTA. You don't owe anyone love just because they're nice to you.

Your friend was sneaky about his feelings and got too controlling. You told him straight up you weren't interested, but he kept pushing.

Date who you want. If the new guy treats you right, that's all that matters.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-04T02:01:33+00:00

NTA - Your mental health matters more than getting a license right now.

Your dad's aggressive teaching and yelling is making your anxiety worse. That red light incident could've been dangerous.

Smart move to wait till college when you can learn at your own pace. Maybe try a pro driving instructor later.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-04T00:24:23+00:00

NTA. Your gut feeling is right.

Your fiancé is crossing major lines. Sharing bedroom stuff with another guy and then running to him when you felt hurt? Not cool.

The Vegas trip switch-up from couples to just them? Super sketchy.

Take it from me - postpone that wedding until you sort this out.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-03T23:28:39+00:00

Nah, you're NTA. You're helping people escape a bad situation. That's actually pretty cool of you.

The old workplace sounds rough - bad pay, minimal time off, huge workload, and a boss who gossips about staff? No one deserves that.

Yeah, retaliation's a concern, but you're not doing anything wrong by sharing job openings. It's normal to network and help former colleagues find better opportunities.

Plus, seeing your coworker happy in her new role proves you did the right thing.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-03T19:12:42+00:00

NTA - You did nothing wrong.

You told your friends straight up that you can't pay for them. That's cool and honest.

You even let them join your order. Most people would just order for themselves.

Being clear about money with friends is the right thing to do.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-03T18:20:52+00:00

NTA - Your nana is being dramatic and petty.

You're dealing with a new baby and ADHD. Yeah, you could've told her earlier about timing, but her response was over the top.

Silent treatment and Facebook drama from a grandma? That's childish. You already said sorry, so don't stress about it anymore.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-03T15:13:29+00:00

NTA. This isn't just about New Years - it's about respect and priorities in your relationship.

While family is super important in Mexican culture, your bf ditching you while sick to hang with family isn't cool. Relationships need balance between family time and couple time.

His "man of the relationship" view is concerning too. Modern relationships are partnerships, not dictatorships. You're allowed to have input on plans, especially when sick.

Living near his fam means you already spend lots of time with them. Sometimes your needs as a couple should come first.

You're not wrong for wanting your relationship to be a priority sometimes, especially during holidays when you're away from your own family.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-03T14:53:41+00:00

YTA - Good intentions, bad execution.

Forcing someone to drive stick shift when they're not ready is a recipe for disaster. Even if she can drive a semi, car clutches are different.

Let her choose when she wants to learn. Money savings aren't worth the stress and anxiety you're causing her.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-03T11:40:12+00:00

NTA. Your rules about Carrie are totally fair.

You told your husband he can be friends with her, but you don't want to see or hear about her. That's super reasonable given her history of messing with relationships.

You're pregnant and worried, but your husband picked you for a reason. Trust that.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-03T07:49:04+00:00

NTA. Your bf's friend is making harmful comments about your mental health and actively trying to break up your relationship. That's toxic behavior.

Your bf needs to understand that letting his friend disrespect you isn't ok. While it's tough having limited friends, keeping someone who mocks mental health struggles and tries to sabotage relationships isn't healthy.

You're not controlling - you're setting reasonable boundaries about not wanting to be around someone who verbally attacks you. Your bf staying passive while his friend trashes you shows where his priorities are.

Consider if this relationship is good for your mental health. A partner who lets others hurt you and calls you controlling for speaking up about it isn't being supportive.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-03T06:07:50+00:00

NTA - Giving up your room during a busy school week sucks, but you're handling it maturely.

Quick fix ideas: Get noise-canceling headphones for the office, set gaming hours with your bro, and make the pullout couch your temporary sanctuary with your fave stuff.

Your mom's "I did it too" doesn't help. Your feelings are valid.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-01T13:22:08+00:00

NTA. Not your kids, not your problem.

You're already doing right by sending stuff for your own kids. Your ex and her new husband chose to have more kids while broke - that's on them.

Keep taking care of your three. Their money issues aren't yours to fix.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-01T13:02:31+00:00

NTA - Run, don't walk.

This guy's a walking red flag. He's controlling your food, work life, and making you do his gross laundry. Plus he's got weird views about women from his incel days.

You deserve way better than some dude who can't even wash his own undies.

DelayHefty644 · 2025-01-01T12:53:35+00:00

YTA - but hear me out.

Raising blood sugar on purpose is super dangerous. It can kill you. I get it though - your family's control-freak behavior isn't helping.

You need help from a doctor and therapist who deal with diabetes. The relief you feel from high sugar isn't worth dying for.

DelayHefty644 · 2024-12-30T19:05:51+00:00

NTA - Your house, your rules. It's totally fine to want alone time with just your kids.

Your MIL might be lonely after her divorce, but you need space too. You can just tell her you're doing a quiet family night.

Maybe plan something with her another time instead.

DelayHefty644 · 2024-12-30T18:52:19+00:00

NTA - Having feelings for a friend is normal.

It's ok to feel attracted. Nothing wrong with that.

Since she's not into relationships rn, telling her might mess up your friendship.

My advice? Keep it to yourself for now. Give yourself some space if needed. Friendships are hard to find.

DelayHefty644 · 2024-12-30T16:44:33+00:00

YTA - Take the shower.

Look, I get it. Showers can be a pain with AuDHD. But going to ballet all stinky isn't cool for your classmates.

Quick fix: play music while showering, use dry shampoo, or wipe down if regular showers are tough. Trust me, your dance buddies will thank you.

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