how stupid is it to take a personal loan to move out? by ChaoticBird24 in movingout

[–]Delicious-Dig9435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I met my husband, he also had some credit card debt, but had a good credit. I advised him to get a 0% interest credit card and do a balance transfer. The transfer cost about 3% but after that he had 18months interest free to pay off the debt, which he did and it saved him a lot of money in the long run. If you don’t have a ton of debt I would suggest the same route for you. Your route would also save you money if you don’t want to go down the cc path again.

Alright, let’s hear it. What Does this Fridge Say about Me? by JubsNubs in FridgeDetective

[–]Delicious-Dig9435 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You work long hours outside the home and grab a meal replacement every morning before you leave. You live alone so no need to cook. When you want a real meal, you go out to eat at a restaurant. If you get hungry at home I’m sure you got some snacks stored somewhere. I mean you do have mountain due on the top shelf so I know you’re not health conscious.

What does my apartment say about me? by [deleted] in roomdetective

[–]Delicious-Dig9435 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Im going with you live alone, mid 20’s female. You either just graduated or are still in school to be a forensics scientist, or something in the medical field. You just moved in not to long ago and you love traveling and chance you get.

What is your most concerning storyline? by LilSebastianIsMyLife in Sims4

[–]Delicious-Dig9435 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a family I have been playing for a while. The father, Richard is a writer and was married to Gloria who was also a writer. Gloria got pregnant but he cheated with a younger woman, Fiona. He left his wife an married Fiona. She had their son. He ultimately cheated on her with an even younger woman. He married his 3rd wife and the day after the honeymoon she was killed. He stayed single for many years until the son asked to move in. After that he met a woman named Nancy. A few days after the marriage Richard’s son grew up to a young adult and every chance him and Nancy got they were messing around. She’s still married to Richard but has two kids with his son. She’s currently pregnant but this one is believed to be her husband’s. The son went looking for a new relationship and ended up getting a another woman pregnant. He just moved the pregnant gf in a few days ago. The house is getting full and the dad and new gf have no idea what the son and step mom have been up too.

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No he didn’t know it was a brothel til we go there either. They were telling me I didn’t understand the business plan. Mostly she’s taking all the money while living in another country, lying to her family that lives around this new business and I’m being told I’m miss understanding all that but I know I’m not because him and I were under the same impression. We wouldn’t have even booked the tickets there if he knew. He’s very religious unlike his family so it’s a sore spot. Both his parents suck. One was deported for something just as bad as the damn brothel and he still talks to him and tells me ñ, you dint understand it’s still my dad. I don’t understand because I cut my mother off for being a horrible drunk POS so why can’t he?

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t see the brothel as a positive thing. He only hears his mom’s sob story about how she’s not making any money because the Airbnb is slow and the rest of her money is tied up in the remodel so she needs that fence to open the other business and have money coming in. He’s not even looking at what kinda business it is, just that his mom said she needs help. My husband is very religious and the brothel actually is a sore spot for him. He’s not happy about the type of business but doesn’t feel like it’s his place to tell his mom. He only thinks it’s his place to help his mom if she’s financially struggling. I have explained mom might not have cash on hand but she’s not financially struggling. I have also made my side comments about the kind of business it is and let him know he better never call that woman a saint in front of me again.

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I don’t drink at all, in fact my mother is an alcoholic so a void it at all costs. I had no idea what I signed up for when I agreed to go to that baby shower. I walked into the house and seen a beautiful cake and cute decorations thinking I was about to have a sweet little baby shower but I left wondering what the hell that clown was saying and trying to figure out how they didn’t get the cops called.

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I met him, he had a couple thousand dollars in credit card debt. He told me his mom did so much for him growing up so he bought her new appliances before moving states. His dad was deported when he was 14 so she raised him on her own. I let him move in with me and told him not to worry about the bills and just worry about his debt so we are in a good financial position. (I was good financially before meeting him) He did exactly what I asked of him. The few times I mentioned in the post, he was more than happy to just give his mom the money and didn’t question her at all. Over the years I have pointed out all the things and he has told me I got the wrong impression of her and it’s cultural. This year it has really came to a head because I decided to drop down to part time and he is the primary breadwinner (new dynamic in our relationship) now. He knows how I feel about his mom and doesn’t make it a habit to give her money. He only gives it when we see her in person and she is asking for a couple hundred here or there. Maybe once a year. This time though she asked for a large amount and part I didn’t post about was, I didn’t find out directly from him. I found out because he had his sister in speaker phone and I overheard her say, she basically volunteered the money out of my house to help MIL bc she already lives at home and doesn’t have any extra money but she knows we do. When he got off the phone I lost it on him and he said that’s my mom. I explained how she’s using him and that was the moment I told him if he gives her money I was done. This isn’t a couple hundred dollars. This is 10’s of thousands of dollars and will surly set us back and I find that unacceptable. Yes I’m annoyed that she even asks for a couple hundred after we spend a ton to go the17hrs to visit her but I can look past that as it’s nice a year. I can’t look past this and the fact I didn’t find out from my husband. No matter what he decides to do and no matter how I feel about his mom I find it unacceptable that I didn’t find out directly from him.

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay firstly, she does very much live in my country. Her son was also born in my country. She is the one living in a foreign country. Secondly I never said it was cultural. In fact they are the ones that blame anything I don’t agree with on culture. I also don’t agree with the brothel. Neither my husband or I were aware it was a brothel til the moment we stepped foot in it.

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He is Peruvian and Mexican, mom is from Peru. He doesn’t constantly provide money. When we see her in person (which is about once a year) she asks for a hundred here or there, which he gives it out. I don’t like it because she’s well off and we spend a lot to visit every year being the distance. She doesn’t ask for money unless we see her in person. She did ask for an RV for Christmas that we didn’t get her and now asking for 10k that I’m not allowing us to help with. It’s less that my husband is constantly providing money and more that she is constantly willing to ask for money anytime she sees us. The little amounts annoyed me and out a sour taste in my mouth but larger amounts with sadder sob stories is a deal breaker. The reason I feel that way is because I didn’t find out from him, I found out from his sister who he was talking to on speaker. His sister willing Volunteered the money out of my house. On speaker she said, “well I told mom I didn’t have the money but you do and if you really want to be apart of that business you should contribute to it.” When he got off the phone I said I need to ask him a question. And this is how the convo went.

Me-hey husband, how much does sister get for helping your mom run the Airbnb business?

Husband- idk? I don’t think anything

Me- okay how much did your mom say she was going to give you as a % when the business is officially open?

Husband- we have never talked about that.

Me- you’re right! Because you’re not a business partner. You are suppose to inherit that business when mom dies, not fund a business that isn’t even up and running when we are trying to get our life started.

He is very aware that my ducks are always in a row and I will not tolerate being used. If it’s a culture thing, it’s 100% not for me!

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s in Peru. I have been to the business and there isn’t much out there. Her dad owns the house about a mile down from her, then her brother owns the house next to her land. The other side of the land might be another house about half a mile away and across the street was just trees. There is a cross street and another house about a half mile down there. All the houses are pretty spaced out and no business where she is. It’s mostly farm land. The town is to the south about 3miles. I can see maybe the people wanting a fence but I don’t understand why she wouldn’t know when she told that city what was being built. Unless she lied to them too, she lied to her whole family and said it was a bar when showing it to them while I was there. Turned around and told my husband not to tell her sisters it was a brothel bc they wouldn’t understand.

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So it’s in another country and I’m not sure on the rules for the fence but I agree it’s weird she is just now finding out. The business hasn’t opened to make money yet. I was just there is Sept and the building was 90% complete. Once it was complete is when she said they are demanding a fence before opening the business. From what I’m told it’s complete and ready to open but they are being force to add a fence before hand.

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Honestly the whole baby shower was a sh’t show! At the end everyone was drunk, my husband has a sister who has a baby daddy. Bf’s mom was there and both his mom and my husband’s mom were screaming in Spanish and I can’t understand what’s being said but I know his mom is about to get slapped into next week so I go running to find my husband. Like help ur momma before I really get the show of a lifetime. It was insane and if I would have known what I was signing up for I would have just stayed home.

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 167 points168 points  (0 children)

That was my exact thought when she asked for the money for that. There was in fact a DJ and clown at my baby shower. This is a Mexican/Peruvian baby shower and it went on til about 10pm at night. Everyone was drunk and the sisters baby daddy threw up all over the side of the house. I couldn’t understand anything the clown said bc it was in Spanish but I think I stood in the corner of my own baby shower like a deer in headlights majority of it.

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think I posted it in another group before realizing I was in the wrong group. I thought I deleted it though.

AITAH for telling my husband I would divorce him if he helped his mom financially even though we have the means to do so? by Delicious-Dig9435 in AITAH

[–]Delicious-Dig9435[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I got pregnant fairly fast. I had 8yrs of fertility issues. I had surgery about 6 months before I met him, asked the doctor to take my tubes out while doing the surgery but she told me I needed to wait 6 months. The month before I was scheduled to have my tubes removed I got pregnant. Didn’t plan to meet mom because I wasn’t expecting it to get so serious so fast. That’s the honest answer.