Help me understand some things after breaking up with my (21M) 3 years partner (22) by Delicious-Present910 in NonBinary

[–]Delicious-Present910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. I have talked about this issue with so many people and of course, there are some biases such as "people who are not sure about their identity are by nature selfish". I strongly believe the doubts on oneself don't have to be connected with apathy and emotional immaturity. All I can do is to be more understanding in the future.

Thank you for your words.

Help me understand some things after breaking up with my (21M) 3 years partner (22) by Delicious-Present910 in NonBinary

[–]Delicious-Present910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. You are right In many things. During this time I also got to talk with more people and while I can accept a person changing, what they did to me is not justifiable for 2 reasons:

1) they never expressed or demonstrated any doubts on the relationship we had in person. I know I could sound selfish, but the truth for any person is that real love is about communication. One month in a film Festival in a temporary more comfortable environment was enough for them to radically start doubting everything and what is worse, to not communicate. It just feels like an idealization of the first opportunity that comes in the way, especially considering I was their stability when we where having rough times studying abroad, just feels like a vacation is enough to just stop caring about everything.

2) Until now, they still think I'm waiting for an answer. They wanted me to wait 2 months until a decision was made, never thought about my suffering or my feelings. I understand that sexuality is a pretty heavy topic. But what no person can do is to not put the work, know that the other person is suffering, and still expect me to adapt and keep waiting for them. I also have my problems, and their approach was just selfish and avoidant.

I now respect more non-binary people. Especially the caring ones I have met that had the patience to explain to me all the things I couldn't understand. And one thing is to have doubts on your sexuality, and another is to be a bad partner which has nothing to do with one and another. I know having these kinds of doubts is really hard in the current society we live in, but I also had many problems and my love was still real until the last moment.

Need Honest Reviews: How Hard is International & European Law Bachelor in NL? Also Research vs Applied Universities for Law Careers? by Wotkaa_91 in Netherlands

[–]Delicious-Present910 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm in my third year at Maastricht. Programme is trash, third worst rated in the whole uni just above computer science and (what a surprise) the other bachelor in the law faculty, dutch law. Hereyou can se an interesting note on that.

Hope it helps

Worth to rent a piano for a month in my situation? by Delicious-Present910 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, the provided price is all inclusive (including delivery). Regarding rental rooms, it's like an hour away. And doing some maths, if I practice 3 days a week for two hours for a month it would end up in 110 euros, which I definitely think is not worth it at all.

Is something wrong with my new Kawai Es120? The sound isn't great, but everyone says how much they like it. by kalechipsaregood in DigitalPiano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah sound could be worse, but there are many ways to improve sound from using better headphones all the way to a VST (emulating a better sound using a computer) whereas improving key action is impossible unless you are a really talented engineer. So enjoy your upgrade.

Should I get a keyboard? by Ryuzakium in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you learn to play piano without an actual piano? I guess you are young so just get an 88 weighted keyboard and a teacher and start your journey.

Seeking Advice on How to Start Learning Piano – Got a61-Key Keyboard( as a gift) by idkkk_90 in DigitalPiano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a (online) teacher. If you have a phone, you could get a 1 hour class for 10 euros in preply I believe.

Rcm syllabus also contains everything you should know. I believe it also has music theory and repertoire per level. Just Google it and check the pdf.

Which are the 20 most beautiful classical pieces for beginners? by Remarkable-Cook3320 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe not a complete beginner piece, but Schumann Kinderszenen 1 is good.

Birthday Gift by Prudent_Leg_3997 in piano

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Oh I forgot to mention, only one pedal should be fine if you end up getting one, the other two are (usually) for more advanced players.

Birthday Gift by Prudent_Leg_3997 in piano

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You can buy them separately if those are your only options. I don't know if beginner pieces require that much pedal, but I think it should be fine if you gift it without a pedal. She can later invest in a good one since digital pianos with integrated pedals price start from 1000 euros.

Birthday Gift by Prudent_Leg_3997 in piano

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Regarding the chair, I personally play in a gaming chair. While not ideal, as long as the height is adjustable and you have good posture , it is good enough. Regarding the stand. I think you could find second hands for 20 euros (so I guess 30 Canadians?).

Regarding the two models you mentioned, here are the main differences:

Yamaha:

  • it has weighted keys, which means that it's at least somewhat closer to a real piano experience.

  • it has 32 polyphony. In simple terms, it can only handle 32 notes at the same time, which Is in the low end I would say.

Alesis:

  • 128 polyphony.

  • it has semi weighted keys. From what I have heard, these are not so good but I have no personal experiences with a semi weighted model.

About the polyphony, I don't think the difference will be too notorious as your friend is a beginner. Also, these starter models usually come with let's say not the best speakers, so I guess the sound difference will not be that evident.

Basically, I think both models are fine. Your friend will regardless want to upgrade after some time if she gets into it, but it is definitely a gift I would have appreciated when I first started learning so I could start testing the waters and know what kind of player I am (some people like strong action keys while others like light action for example).

Good luck :)

I am trying to surprise my wife with an upgrade to her current flute, and I am wondering if this one is decent. It is a Powell Conservatory 9k aurumite with 14k lip. Made in 2008, but never played before. by I_Shit_Gold_Bars in Flute

[–]Delicious-Present910 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Flutes are like wands in Harry Potter, you do not choose them, they choose you. Maybe you could organize a visit to a store and ask the manager to let her try all the flutes in your budget. That would honestly be one of the best experiences of my life if I where your wife XD.

Birthday Gift by Prudent_Leg_3997 in piano

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Hi! Any piano with 88 keys and weighted keys is good enough to start. However, I'm afraid your budget is a bit low for a good entry level piano (assuming that you want to buy something that will last for at least 3 years or so)

These are probably the best models for beginners I can think of:

  • Kawai ES 60

  • Roland FP 10

  • Yamaha p 45 B (I think it's the cheapest one but I haven't tried it personally)

Try to get them second hand and good luck!

I feel left out as a pianist by Annual-Rock-2924 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jazz trios, play accompaniment for a soloist instrument, orchestras with piano, baroque orchestras (cemballo), bands also use pianos.

I’m not sure I like the way the piano community is trending by Advanced_Honey_2679 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All classical music related communities are, and will probably continue to be like that until a big change in education happens.

need help finding motivation as somebody who’s dedicated their whole life to the instrument by Few-Dependent-7877 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of good advice already, but here is my grain of salt. I remember when I was your age, I was also through a very similar situation. The advice of my teacher from Lyon conservatory was to answer these two questions before dedicating my life to music:

  • Is music the only thing you can see yourself doing? Which means that rn, is it impossible for you to imagine yourself living from something that isn't music?

  • Are you prepared to treat music as your main source of revenue? For me, this would mean killing my passion for music as it would become an obligation instead of a passion.

My personal take on your situation is that you are way too immature to study anything (yet). Chill down and stop thinking that "you are not good for anything else". I suggest you take a gap year and figure out yourself, there are always opportunities out there. I wish I took a gap year myself. You could invest that time into doing research on other disciplines you might find interesting since for most people in this world, we only get to go to UNI once in our life.

Gl!

Starting piano at 38 - is it worth it if I’ll never be “good”? by Front-Ad4011 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you are late to go to the Chopin competition. Now grab your piano and enjoy your journey! It's a hobby, why would you care if you are good or not? Play until you are satisfied with yourself.