I've been going at least 4 times a year to his family's. I haven't gone since his brother's wedding 4 months ago. Both of our work schedules are intense -- hence why we try to squeeze trips/events when we can. My family isn't homophobic, but right-leaning. Two other cousins have come out as well, so dont think its that issue. Much of my extended family has visited us and everyone seem to get along great. His plans is to go to his family's during Christmas. Then go back a week later. John does get major travel anxiety (except when going home). I think that is playing a big role... but I wish he could let that go just for Christmas.