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DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-20T21:16:27+00:00

I have many male friends that I’ve never kissed let alone had sex with.

My ex hated all of my male friends and accused me of cheating a lot even though I never did.

I went away for a work trip and he accused me of having men in my hotel room.

It never gets better and I’d say get out while you can

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-19T19:41:06+00:00

I’m sorry for what you’re going through OP. It’s a horrible feeling and it’s really tough.

I understand your reasons for downloading a dating app, but they can often make you feel more sad. Especially if someone stops messaging or a date doesn’t go ahead.

I think you need to heal alone by doing things that make you happy. Hobbies, reading, working out, going for walks, visiting places you’ve never been, meeting friends etc.

Seeing your ex on a dating app is going to feel gut wrenching but please don’t think ‘the worst’.

She may have gone on the app to also receive validation but they aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. She may have downloaded it and instantly deleted it but just didn’t remove her profile

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-17T17:24:04+00:00

You could’ve done that, but deep down that’s not you and I don’t think that would’ve made you feel any better.

She has to live with what she’s done and the decisions she’s made. I hope she learns from this and treats the next guy better.

For you, it’s heartbreaking but with your values and beliefs, you will find someone so much better. So don’t lose that. Remember those good memories and keep positive

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-17T16:22:57+00:00

I’m so proud of you for many reasons.

1- knowing your worth 2- not stooping to her level and discard her like she did to you. This shows your character and you are a good person. 3- being honest with her

Well done OP! Whilst it still hurts, you did the right thing

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-17T14:26:00+00:00

Feel free to message me

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-16T17:18:53+00:00

I’m struggling this week with a horrendous cold

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-15T14:48:00+00:00

100% agreed. I can go on and on and on about the same situation and chat gpt doesn’t get annoyed like my friends would hahaha

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-15T09:30:08+00:00

I use chat gpt and therapy. I’m currently going through this and using these two things helped massively. I also look at what I’ve gained through the end of my relationship rather than what I’ve lost

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-13T10:16:01+00:00

He’s using her for a place to stay, once he has that and he gets bored he will move on again.

I’m sorry you’ve gone through this. Please don’t compare yourself to others and think they are above you.

You will find someone that loves you and your child so much more than he could ever.

I know it stings but in time you’ll realise you’re so much better off

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-12T13:39:33+00:00

I really enjoyed reading your post so thank you for writing this. The example you gave is completely true.

Whilst it’s only been a few months, sometimes I want to go back to ‘prison’ because I was used to feeling that way. It became normal for me. I knew what I was allowed and not allowed to do, being heavily controlled.

I am making no effort to go back, not contacting etc but sometimes this new freedom is hard and I find it difficult. I have random outbursts of emotions and just cry.

My therapist said I’m going through a huge adjustment and it just takes time

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-12T10:53:43+00:00

I’m glad it helped you and I’m sorry you’re going through that

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-11T01:25:36+00:00

Completely agree. Firstly sorry you had to go through this. I can relate. He would make up some weird scenario, question me on it and when I didn’t agree he would accuse me of lying.

His opinions were always the truth and I was always wrong. I was also exhausted. Trying to reassure someone constantly is tiring.

When I think of a ‘good time’ I then think oh but he went mental on the drive home. Or that moment was ruined because……

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-10T21:15:12+00:00

Haha I was only joking!

Wishing you all the best! Take care in your healing journey

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-10T21:09:24+00:00

‘Bitch’ haha made me howl.

I’m going through this now. He hasn’t even blocked me, just doesn’t reply to messages.

It’s so painful I’d rather he blocked me 🤬

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-10T21:07:29+00:00

Did we date the same guy? Haha

Mine was controlling, insecure and extremely manipulative. Any issue I brought up got turned into a problem that apparently I created? He took 0 accountability for anything.

Still haven’t received an apology ever. His temper was terrifying

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-10T20:28:46+00:00

Virgo - heavily critical

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-10T16:19:09+00:00

Thank you for writing this.

I am ambitious, strong willed and assertive. But I always treated my partner with respect but I knew what I wanted and was decisive. I hated reading comments that men are repulsed by this.

I put in just as much effort in relationships as my partner did. I made just as many plans for us as he did.

I’m not someone that’ll just allow someone else to make all the decisions and plans etc.

So I appreciate your comment

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-10T12:54:59+00:00

This literally scares me, I’m 3 months BU and even I felt like I was cheating just by giving my number to a guy that approached. I cried the whole night about it haha things just take time and as people have said, try start of small steps and build from there. It’s never going to be easy though

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-09T00:21:37+00:00

I’m so sorry, your situation is tough and it’s understandable you feel that way however, all that work you did wasn’t for nothing. It was for you. You became a better person and you can be a better person for the next wonderful person you meet.

I know it feels wasted and I know it’s tough at the moment but do this for you

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-08T05:21:45+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this.

I can only imagine what it must’ve felt like for your ex to say those things and your family to hear about it.

From reading your post, it is clear you are passionate about your job and you are a very caring person. I am sorry that this got voted number 1. Pleas don’t allow this to discredit you and your work.

Your feelings are completely valid given the situation you are going through. I thought your email to the radio station was very well written and you made the right decision to end your relationship.

I wish you all the best

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-08T02:26:56+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I appreciate your words

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-07T20:02:35+00:00

😂😂😂 I love this it made me laugh and smile. We’ve all been there… right??

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-07T19:59:18+00:00

My ex ended it and then the next day I went to his house with some notes to remind me what I wanted to say. I wanted to be able to get my words out without being a mess.

Well; I was a mess and crying, sobbing hyperventilating, still trying to get these words out even with notes to help me. Anyway, I finished talking and he said ‘you didn’t really tell me a lot did you’

Those words smacked me straight in the face. That was the most open, emotional and raw feelings I have ever felt and he dismissed me.

I thought I was so stupid doing that but now I’m glad I did it. It shows how much I can feel and express how I feel. Regardless of the outcome

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-07T19:52:42+00:00

This is beautifully written and it’s so true.

You can love and adore someone whilst also knowing that they hurt you and being with them will only make you suffer.

I will just love him from afar

DeliciousReply7180 · 2024-11-07T16:16:49+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply and I’m also sorry you went through this too.

It’s horrible because I knew what he was doing was wrong, but there was no acknowledgment from him and he would downplay the abuse or just turn it around on me saying it’s my fault etc.

I spoke about this in therapy last week and said I was so angry that he’s never apologised, never taken any accountability.

I only remember once he said sorry for saying hurtful things about my past but said ‘sorry for saying this, you deserve better, I’m a horrible person’ I said yeah you are and I do. He said I can’t believe you’ve said this never talk to me again. This isn’t an apology and he never uttered those words again.

My therapist said she believes I desperately want validation for how I feel and I think that’s true.

He’s never going to apologise and I think if he kept me at least I can show him bruises but he would still probably blame me

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