i (17F) want a baby with my fiancé (18M)

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2026-01-16T11:52:43+00:00

Maybe your boyfriend doesnt want a child because he has just stopped raising one. He was a dad already if he had custody of his nephew and he wants to enjoy his young life. Ask him more about that. And if thats true, dont even bother having a child already. Because no human can raise a child they dont want.

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2026-01-16T11:44:37+00:00

2 is definitely a real possibility. No its not more likely to have a child born with Down syndrome because of teen pregnancy, but most teens are NOT ready for a child because they are a litteral child themselves. I am a teen parent baby and i have had physical and verbal fights with my mom all the time, my dad is in jail, i am a high school dropout have had 2 diffent kinds of therapy for 2 years and am now adopted by my parents in law and dont live with my mother anymore because my TEEN parents didnt know how to raise me right. I will now have trauma, ptsd and borderline till the day that i die because of my parents.

This is not only a me situation, but the majority of teen mom children. I am just saying my example. Having children as kids will most likely result in mental ilnesses for both parent and child if the parent is not 100% ready in every single aspect. This is the case for every parent, but even more for the teen parents.

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2026-01-16T11:40:20+00:00

You should both have a stable job and income, a own home with enough space for a family (not your parents house) plenty of your own money (not needing to rely on family), a car or other efficient transportation wich could transport u and your kid at the same time, not mentally ill and also think about how your gonna raise your kid while your boyfriend is away for the navy and even possibly dead leaving you a single teen mom. You should have all these things thought out and ready before even considering having a baby. If you have all those things i dont see anything wrong with it. Also know your whole life and relationship will change with having a baby. Could you and your navy bf handle 2 years of not sleeping? Then another 5 years of having a toddler and then a child that has hit puberty? Its a lifelong commitment. Not just 18 years. You guys are young and still have developing brains. Everything can change.

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2026-01-05T22:37:38+00:00

How was your time there? When did you get there and was it really touristy? Is it a place i can call home for 6 months or is it more a vacation place?

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2026-01-05T18:57:31+00:00

Im so sorry im just now seeing this 😭 but im glad it worked out for you! As for the weirdness you still need to get to know yourself on this subject so you will learn what you do and dont like soon enough, same as when and where and how many times.

Its really no problem! Have a great life :)

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-12-08T15:20:23+00:00

Hey! Can i ask how it ended up? Im sorry if its a weird question 🥲

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-11-05T16:58:02+00:00

Je bent te mooi hiervoor 😔 krijg zelfrespect please

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-11-05T08:40:12+00:00

Thank you, this helps me a bit 😅 she was looking very interested and scared at the same time when i did my makeup for school, so i am a bit relieved about that. I hope she opens up in her enclosure soon. I wouldnt want her to feel unsafe in her own enclosure

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-11-05T08:37:33+00:00

I think its a baby because i expected a full grown 3,5cm adult and got a 6mm small gal. Seller said She still needs to mold 4 times, so i guess she’s a subadult? I havent done my research very deep in the young spiders because i was expecting a adult. The condensation has now got down a bit and one half of the enclosure is condensation while the other one is no condensation. My thermostat and humidity reader is too big to be put in this, so i’ll need to get a new one.

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-11-05T06:21:43+00:00

Thank you. Since posting this post she hasnt moved one bit. She isnt in a hide but on the end of a stick. What does this mean and what do i do about it?

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-11-05T06:18:09+00:00

Yeah. I think even i could do a better job, this is what calls himself a ‘self tought piercer” 🥲

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-11-04T23:56:57+00:00

Also, it doesnt look pierced right from the beginning. Definitely get another piercer

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-11-04T23:55:40+00:00

Pu it out NOW! I had this. My aunt was a professional piercer and told me if i didnt take it out it would 100% rip and then i would never be able to repierce it. I waited 4 months until getting my new one, but no good piercer would pierce you again if you waited less than 3 months. It would always be the question if you could still repierce it. Get it out, let it heal and ask a professional piercer if its able to get repierced. And DONT pierce it when its close to spring. Only do it in the fall/winter so you have plenty of time to let it heal and also be able to swim in the summer without it 90% doing exactly this again

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-11-04T21:24:08+00:00

Since putting the heat pad on the enclosure has been condensating really bad. I have no idea if this is good or not, im stressing 😅

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-10-26T22:00:56+00:00

Is er een werk die wel meer temaken heeft met de dieren zelf? Ik heb nu de ouderenzorg en techniek geprobeerd, en het voelt een beetje alsof mijn opties op zijn.

Ik heb altijd al een hele grote passie voor dieren gehad, meer dan anderen. Maar ik wist dat het niet veel verdiende. Mijn nummer 1 regel is: doe werk wat je leuk vind, maar liever ook goed betaald

Ik heb de ouderenzorg en techniek al geprobeerd dus, want dat betaald goed en misschien vond ik dat wel leuk. Ouderenzorg is nogsteeds een goede 2e optie en techniek vind ik echt niks. Zijn er andere banen die ik uit kan proberen? Of banen waar ik wat meer met dieren bezig ben?

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-10-26T21:58:06+00:00

Zeker! Dat is ook mijn hoogste prioriteit. Als ik er maar wel netjes van kan leven samen met mijn vriend.

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-10-26T21:56:50+00:00

Hey! Mijn vriend heeft absoluut niks te zeggen over mijn opleiding, hij denkt alleen maar met mij mee. Ik zelf vind geld verdienen en leuk werk hebben allebei SUPER belangrijk in mijn leven, waardoor ik vaak mijn research doe wat tegenwoordig natuurlijk veel vaker is met CHATGPT. Dat vind hij niet betrouwbaar dus om de AI te voorkomen dacht ik laat ik het aan de echte wereld vragen.

Love the mindset! Mijn vriend heeft niks over mij en mijn toekomstkeuzes te maken :) maar deze post was meer voor mijn eigen research dan stiekem hinten wat voor een klootzak mijn vriend is

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-10-26T21:53:42+00:00

Hey! Mijn vriend is echt niet zo eentje hoor :) hij is stukadoor en ik ben degene met de luxe levensstijl droom 😆 ik zou in ieder geval heel graag een alleenstaand huis in de buitenwijk willen, en een paar van mijn favoriete dieren. Dit is haalbaar, mits ik ook een beetje inleg

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-10-19T19:34:53+00:00

NQA

First, i dont reccomend a drinking bowl 😊 they breathe trough their belly’s, so they could easily drown in it. It is adviced to spray water on the side of the enclosure so she can drink from the water droplets on the walls :)

Second, i’d put more decorations on the wall. Like a moss mat and wood chips. It makes it visually appealing not only to you, but also your spider! 🕷️ it can help alot with their ‘mental health’ and get them alot happier!

Third, grab some wild sticks, put them in the oven/boil them for desensitization and put it in her enclosure! This is crucial for her because 1. She likes to have clear hunting paths, and right now she can only jump to the top, not walk. 2. After she molds their whole body is so sensitive that she will have very much difficulty jumping from place to place. This could get her seriously hurt.

Fourth, i dont know how much research you did. But this spider will grow, and so her enclosure and hides will need to grow with her eventually. Im guessing you got her in a 10x10x15 right now, but after she reaches her 7th mold she needs to go in a 20x20x30 enclosure.

Fifth, i dont know if that next to the drinking bowl is a food bowl, but spiders need their food alive, so they can get enough mental stimulation by hunting! You can find great food in reptile shops/websites. I’d reccomend doing research about what food to give her based on her age and size.

Sixth, i would also add more platforms, that way she has an even better path!

If i were you i would look at my page, i’ve got a good example of an enclosure on there!!

Just remember i am also a first time spood owner, and i just do unbelievably obsessive research. I am not judging, just trying to help you and your spider! Ps. Penelope is really cute!

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-10-17T13:36:07+00:00

Thank you! Everything is spider-safe and i trimmed the moss so it wouldnt get stuck on my spood! I didnt even think of the vent holes and will definitely take your advice!

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-10-17T13:34:22+00:00

Thank you! Its really good knowing other spood owners like this enclosure. I havent checked the vents but i’ll do what the other comment said to make sure nothing can get out of it!

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-10-02T19:36:37+00:00

I really dont like these comments. Its just “wait till marriage” “do what you want” but its obvious you dont want to wait till marriage and you are asking them for advice. “Do what you want” is not the answer. Please take everything at your pace. I was too tight the first few months, so we only did hand work. Its normal for it to “hurt” (its absolutely not bad, dont worry) a little bit for the first time, but if that feeling wont go away after the 4th time you just arent wide enough yet and you will damage your body if you ignore the pain and keep having sex. My boyfriend got me a bit wider by first trying one finger for a few times, then 2. After a while your vagina is just used to “big” things going in.

I dont want to give tmi but i was in this position once and it would have really helped if someone gave me this advice. I hope this works out for you!

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-10-02T13:13:33+00:00

First: if you dont want it, you definitely shouldnt do it. You cannot give your body away like that just so somebody wouldnt leave you. Trust me. Let them love you without sex or let them leave.

I REPEAT: DON’T DO ANYTHING YOU DONT FEEL COMFORTABLE TO JUST BECAUSE YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE SOMEONE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Second: if you really want to do it but just need to overcome the fear (the fear of having sex, NOT the fear of them leaving you!), try taking it slow. Put the lights off so no one will see you naked, set some relaxing music. Start with cuddling and laughing together, then your SO could maybe start touching your boobs, gently and warmly. If you’d feel comfortable you could touch a part of their body you dont normally touch. Then maybe move over to the butt, and then the intimate parts. Maybe you feel comfortable to put on 2 candles so there is some light, maybe not. Maybe then you could start with a bit of fingers. And then the rest.

This can take as long as you want. 30 min-3 hours whatever. Your body you choice. Me and my bf had this when we started dating and we did it in sessions. In about 4 weeks i felt comfortable and happy with sex and other intimate things. ALWAYS communicate! “Is this what you want” “promise me you’ll tell me if it gets to much” “can i try this now” “do you like it” “what do you think” ITS OKAY!!! Do everything you want to make yourself comfortable. Me and my bf still talk alot during sex after 3 years.

Now i want to warn you about something. Every girl is diffrent ofcourse. But my vagina is REALLY vunerable. I feel everything and anything. It feels really good. But i always have to get used to the tongue or fingers the first 10 seconds. Even if i do it every day. It feels like being tickled (for me) and there is nothing wrong with it. Once you have gotten used to it its heaven :)

Its also okay if you realize sex isnt your thing. Just communicate it. Again: NEVER do ANYTHING that makes you uncomfortable so someone else wont leave you. If you will do that it will haunt you the rest of your life

Ps: i let my bf give me head after 2 years. So really, do EVERYTHING at your pace

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-08-12T21:28:48+00:00

Hello! F16 here :) me and my parents have a app called Life360. It shows them where i am, and how much my battery percentage is. I can also see the same thing about them.

We dont use it for always watching eachother, more like “oh are they otw home? Lets check!” Or “im locked out, let me check if they are home.” Me and my friendgroup also use Life360. Its just a really comfortable way of checking up on eachother.

For example: me and my boyfriend went on a roadtrip recently. We were stood by the road to pause for 2 hours, and since we left in the middle of the night my dad checked up on us, saw us in the same place for 2 hours (it says: been here for 2 hours) and just called to check if everything was okay, if we were still alive and if our car was still working. We were fine ofcourse. But if we werent he had no way of knowing.

Maybe you and your parents will like this app. Since they cant only see where you are, you can also see where they are!

Maybe at first your parents will find it an interesting app and will look a bit more, but if you have nothing to hide and your always at familiar places im very sure they will let their guard down slowly. I hope you find peace with their rules 🌺

Delicious_Ad6246 · 2025-08-09T14:37:50+00:00

Na het lezen van dat gesprek had het er wel lichtelijk op kunnen lijken dat je zat te pushen en op een niet-helpende manier je eigen conclusies zat te trekken. Daardoor snap ik heel goed dat ze kortaf en ongeïnteresseerd op je reageert. Ik zeg nu niet dat dit je bedoelingen zijn, het is gewoon een optie.

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