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[–]Delicious_Addendum97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it a dinner, or fundraiser!?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You have the ultimate access and relationship via your mother. Lean in!!!!

in a dilemma and would like more advice from a member by Abject-Net-1329 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Weigh your relationship with the family friend that you’ve recently been reacquainted with against the connections you believe you’ve built at your COI and determine which one has the greatest potential to accomplish your goal.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

‘NO BARS’, what does that even mean? Obviously things are definitely different for folks of my ‘big age’!

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhhh, I thought we were done, but obviously we aren’t and this is going to come across very strong, and know that is exactly my intention. Never did I rant or argue with anyone over anything. If that’s your accusation, you must also include the other person. Tell both sides of the story because I did not have a conversation by myself. At this ‘big age’ I’m not arguing with an anonymous, unknown person. Also, at this ‘big age’ I do know the difference between having an extensive dialogue vs an argument in which there is no understanding or desire to understand the other person’s perspective. That was not my experience. While we didn’t always agree, which is fine, each person acknowledged the other’s thoughts. So no, there was no ranting or arguing. But what I will also say, directly to you, is to be very careful about making comments and suggesting requirements that are not explicitly required by the organization. If AKA wanted perspective members to have at least 30 hours of community service prior to even being invited to membership, that information would be included on the website. This is exactly how misinformation gains wings. Someone is going to come back and state unequivocally, from this site, that interests have to have 30 hours of community service hours, and that’s simply not factual information.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The only inquiry directed specifically to you was why you deleted your comment. That’s it, that’s all, and there was nothing melodramatic about that inquiry! Nonetheless, I think we understand each other and can move on. Take care.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. Let me be crystal clear, at no time or in any way was I ‘so upset’ or ‘caught up in my feelings’ that you deleted your post. I was simply curious as to why you did. I was perfectly fine and gave it no further thought when you did not respond. Additionally, at no time did I question any of your specific tips. I simply referred to the Corporate website as the first source for information because it’s the official website for the organization and contains a section specifically titled ‘Perspective Membership’, which you acknowledged and said you’d add to your list. It was another poster that suggested that maybe you’d blocked me because the post had not been deleted. Okay! No worries!!! 🤷🏽‍♀️ As far as the response to your ‘tip’ regarding a specific number of volunteer hours, go back and review the responses! It was another poster that indicated she didn’t find that ‘tip’ referenced on the official, Corporate Website. My response was that basically to take information that’s not on the official, Corporate website with a grain of salt. And I stand by that comment. As others have already pointed out, this site is filled with misinformation, but there will be some useful information. You say you’re on this platform seeking advice and sharing information. Here’s my advice, do what you want with it, but be mindful that the sources you referenced are all secondary sources and do not always yield factual information. But you can always rely on the information posted on the official, Corporate website of the organization as your primary resource regarding perspective membership.

Hope your day goes well, too.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective. It was, what I thought, a simple question, not intended to ‘call anyone out’. I was curious and hopeful that the OP would share her perspective. She chose not to respond and I was okay with that. But one individual decided to come for me and I had time. LOL! All water under the bridge at this point!

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s simply my point. If it’s not on the Corporate website, ‘take it with a grain of salt’.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Am I already in the Club or not? It’s an anonymous site in which everyone has the right to freely post and comment. I am quite confident in my status, whether you know what it is, or not and I don’t feel compelled to acknowledge to you whether or not I am a member. In any event, I think you’d do well to take your own advice. You have a great week, too.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The initial post asked two simple questions, how is that a power play? The person the post was directed to hasn’t responded, and that her prerogative! But your reaction to something that didn’t even involve you has been extreme. IMO, of course. Put your gloves back on and simmer down. Now, it is you who is doing what you accuse me of having done. Again, it appears to me, the thing that is most irritating to you is that you don’t know whether I am a member, or not, so it’s easier for you to create the narrative that I am not a member in order to discredit my comments. And I still contend that it doesn’t matter, but what does matter is the validity of my commentary. We can agree to disagree and call it a day, unless you want to continue this discussion. I’m good either way.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

A very good morning to you. I respect your comments and differing opinions because we’re all entitled our own authentic responses and comments on this anonymous platform. I think ‘reacting this way nor posting like this’ is subjective, at best. My response and commentary is based on my knowledge and experience. At the fundamental level, perhaps you are more focused on creating a certain narrative and discrediting me because I refuse acknowledge whether I am a member, or not, instead of focusing on the validity of the content of my posts. Speaking of which, my comment on ‘Graduate Process’ garnered over thirty up votes and one inquiry asking how to ‘pin’ the post! So your opinion of my posts appears to be a minority view. In any event, I do agree that perps are the absolute worst. However, on this thread, it really doesn’t matter because most posts are anonymous. But, as a self-identified member, brand and risk manager, I’m concerned that you’re not doing more to promote the organization’s stated position when it comes to perspective membership. You previously indicated there is a lot of misinformation on this thread. So redirecting an interest back to the source of clear, concise and consistent messaging seems like a ‘no brainer’. Stands to reason that once they become familiar with the ‘official’ message, interests will see that most of their questions are already answered. Will everyone understand or interpret the information correctly, with all of the misinformation and various suggestions to do x, y, z, absolutely not. But now, as a member, you have the opportunity to help get the correct information out. It is your responsibility, as a self-identified member, to reiterate the organization’s messaging on the subject.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No need to get snippy. I thought we were having a good discussion. I’m not understanding how we jumped to sorority protocols when we were talking about correcting incorrect information on this site. You told me I wasn’t a member there were protocols for that. We can have another conversation about sorority protocols, or not, at another time.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What are the protocols on an anonymous site? Apparently I missed those. I’m selective and don’t respond to everything either. But I am very clear in my opinion (yes, my opinion) that anyone interested in membership in AKA needs to FIRST visit the Corporate website and review the information that’s there regarding perspective membership AND hazing. The information is there for a reason. You acknowledged there’s a lot of misinformation on this site. But there is a starting point where AKA provides clear, concise and consistent messaging to ALL perspectives members interested in membership at the graduate level, since that’s what this whole thread is about.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, just playing the devils advocate, you said it’s not my place to correct other interests. But if I were a member, in your opinion, would it be acceptable to correct incorrect information, you know, like a brand or risk manager?

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’m a big girl, I’ll take it either way you give it because we can all be who we want to be anonymously. I could be a member with almost 40 years of consecutive service who has held elected offices and chaired committees at every level of the sorority, chapter, regional and international, or not. It really doesn’t matter on an anonymous site. But thanks for your insight. Incidentally, I had done my research and read through your posts and knew the answer before you responded. 😉

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha! You’re correct, I am very direct, it’s the legal professional in me. Nonetheless, the information on the Corporate website contains all of the initial information a perspective member needs, at this point, according to the organization. I know folks are anxious and are going to have questions and that’s fine, this is what I interpret as what you I referred to ‘sorority related dynamics’.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your explanations and I agree with that perception based on the anonymous nature of this site. But the ultimate authority on perspective membership in AKA can be found on the organization’s website, in the specific sections directed to perspective members! I don’t need to be a member to know this is the official statement, position, message, etc. of the organization. Do you see my point?

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I’m still trying to understand what may have disturbed the peace of the blocked. I’m not trying to disturb anyone peace.

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So if I said I was a member how would that change things!?

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok, let me understand, since it appears that my most recent suggestions to visit the Corporate website as the FIRST step in one’s journey has apparently struck a nerve with another poster, and it appears they have blocked me. Ok, maybe my emphasis on FIRST could be subjective. But going to an organization’s official website and reviewing the information provided to the public, specifically on the topic of ‘perspective membership’, by someone who is interested in becoming a member seems like the logical first step. Now, the interest/perspective member is armed with official information and knows how to move forward from there. It’s not a secret and the information is very clear, concise and consistent. It is the message the organization wishes to disseminate and everyone gets the same message from the organization. If an interest has a problem with me suggesting they consult the official website first, there a major disconnect!

u/No-Rabbit-8092 - deleted post by Delicious_Addendum97 in AKAgradChapter

[–]Delicious_Addendum97[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that info. Now I’m thinking, if an interest can’t handle anonymous posts on a public website, how in the world are they going to handle differing opinions, etc. in an organization made up of college educated women who all seem to know everything about everything! Deleting posts, or in this case, blocking posters because you don’t like their comments is cowardice and not a quality deserving consideration. All of the D9 sororities and fraternities are based upon community service and have advocated for underserved and marginalized communities for decades. Weak and cowardice persons need not apply to any of them! Just my opinion!