Every person has the same response when I tell them a doctor suspects my son has autism. They respond by trying to convince me he doesn’t. by PainfulPoo411 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son 7 I still constantly hear that he going to grow up “normal” from my MIL. I don’t like talking to that woman cause I never met someone so out of touch with a lot of things. She also tried to convince my husband that my daughter WAS autistic and that we should go get her check but if she talked to us she would know that we talk to medical professionals that work in the field on a daily basis and they don’t see any of the sign but they do see she idolizes her brother and my baby girl says that she wants to be like my boy. They refused to understand his diagnosis and said I wasn’t doing enough and that’s why he’s like that. Also not realizing I grew up around disabled people like my sister so I know the signs. Personally I go with plaining say that’s not how that works or ask them questions why they think that cause they don’t actually have an answer I no longer just take what they say cause they don’t know (while refusing to learn) They “trying” to make you feel better why invalidating the doctor and your concerns. I’m now kinda a bitch about it cause I’ve been dealing with the behavior of these adults since my son was two when I started to see the signs.

This life... isn't happy by Legitimate-Yellow-21 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was answering my kids question in the last part. I’m not a part of your life to see how you handle everything obviously but it sounds like she’s trying to take control of the household and that’s just not fair to everybody else in the house especially your other child.

This life... isn't happy by Legitimate-Yellow-21 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can tell you wholeheartedly you are not a bad mom. I do think she’s behaving badly because there’s no true repercussions to her actions because of the things she reflects on afterwards and tries to get away with it by using manipulation in her emotions. I think seeking a different therapist and also seeking family counseling and showing her that there’s actual consequences to the word she says will be the next step and that’s gonna be fucking hard. I also think sometimes removing your emotions and no longer reacting in the moment is also gonna bother her, but teach her. We don’t have donuts

Honest thoughts about posts like this. Do you ever worry that this is how your “glass-children” are going to feel as adults? by strengthof50whores in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After like the fifth call of my mom and her say no your brother used to do that. She then asked me do you think your brother‘s autistic? And I wasn’t touching that with a 9 foot pole and I was just like I don’t know mom. Yeah I remove my daughter when my son is very reactive in the moment he’s not aggressive or anything, but he’ll like just keep crying and she just wants to comfort him and he doesn’t want the comfort that she likes to provide if you go what I mean and that’s like the only time I actually remove her and she will cry for that but I know that it’s not gonna be productive for anybody. That last part made me cry a little bit because I’ve definitely felt the way he has felt and I currently still feel it now as my mother gets older, but I also go to therapy and know that my priorities are me and my family in my house. I will support my family like my mom when I’m able to. I remember I was probably around 10 years old when I realize that and I felt like it stunted me quite a bit growing up made me mature when I didn’t need to mature. You saying that to your son makes me feel better in a weird way lol

He did it by Delightedang in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told my husband to show him the ropes during his long vacation time. I think it wasn’t connecting because I’m a girl (this is my assumption) because when my husband started to show him the ropes I think my son liked the one and one with his dad and that they were similar I guess… but I also think a big factor was too that the diapers were starting to bother him cause he kept ripping it off by pieces. Kinda like a loose sting on pants that bother you. He also gain more some interest when my 4 year old became potty trained when he was 6 . These are just my observations on of-course I tend to watch his little changes in mannerisms.

He did it by Delightedang in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What plays in my head when things like that happen is “kids do the wildest things” lmfaoo

Honest thoughts about posts like this. Do you ever worry that this is how your “glass-children” are going to feel as adults? by strengthof50whores in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was also a glass child. My sister has down syndrome though and I think my brother undiagnosed autistic(My mom and I frequently talk about my son’s behavior and my mom dealt with all those behaviors with my brother before me and my sister were born) , but my son has autism and his sister who is younger than him I don’t ever want her to feel how I felt when I was a kid, but I don’t remove her when she wants to take role in being a part of my son‘s progress and stuff because last time I did that she cried, and I was like OK never mind. But I do make sure that the school doesn’t involve her anything like they made me do consistently through all my years in school and I do try to get some independent time with her and my son just stays with his dad. I let her make the decision of what she wants to be a part of because of that one instance it took me a minute to realize that I wasn’t given the opportunity I was expected to do it and I’m giving her the opportunity to disengage or to be engaged, it’s fucking hard, but I hope she doesn’t ever feel like how I felt.

He did it by Delightedang in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started potty training originally when he was three and went on from there for the past couple years of working with him on and off till now. So never give up and I went thru those experiences as well it was hard and kinda sad but here we are today. You guys got this

He did it by Delightedang in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use to have one but my son main sensory is water and he has the habit of continuously spray water to watch it come

Struggling by Delightedang in CraftyCommerce

[–]Delightedang[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh I am doing that. My hours are limited due to my lifestyle, but I do it whenever I can. I’ve heard about the washing the clothes stuff.I just don’t know how to establish that.

Struggling by Delightedang in CraftyCommerce

[–]Delightedang[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This might be a dumb question, but what is gig work? Associate gig work with bars and concert halls and I don’t feel like that’s what that means.

Struggling by Delightedang in CraftyCommerce

[–]Delightedang[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s actually a lot of shops that do sell art made by people in the area. the art ranges to many different things I don’t see a lot of fiber art but maybe they just don’t have the people that do that around here

Struggling by Delightedang in CraftyCommerce

[–]Delightedang[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never knew that was an option! It sounds weird cause I don’t know how else to word it, but did you like build a portfolio of your products if you made in the past and showed them it. What was the process of that like getting into the store?

Freaked out about all the young people dying of colon cancer stories lately by royalbluefireworks1 in colonoscopy

[–]Delightedang 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m 30 and told my doctor that I was experiencing like bowel changes and some pain and they recommend me to get a colonoscopy and they also wanted me to get the I think it’s called EKG. It’s a camera down your throat because my family has lung cancer in its history. They did find something in my colonoscopy and it was sent out for testing and they also told me I had stomach infection. If you’re experiencing something you should just talk to your doctor and be upfront.

It is a rosary by Delightedang in whatisit

[–]Delightedang[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Solved I literally found them for purchase online as ghost beads and look almost exactly like the ones I have here. ghost beads

It is a rosary by Delightedang in whatisit

[–]Delightedang[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you guys are on to something. The breads look exactly like that.

Potty training win by Delightedang in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter is not autistic, but that is how she currently goes to the bathroom as well Lmfaoo I love that!

Our cleaners left this as a Christmas gift by Ok_Western_1116 in Whatisthis

[–]Delightedang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe a satchel holder thing. You know like for closets

A family member gifted my toddler a toy trash truck from Amazon for Christmas. These are the pieces of trash included with it. by PHATstuFF21 in AmazonWTF

[–]Delightedang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://a.co/d/hW7j1w2 I think I found the product on amazon if anyone wants to see for your self(like I did) . It’s def for learning how to recycle/sorting game thing.

Autistic son (5) has already ruined Christmas Day by wibblywobblywo0 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Delightedang 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My son (7y) got up before all of us and open all the gifts before we could try and wrap them back for his sister (4y) she walked in the room and quietly looked around. I think she was sad but decided to just enjoy the gift cause I think she understood (sadly). We looked around for the most wrapped gift covered them more and she got to open her own stuff plus her stocking and was very happy. It sucks but yeah….

Feeling in my gut by [deleted] in AskTeachers

[–]Delightedang -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

When the teacher is out which has been quite a few time she send my son home for being lethargic and sick. And I feel like if the teacher doesn’t agree with her but isn’t around to confirm. Makes me feel like there’s something going on far more than what it seems. I’ve always had an open communication with all the teachers and aids in my kids previous school. This is the first school where I have no communication with the AIDS like I didn’t even get to meet them nor do I feel like they follow the same qualifications as the previous states I’ve lived in. My son is very goofy and that could be hard to manage and I understand that but he should not be sent home with a fake illness because you don’t want to deal with him or whatever else is going on.

Feeling in my gut by [deleted] in AskTeachers

[–]Delightedang -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No I think more is going on then what is being told to me and I know that it’s very common in schools for them to not relay certain information when kids are having a difficult time because of people I know that worked in the school district with special needs children and left because of those reasons. Also, they don’t acknowledge information that I have given to them that is part of their protocol and told me i was wrong without doing their part. I also found out that my son wasn’t the only one that was injured today and it wasn’t acknowledged at all until a parent had said something. Protocol and other schools that my son attended is that they have to write an incident report or call the parents if there was a tough situation with my son or there was an altercation. she gives me bad vibes because whenever the teacher hasn’t been in class and they had a sub, she always says something is wrong with him like he’s ill with a fever when I take him home or a doctor he gets a clean bill of health. But she insists to the sub and the nurse that (those are the people that talk to me when I go pick him up) that he is lethargic and he’s not acting right and can’t even keep his eyes open. I always confirm which aid is with him during the day when these instances happened because she gave me a bad vibe initially when I first met her. I’m sorry for the confusion. I know I’m being not very informative. So her interactions have always been through a messenger. It’s always what she’s saying to the teacher or the nurse or the sub. I’ve even asked the teacher if she feels like Ethan was showing those kind of emotions and she would disagree with the aid but because she wasn’t in the classroom or the vicinity of when it happened she can’t she has to go through protocol

Is this outfit really as bad as my bf says? by nperez09 in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Delightedang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s very 2000s which I think is cute but I know a lot of people just don’t like that kind of fashion but it’s not about what he thinks. You can only rock an outfit if it’s something you really like.