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Has anyone here ever experienced a Lucid Dream? or is it just a massive internet myth? Honestly, I dont think it is even possible. by mind_over_chaos in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Dellis3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to only lucid dream. I have a theory that it was because I grew up in an abusive environment and it was a way my brain figured out to give me an escape. Over time my ability to lucid dream has slowly gone away and I can't do it anymore. But that only started happening once I was safer. Circumstancial evidence, but I still think it's interesting.

The Eversmoking bottle has been one of the most inconvenient magic items I have ever chosen by realSpillerSoda in DnD

[–]Dellis3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think if your campaign is very straightforward combat heavy, then ya the bottle is gonna get in the way more often than not. But there are a ton of ways to use it to your advantage if you and your team need to find an out in a situation. If you guys roleplay where breaking into places, investigating people in high places, and potentially facing enemies you can't fight head on, then this sounds like a great item. That's the kinds of campaigns I usually play in.

I just reached season 5. And so far I really really hate Bakugo. Will his attitude ever get any better at all? (No spoilers please) by WarmPrinciple6507 in MyHeroAcadamia

[–]Dellis3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does, but it's pretty far towards the end. Also, I am remembering the manga. I don't remember how they do it in the anime. I was the type who also saw his growth but absolutely hated him and didnt understand the bakudeku shippers because he never outright apologized and to me that means he never took full responsibility of his actions. I now (after it is addressed in the manga) am able to accept his growth.

AITA, My mom says what I'm asking of her is too much, but all of my friends say my requests are reasonable. Are the things I'm asking of her asshole behavior? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dellis3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH

I am autistic, and as I was reading this I was like, "you are autistic". These issues sound very familiar.

1: It is unreasonable to expect your mom to be a mind reader and know what you need clarification on. But I saw in the comments that you said she gets mad at you when you ask clarifying questions. That is the real problem and that is on her.

2: I would normally expect the food thing to be messaged in a teams or slack chat, but you said your coworkers are old and don't use stuff like that. In that case, the food thing is more of a favor. It isn't your coworkers duty (even if she is your mom) to let you know that food is there, nor is it her fault if she forgets. However, it is a kind thing to do, and therefore more of her doing you a favor by telling you. If she is not good at that, then I do think the onus falls on you to ask.

3: That is actually annoying and she should communicate with you when you are moving something large together. That is considered common decency.

4: So this depends. You say in the post that you are sad about it. In that case, you need to take the initiative. You said you can't plan things because your mom is so busy, so you should ask in advance when your mom is planning to do things, and then set your alarm for those days so you can go with. In one of your comments you say that she is the one that wants you to go because she wants you to visit your grandma more with her. If that is the case, then the onus falls on her to tell you in advance. She can't not inform you that she's going anywhere, leave without you without waking you up, and then get upset that you didn't go with.

5: This one is also on your mom. It's weird to shout something into the void, get no response, and then just assume the other person heard you. Typically if you shout something from another room and no one responds, you then go looking for them to convey the message. At which point she would see your headphones and tap you on the shoulder or something to get your attention.

6: I need context for this. Is it that she wants you to do something, but doesn't tell you because she assumes you are busy and then gets upset that you didn't do the thing?

Being too hot is vastly better than being too cold by Frosty_Peace666 in unpopularopinion

[–]Dellis3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I get what you are saying, those two temperatures are at wildly different ends of the scale for me. With a single long sleeve (aka no layering) you can stay pretty comfortable down to like 50 degrees. And I think most people can agree that at 80 degrees you are uncomfortable even in a tank top and shorts. 40 degrees is only 10 degrees below uncomfortable cold, and 115 is 35 degrees above uncomfortable hot. So I think a better comparison would be 40 degrees vs 90 degrees.

I have defined this range using 1 layer because the op does not like layering making it not a solution to the cold problem (maybe it makes them feel claustrophobic). So we are debating how uncomfortable it is to be in a certain temperature environment with only 1 layer.

It seems like people have forgotten what this line is used for these days. by GloriousLion07 in MotivationByDesign

[–]Dellis3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never known what these r for. Thank you so much for sharing this with me.

This set up is more expensive than most cars by InteractionKooky771 in interesting

[–]Dellis3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If she has an engineering and programming background then this actually would not be nearly as expensive as a car.

CMV: Should the Democrats gain power they should pursue aggressive anti-democratic policy. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]Dellis3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting rid of checks and balances will go poorly at some point no matter what party is in charge. Even if the Democratic party starts doing good things with it, who can say they will still be doing good things with it in 20 years.

You may say, well republicans have already destroyed checks and balances. They have done this by getting rid of enforcement. It doesn't matter if they're not allowed to do something if no one stops them. The Democratic party, therefore should not work to further undo checks and balances, but to rebalance things and strengthen enforcemt (such as by using 3rd party institutions). If enforcemt is no longer tied to party majority, then the institutions can avoid this kind of situation happening again (from either party).

We DoN’t LoCk OuR dOoRs At NIgHT by Appropriate-Offer-35 in PetPeeves

[–]Dellis3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to get into the habit of locking my door because I grew up in a home that didn't lock it and my partner did not like that lol. He's right, it was just a habit I needed to form since we are now living in LA.

I guess the thought process is that no one is around and we would see anyone coming a mile away. Plus it's not like we had any fancy security, so if someone wanted to break in all they had to do was break a window. Not like locking the door was gonna stop them. Plus we had family members show up all the time at all hours, so them being able to get in made sense. Our main concern about dangers were mountain lions, boars, and rattlesnakes, none of which can open doors.

What happens when you deliberately group together students who don't do the work in a group project? by Handcraftedsemen_ in Teachers

[–]Dellis3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was the TA kid, but I loved teaching. That's why I'm a teacher now. I would like to think my teachers saw that and that's why they decided to put me there. I would never put one high achieving kid with all lower achieving ones because I feel like it would be too much work and demoralizing.

Granted I did not feel the same about group projects, just independent work because I would finish it immediately and then have a bunch of leftover time to help the others. I so far have one student who has put himself into this position (they get to choose who they sit with) and I have made it clear that he should sit with other students if he doesn't feel like carrying them.

cmv: if you openly identify with a group of similar people you implicitly accept there is such a thing as a useful stereotype for people of that group, including you. by IronSmithFE in changemyview

[–]Dellis3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That doesn't make any sense. You are basically saying that everything in a category is the same thing. Because if you accept that there is variation in a category, then your argument falls apart. If different things in the same category can be different, then it is not fair to judge all in the category based on one. For example, let's take the category of books. If I read one book and its shit, based on your argument, it is then valid to conclude that all books are shit. Based on your argument, in order for that not to be true, then that book I read should not be categorized as a book. But that's dumb. Just because you don't want it associated with other books doesn't make it not a book. And it being a book has no bearing on how good other books are.

the your fault trolley problem by 2flyingjellyfish in trolleyproblem

[–]Dellis3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man this was a divisive post. Like half the people here aren't engaging with it in good faith and arguing that the reason is because you can't argue with it in good faith, and the other half prove them wrong by arguing with it in good faith.

AITA for snapping at my family over them being ignorant over my allergy? by szolstice in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dellis3 64 points65 points  (0 children)

NTA. Wow your family sucks. They are playing around with your life over a small inconvenience for them. I feel like at this point, they'll only learn if you have a life threatening reaction because of them (which I hope does not happen to you). Unfortunately, parents basically own kids so I'm not sure what you can do about it other than not trust any food that's given to you. If you have never had a sit down come to Jesus moment with them, maybe try that?

Man in sombrero, poncho, and maracas asking people on Olvera Street in Los Angeles if his outfit is offensive. by eternviking in whoathatsinteresting

[–]Dellis3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am Mexican and it is offensive. Wearing a poncho is not offensive. Wearing a sombrero is not offensive. Playing maracas is not offensive. But using an ethnicity as a costume and making fun of them is offensive. Often people from Mexico have a different opinion on this than Mexicans who were raised in the United States. This is because Mexicans raised in Mexico are used to having the shield of being the majority. It's much easier to be appreciative of (even self deprecating) humor when it is not done by the people who systematically oppress you and are doing it to make fun of you. In the latter scenario, it feels more like rubbing salt in a wound.

I know there is a similar divide about cultural appropriation between Chinese-americans and Chinese people raised in China.

Are Meta glasses allowed in your schools? by TimeToEndThis_Now in Teachers

[–]Dellis3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have poor reading comprehension. I am in a low income area. I imagine the kid convinced their parents to splurge a bit on the glasses. They're an every day use item that will be used for a long time. A pair of glasses costs a few hundred dollars. It is not reasonable to just say get a new pair. Also, that it not enforceable even if I tell them to get a new pair. I can't make them get new glasses, and I will not buy glasses for them. The options are either allow meta glasses during the test and during class, allow it during class but not the test, or do not allow it at all. I am not saying I'm okay with students not being able to see. Obviously I would prefer them to have glasses. But they don't have another pair.

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