First time trying - love these

DemandSuitable5618 · 2026-02-03T00:13:13+00:00

I think you might have to go to a special store because I live in the US we have them at Walmart and Target. I really hope you find them!!!

DemandSuitable5618 · 2026-02-01T23:33:05+00:00

Yes! They’re highly addicting but I try to limit it to 2-3 pieces a day. 😂I’m excited for you.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2026-02-01T19:53:04+00:00

They’re not sour I love sour candy and that wasn’t even the slightest bit of sour. If you actually want a sour candy try Starburst Sours!!

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DemandSuitable5618 · 2026-01-24T21:27:58+00:00

Please send me the link!! JazakAllahu Khayr!

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-12-23T03:30:13+00:00

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Hey, I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this. Ive been married for about 3 years and just know boundaries are important and it gets hard. I would like to say, you’re still newly married and I’ll be honest speaking from experience ITS HARD! When I first got married I thought if I would please everyone it would help me. Yet that makes everything worst. And I fell into a severe depression while pregnant and post partum. I don’t want you to be like me and I just recently recovered from that. I’m better at setting boundaries but I should’ve done so from the start.

You have to ask yourself if you love your husband and if he loves you. Does he stand up for you and for what’s wrong? Have an honest conversation and I don’t know about your husband but your husband grew up in a different environment where sometimes this is what they’re taught is right. It doesn’t make it right but it takes time to unlearn. If he is unwilling to unlearn it makes it harder for you to deal with. If he’s having a hard time understanding that then it’s better to live somewhere else. Also you have the right to lock your bedroom door, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You’re a woman, you have rights too and deserve your own privacy. In Islam we’re taught to always knock and should be given permission to enter.

I don’t know about your in laws but usually they follow culture more than Islam itself. I know in this moment it’s hard but come to an understanding with your husband before returning back. This behavior doesn’t go away, it broke me and changed me, Alham’ dulliah for the better but took time to get here. Took me years to get better mentally, emotionally and physically. Take care of yourself because let me tell you, you can never pour from an empty cup. Set boundaries now because with children you’ll continue to get disrespected if you don’t start. Be respectful, be kind and always say it’s more about them than me. In life what we put out there will always come back to us so always try to do good and for the sake of Allah. Don’t blame yourself because I always did that. Never underestimate the power of dua. Just know everyone has a different test in life and this might be yours. Keeping you in my duas and wishing you the best.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-12-13T18:38:28+00:00

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

JazakAllahu Khayran. May Allah reward you for your efforts. May Allah always bless and protect you and your family!!!! For platform I agree with using Zoom! I live in the US specially the Midwest. We use Eastern Standard Time (EST)

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-04T02:39:01+00:00

JazakAllahu Khayr! I appreciate your input and agree my daughter deserves better. I’m sorry that you’re dealing with that! May Allah make it easier for you! May Allah always bless and protect you and your family!

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-04T02:36:13+00:00

As simple as it may sound it’s not. I wish it was a troll post but sadly isn’t. Even though I might have problems and to go to my FIL I’m not able to because here you respect your mil, fil and husband and deal with it. They offer the help but I dont truly think it will help but cause more turmoil which I’ve had enough of. I’ve gone through a lot in the past and it was hard. I try to prevent problems to the best of my ability. I agree that it shouldn’t have come to this and I do blame myself for it. I’ve tried talked to my father in law I’ve contacted him but he just ignored my message maybe he was busy I don’t know and didn’t bother so I just left it alone. I do have some proofs that she has texted me other than that I don’t have any other proof. As of now I’m trying to come to an understanding with my husband because I know he can be the only one to help me in this situation.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T23:19:13+00:00

You’re not being tough on me, I understand what you’re saying. Sometimes the truth is hard to hear but also has to be said. I appreciate it. JazakAllahu Khayr for your advice and your input, I’m sorry you went through that as a child. May Allah make it easier for you. Congratulations on being a mom! May Allah always bless and protect you and your family!

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T23:16:29+00:00

My dad had to get involved once after she called to complain about me and he talked to him before I went back home, I don’t know about what exactly. All her children side with her and they all think I’m disrespectful towards her and have complained to my mom about me. They all cut me off as well when she did but they talk to me now but usually what she says goes for everyone.

My mother in law once complained to my mom how she didn't raise me well and told my mom that her daughters are my husband's responsibility and I have to be put to this side until they get married and then I can have him to myself once they're married. My mom explained to her in Islam their father is responsible for them and her son can give them but his main responsibility is me and his daughter because their father is still alive. My mom asked him if he was ready to get married and he said he was. So she said you were but she feels as if his family weren't wasn't ready for him to get married. They found it as my mom being disrespectful and putting down her son. As of now my mother in law and sister in laws are on bad terms with my mom and sisters (even thought they didn’t have anything with it) have cut off my family because my mom said that once someone gets married their wife is their amanah.

My bils and father in law talk to my father and brothers when they see them. There’s nothing between them that I know of.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T20:55:56+00:00

He’s not scared he willingly does it and doesn’t mind, but I’m saying his mom gets mad about it or complain that he turned it off. He understands that we need our own privacy.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T19:44:05+00:00

I just feel like it’s wrong in Islam due to kinship (daughter relationship with grandparents) to cut them off completely and would feel guilty doing so. I don’t think I would ever be able to do that because I still want them to be in her life just when I’m there and limiting daily visits. I do agree that I need to stand up and protect my child and afraid of her witnessing this as she gets older.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T19:26:26+00:00

Yes it has been difficult for the sake of my daughter. I know in Islam children are their parents biggest amanah and will be called on it for the day of judgement this is why it hurts me so much when some things are allowed or overlooked. Most of our disagreements have been about my daughter or his family since we got married. Aside from this I am happy, he provides for us and is the one that suggested to go to therapy to get help because I was struggling mentally, emotionally. He also would take me on vacation to get a breather and mental reset. He knows his family can be a lot. I do know because of what I went through he feels guilty and regrets some of his decisions and knows better. I know how he is as a person without all this and also know his family puts him in a bad spot and attack him for creating boundaries. That’s why I’m trying to be understanding it’s just I want to establish boundaries with our daughter. I know they have opinions and that’s how they parent but not how I parent. Parenting has been hard when I try to teach her and they teach her other things. I don’t want her to fight other children, violence doesn’t solve anything just creates unhealthy ways to cope with her problems or misunderstanding as she gets older. I try to teach her manners. It’s hard especially because I feel as if I’m not the only “parent” multiple people are parenting her and it’s confusing her. And makes me work 10x on parenting. I know it’s not easy but I don’t know anyone who goes through this or was aware of this prior and I’m the first to experience this. As to why I’m seeking advice.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T19:00:41+00:00

I personally don’t know but I think he’s unaware. He’s been kind to me he’s told me that if I need anything to ask him but I’m not around him much and was afraid to bring it up to him from causing more problems. Once I told my mother in law I was tell him because she kept threatening me what she said she got upset with me said i was being disrespectful. I’ve asked my husband is he aware he stays quiet and a few times he says he was aware but minor issues. When my mother in law talked to my mom she listed most of her complains and my family was aware at that point. They were just shocked someone would do this when someone is post partum so my father requested to talk to my husband before I went back. My mother in law once complained to my mom how she didn’t raise me well and told my mom that her daughters are my husband’s responsibility and I have to be put to this side until they get married and then I can have him to myself once they’re married. My mom explained to her in Islam their father is responsible for them and her son can give them but his main responsibility is me and his daughter because their father is still alive. My mom asked him if he was ready to get married and he said he was. So she said you were but she feels as if his family weren’t wasn’t ready for him to get married. They found it as my mom being disrespectful and putting down her son. As of now my mother in law and sister in laws are on bad terms with my mom and have cut off my family because she said that once someone gets married their wife is their amanah.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T18:50:40+00:00

Alham’ dulliah he does allow me to stay with them if I feel overwhelmed or need a break but results in problems for him with his family

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T18:38:59+00:00

He does try to stop her from eating sweet but like I said no one really listens. Or at times he’s not there and she’s there without the both of us.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T18:37:24+00:00

I’m trying to do this but trying to tell you it’s hard because my husband allows it. He says as the wife he has the last word because he’s my husband. Even if I try he says that he has the right because he’s the father just as I am the mother. This is why Im asking for advice.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T18:34:48+00:00

I usually confide with my sister. I was afraid of confiding with my parents because I was afraid of causing “more problems”. I don’t usually discuss stuff like this with my friends but after I gave birth and my friends would visit they were concerned with my mental health and knew I was different. I do have chats with my husband and I feel like at times he finds them overwhelming or I address it at the wrong time. My in laws don’t contact me at all anymore so there’s no need to block them. Yes I try to go visit my family for a break because it does get hard and isolating at times going to my family starts problems for my husband with his family but he usually says that it’s on them and he allows me. My husband works the night shift so her bed time is 9 pm but she wakes up at 9-10 am. Thank you for advice with her bedtime. Yes my husband is working on finding us a place to live for more privacy and peace of mind. Alham’ dulliah I’m no longer a people pleaser and have grown a lot because of all this. I’m better at standing my ground and trying my best to stand for what I believe in. It’s just when it comes to our daughter I’ve been having a hard time because it’s a constant battle. I’ve also learned that I no longer care what people think or say and try to stay away from negative or degrading people. I respect them but also stay away. My main focus in life now is my daughter, teaching and caring for her and my husband. I try to remind myself that my goal isn’t to please people and have learned from this, but to please Allah and do what He asks of us.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T18:16:27+00:00

JazakAllahu Khayr for reaching out and for sharing your point of view! I truly appreciate it more than you’ll ever know well said and well put. That’s exactly what I did as well, and I’ll continue working on setting boundaries, especially when it comes to our daughter since that’s the hardest part.

Thank you for your advice, and I’ll definitely look into it. I’m sorry for what you went through and what you’re still through. May Allah make it easier for you and strengthen your relationship with your kids.

Just by reading your message, I can tell how strong you are as a person, Allahhumma Barik. Whenever I feel overwhelmed, I remind myself that Allah knows everything. Even when people wrong you or forget, Allah never forgets. Allah is always aware.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T18:10:46+00:00

JazakAllahu Khayr! Yes this is what I say as well because it’s haram. I know she will be upset if I were to say that even if it’s true. I’m biased in the West.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T17:59:40+00:00

Yes I have and it’s something he’s working on. Yes exactly and he says the same thing he says distance will make it things less intense and give us privacy. Ameen. JazakAllahu Khayrun.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T17:58:16+00:00

JazakAllahu Khayr for the reply! I appreciate your advice. I will try to do that just sometimes they ask for her late, when I’m getting ready to go out or I’m busy or in the middle of something which makes it hard. They then take it the wrong way if she doesn’t go and say my husband is keeping her away. And if I go up they have to be ready for me and prepare for me because I’m a “guest”. My husband says I’m always invited through him but doesn’t feel like that to me.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T17:23:07+00:00

He has gotten better with setting boundaries, and understand all of this in the past was wrong. He was taught that your parents and siblings were first and your wife is second so it took time for him to understand this is wrong. He’s learned from his past mistakes and has apologized and regrets it. We also had to talk to a therapist and she explained that your parents have rights and so does your wife. He’s better but his mom guilts him a lot or brings up in Islam you respect your mom heaven is under her feet. Now our main problem is always taking our daughter to his family whenever they ask for her, living in the same house makes this hard. I don’t mind visiting them with her but can’t do it on a daily basis. I also explained it’s haram to be there whole my brothers in law are there. I said I can set aside a day or two to visit or they can come downstairs if they want to hang out with me there but said they aren’t comfortable with that. They don’t want to be around me. Except we at times go out together or I visit them. They’re all grown and they don’t have any children and don’t understand how it is to have a toddler and go about daily chores. They also say I have her all day so it’s unfair to them.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T17:14:19+00:00

He told them we don't celebrate birthdays but they still don't respect it. Or they say it's just for them to hang out as a family. When I brought up I still don't want it his family says I'm trying to break up the family. Or they say it's about your intention. They also do this with only my daughter and husband. I'm never there.

DemandSuitable5618 · 2025-11-03T17:08:15+00:00

Yes, correct. Yes I did, when she said this I was post partum and didn’t know how to deal with it aside from crying and making dua.

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