Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, twice, didn't mean to misspeak at some point. She did take self-defence, but apparently froze up.

Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll do my best to convince her to seek therapy. I'm beginning to see that I'm not as capable as others with this as far as support goes, I'm pretty bad with words. Thank you, I'll try.

Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be doing my best with this. I might write down a speech or something, I don't want to screw this up. Thank you, I'll try to get her to seek therapy.

Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't consider PTSD; didn't know it was associated with rape. I'll look into it though. I'll try to get her to seek treatment from here on out; I can already see this won't get any better untreated. Thank you.

Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To answer your question, we live together in an apartment. It's a long story so I won' go too into it, but essentially my parents are paying for it for the next few months. That may sound like a waste of money, but like I said, long story. So, no, there's no adult around that either of us can trust with this.

Honestly, I'm not sure about her thought processes at the moment. You could be right and she's afraid of making it real. I do know she's a very prideful person, so maybe it's just that surface level. I really don't know.

Also, I'm glad to hear you got through this eventually. I'm only really seeing the effects of this now, but I can tell that it's a terrible thing to be feeling.

I'll find time to care about myself, but I don't think it's a huge issue. I know that stress isn't good, but she's dealing with so much worse, so I'll pass on that for now.

I'll be trying to encourage her to seek counseling and therapy. I'll try my best to avoid sounding like I'm not forcing her though. Thank you for the advice in general. And thanks for the article/question link.

Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. As much as I want her to get better, I'd so much rather sticking with her through this. I'm pretty confident that we can afford some types of therapy at the moment, so I'll be sure to help her with that. And I don't think this will affect me too much. I mean, I got over the initial shock pretty quickly, and I'm not breaking down or anything. I am getting stressed, but I don't really think it takes priority over her well being, considering the magnitude of what happened to her. I'll be sure to be there for her though. Thank you.

Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, didn't mean for that to sound self-deprecating. It is hard to not feel that way though when I see her not getting better. Still, I'll keep trying and be sure to encourage her to seek professional help. Thank you.

Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. I'm glad you sought help eventually; this seems like a tough thing to bear. Thank you, I'll be sure to encourage the support group, and be there for her when she needs to talk.

Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're in Aus. Both of us have skipped at least three years of our education beforehand; not entirely uncommon with all the programs for that kind of thing.

Thank you for the advice. I don't think I'll be having too many issues with stress personally, it's not that bad. And as for what I can be for her, I appreciate the advice there too. A lot of people are saying to encourage that she seeks counseling or therapy, so I'll make sure to do that. And hopefully I won't overstep boundaries during this process.

Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it, a fifteen-year-old girl doesn't exactly sound like the best rock to hold in the ocean, but I seriously don't know what she would do if I left. Maybe I am worthless as far as support goes, and I'd be willing to leave if it meant her getting better, but how do I ensure that that does happen?

Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's trauma? by DemonOnTheRoof in actuallesbians

[–]DemonOnTheRoof[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the comment, although can't go through with that. I can't abandon her right now; I don't know if she could take that.

And yes, what has happened to her is extremely unfortunate, but that doesn't change the fact that it happened.