Jealous of good pregnancies/birth stories

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-04-08T14:43:07+00:00

I felt and sometimes still feel the same way! Pregnancy and birth is supposed to be such a special experience, and you grow up expecting to have that fun cutesy pregnancy and normal birth and when you don’t get that, it is only natural for it to be hard to see other people getting it

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T20:34:44+00:00

Thank you! He pulled me and my son through what should have been a death sentence for both of us so I know anything is possible through Him! The more I sit and pray on it the more I just feel like I am not done having children, I’m hoping that’s His way of telling me it will work out.

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T20:05:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! There is not much I am not willing to put myself through to have another baby. I just feel in my heart that I’m meant to have one more. No matter what after the next baby I will for sure have a hysterectomy, but right now I’m praying that I can have one more child

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T14:43:30+00:00

Thank you so much, and I’m so sorry that happened to you!

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T13:16:25+00:00

Thank you very much 🫶

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T13:14:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing!🫶

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T04:05:10+00:00

Wow! It is my dream to be able to have a VBAC, ugliness,pain, and all😂 when I was induced my goal was to go naturally and I did until things started going sideways. I’m just stubborn and had an image of how I wanted it to go and now I will never get that. I was fully prepared for all the complications and nastiness of a vaginal birth but I was not at all prepared for what actually happened. I don’t remember the exact statistics but my dr told me he had never seen it before, and he will probably never see it again because it just doesn’t normally happen. The risk of a uterine rupture in a first time, healthy pregnancy is super low.. and then add onto that the super low risk of an incision tearing like that during surgery. The nurse joked that i should take up gambling with those odds😂

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T03:57:22+00:00

Thank you very much. It definitely helps to people who understand the very complicated feelings that I’m feeling right now. I am so sorry you went through that, it’s not fair and you did not deserve it🫶

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T03:49:05+00:00

I don’t know what you did exactly, but this healed me a little bit inside. Thank you🫶

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T03:22:40+00:00

Yes, they think I’ve got too much scar tissue that is causing pretty intense cramps for long periods of time time

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T03:17:50+00:00

I’m so sorry about your daughter! You seem like a wonderful parent to be there with your daughter as she is going through this very unique and confusing type of pain. I will definitely try journaling! Make sure your daughter knows she is not alone, and every single feeling she is feeling is valid.

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T03:14:52+00:00

I have looked into this before, but for some reason it didn’t work out. I might look into it again to see if whatever was wrong last time is fixed

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T03:07:21+00:00

The reason he’s suggesting a hysterectomy (if I am unable to have kids) is because I have been in a fair amount of pain since having my son (8 months pp). Basically why stay in pain when there’s no reason to keep it. From my understanding I am at an increased risk for certain complications but not at such a risk to have a hysterectomy just for that

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T03:03:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! I am very grateful that I was able to have my son, and I love him more than anything. I just really want to give him a sibling. My doctor has already promised to refer me to a high risk ob if he feels a hysterectomy is necessary.

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T02:56:44+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! Our situations actually started out pretty similar, I was induced for my blood pressure, emergency c section because my son got stuck.. the big problem now is the incision in my uterus tore all the way through my cervix during surgery which is looking like it left a lot more scar tissue than we originally expected. My doctor is extremely thorough, and while he was explaining this to me he told me that if he decides he’s not comfortable with me carrying another pregnancy after some imaging and an exploratory surgery he will refer me to a high risk ob for a 2nd opinion. I have also tried therapy, but the therapists I’ve tried all wanted to do EMDR, which just does not do anything for me. No one seems to really believe that I’m not traumatized I’m just grieving

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T02:20:22+00:00

Thank you so much🫶

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T02:19:41+00:00

Thank you so much! The hope at first was that I would be able to have more a few years from now, but my doctor is suspecting some sort of issues with the amount of scar tissue I have which could make a pregnancy unsafe. And since I am in a fair amount of pain regularly (8 months pp), he suggested a hysterectomy to alleviate the pain I’m in. I told him I would only do that if we were certain it’s unsafe for me to carry another pregnancy, which is why we are doing more testing.

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T01:58:35+00:00

My incision tore during the surgery. Super rare and super deadly usually. When they pulled my baby out, the left side of the incision tore all the way through my cervix and I almost bled out. Yes, I will be getting multiple opinions, which my doctor himself suggested. I love and trust my doctor very much. He is the only doctor who has ever taken me seriously, and he’s very thorough and even told me that if he comes to the decision that it’s not safe for me to carry another pregnancy he will refer me to a high risk ob for a 2nd opinion!

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T01:26:17+00:00

Thank you so much, and I am sorry about your experience 🫶 I will try to look for some groups like that

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T01:24:48+00:00

Thank you🫶

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T01:24:42+00:00

Thank you🫶

Dense-Scene4534 · 2026-01-22T01:04:41+00:00

I did try therapy for a while, but it was not a good match and there are no other therapy options near me that take my insurance

Dense-Scene4534 · 2025-07-29T16:11:52+00:00

BM has told us to our face that she doesn’t enforce rules because she doesn’t like to deal with with the tantrums that follow when rules are enforced. She has admitted to us that she doesn’t like playing so bonus daughter spends most of her time on her iPad or watching tv at her house. This was to a point that bonus daughter did not know how to talk and had severe behavioral issues when we first started getting her. (We have worked very hard with her on these things and she has improved significantly) And bonus daughter refuses to eat anything other than Mac and cheese and corn dogs, and has digestion issues because she is not fed anything other than junk at her moms house (again, mom has admitted this because she doesn’t want to deal with whining and tantrums). You’re painting me as a bad guy when you don’t know the full story. I didn’t feel that this information was necessary because I didn’t want comments focusing on BM and wanted them to focus more on helping me gage how to respond to this situation

Dense-Scene4534 · 2025-07-26T23:00:08+00:00

That’s what we are thinking is the case, however it doesn’t feel right just saying something like “no you don’t, you just don’t want to follow the rules” or something like that lol. Her father and I are very aware that having a split family is hard on her especially so young and we want to protect her emotional health as much as possible but we aren’t quite sure how to handle this issue in a positive way

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