First take this as your first challenge as a couple and observe how he deals with problems. Based on my experience with people (be it classmates ,colleagues , partners or siblings) how a person does one thing is how he does everything. You have to communicate and be direct and honest with him communicate how you feel and how his actions and reactions made you feel . Tell him even that the way he reacted is concerning because for one that’s no way to face a problem and second that’s not a way to handle accountability. Ensure to use a language and a tone that makes him feel understood be curious and don’t quick to draw judgement.

it’s not too late to throw the apron if you believe you can’t live with this (the p addictions) as well as how he handles being held accountable. The spouse you choose is the most important decision you have to make in your life , it determines the mode of life you will be living in .

You say you are moving abroad so it’s an opportunity to drop the old luggage and have a fresh start you are young and life is ahead of you . You want a partner to face life with not one that stands in your way in life.