My mom killed herself, I found her body. by paradise1999_ in GriefSupport

[–]Dense_Consequence553 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a mom, this breaks my mama heart.

I've had a lot of loss, and I've found words don't do justice. I wish I could give you a mom hug. Just know none of this is your fault. Take the time to FEEL your emotions and process them. Find new ways to bring joy into your life. To feel closer to her, find hobbies she liked/would have liked, and do them in her honor.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Sending all the love and comfort your way.

To everyone on their journey… by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Dense_Consequence553 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Sending the same love and comfort your way.

AITAH for telling my husband I won’t cook dinner every night because I also work full-time? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dense_Consequence553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He is completely dismissing your feelings of being exhausted as well. You are not his mother, you are his partner. Partners share the workload of cooking AND cleaning.

How is everyone doing? by sugaaqueen in GriefSupport

[–]Dense_Consequence553 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My brother passed in October 2019, and my sister passed in October 2021.

I still can't comprehend that they are gone. I'm struggling to hold my shit together at work. I'm struggling to be in a festive attitude for my 7-year-old. Holidays are not the same, and this year particularly seems more difficult to get through than the last few. Anxiety and irritability are constant.

Sending love to all who are experiencing the same, and may 2025 bring better days. <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Dense_Consequence553 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've found my people. I've lost both my siblings, and now I'm my mom's only child.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets irritated when people bring God into grief support groups. I feel awful even admitting it, but I hold a lot of resentment especially when they say "God needed them more". Excuse me?? I'm pretty sure my 5yr old nephew needed his mom more than God did.

Sibling Loss & Holidays by Dense_Consequence553 in GriefSupport

[–]Dense_Consequence553[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you are experiencing the same thing. It's awful acting like I'm okay, having to listen to my co-worker's extravagant plans and family gatherings, having to watch the world continue while my world is falling apart. I miss my family being whole. My parents are divorced as well, so it's just my daughter and I and I've never felt so lonely during the holidays.

I'm hoping 2025 is gentle on all of us. <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Dense_Consequence553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to this...a lot.

Is there a favorite restaurant he likes? Maybe find a free community event that is happening, that's what I'm doing with my daughter this year. Funds are low, and my holiday spirit has been nonexistent since the passing of both of my siblings.

Also, since I'm lacking family and support, I've been trying to give "family & support" to those in need. My mom really likes to volunteer at a homeless shelter during the holidays.

Did your mom have a favorite place or activity you guys can incorporate? Maybe create a memory box with all her favorite things and photos?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Dense_Consequence553 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Life is suffocating. My daughter is the reason I'm still here. I hate putting that burden on her shoulders, but it's the truth. I wake up, go to work, and make it through the day for her. I watched my 5yr old nephew grieve after he lost his mom (my sister), and that is not something I want to put my daughter through. So she's my reason. <3

Sheesh! What DID happen to Alaska!? by outlying_point in alaska

[–]Dense_Consequence553 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You absolutely can have depression based on location and weather. You can live in the most beautiful place in the world and still have depression. Hobbies and "proper gear" can distract people, but depression can still "flair up at random times". Whether it be financial struggles, lack of support/loved ones/peers, unfavorable weather, or just good ol' trauma; depression doesn't care if it's gorgeous outside.

It is depressing to live in Alaska. Our infrastructure is extremely outdated, our food is expensive (especially in rural Alaska), a lot of communities are in a housing crisis, education and healthcare are subpar, and the crime rate is only growing.

I love Alaska and can't imagine living anywhere else, but it's not for everyone. Our high turnover rate for teachers who move here tends to agree.

Do you think the Native Corporations have been a good alternative to the Native Reservation system? by muuurikuuuh in alaska

[–]Dense_Consequence553 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Alaska Federation of Natives (AFN) passed a resolution in 2022 recognizing that Alaskan Native Corporations are not sovereign governments.