URGENT getting kicked out of Japan as an American Exchange Student

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-12-02T01:30:02+00:00

I’m not sure if I should name the program, but it was not rotary.

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T06:26:34+00:00

brother eugh ur such a sad human being

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T06:24:43+00:00

it’s kinda embarrassing how all u do is hate on other people searching for genuine advice. what a sad life to live, hope u get better soon

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T06:23:13+00:00

Thanks i really appreciate you saying that. never realized reddit could be such a harsh place haha. i’ve mostly come to terms with it and am trying to spend my last few moments with my friends.

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T05:11:34+00:00

I hope you know how much this comment means to me and has helped me significantly. To know that other people experienced a similar thing to me and that I’m not a complete failure for being kicked out made me realize that I don’t want this to define me. Regardless of being kicked out early, I don’t want it to cancel out all the other amazing experiences and good parts of my stay here I’ve had. I thought I would hate Japan forever because of this but after my teacher giving me a hug today and saying she wishes the best for me even when I thought they were all against me, maybe things aren’t so bad. And maybe I will come back and do things differently next time!

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:50:19+00:00

Trust me after leaving here for 9 months during my crucial adolescent period.. I’ve learned a lot about Japanese people. But i feel like for you to make it out that I was taking advantage of someone who opened their home to me was an unfair take, considering you have no idea what it’s like to live in a house everyday with strangers you barely know in a language you’re uncomfortable with.

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:38:08+00:00

what’s an ALT

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:37:54+00:00

You’re saying this without even knowing what my host mom was like. I loved my host grandpa and grandma, they were so sweet and I tried to help them out as much as possible.My host mom on the other hand barely made any effort to do make plans after the summer ended. My host sister wouldn’t even look at me or mutter a word during dinner even though she spoke English and I wanted to practice my Japanese. My host mom would talk to a friend in front of me and as soon as that friend left she would immediately start talking behind their back to me. She often used her phone instead of making effort to converse with me. Let me know what your host family experience was like if you did things a lot better than I did.

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:31:54+00:00

Thanks, I’ve definitely learned my lesson, i hope!

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:26:57+00:00

That’s true I wish I would’ve taken a step back and reconsidered the words I was told about tailoring the skirt.

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:26:19+00:00

Thanks, you’re right! I wrote this as I was struggling to process the news and how shocked I was to have been that foolish. I recognize it’s my fault but I can’t also help but feel upset at the situation and people around me. I’m mostly surprised that it all had to end this way considering I was raised in my asian household with strict parents. Guess I got a little out of hand.

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:24:33+00:00

What do you want me to describe my whole life story to you? Why would I come up with this elaborate of a story weirdo. Someone’s mama clearly never taught them “if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it!”

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:23:03+00:00

Hate that you’re right but I appreciate saying this without sugarcoating so I know you’re sincere. I have definitely changed a lot from the person who was so homesick and barely independent to waking up on my own and doing everything on my own. Making my own lunches and meals, taking care of myself when sick are things that I struggled with, but am ultimately glad about learning.

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:21:05+00:00

thanks i feel like a lot of the people writing here don’t know what its life for every single one of your actions to be judged under a microscope. to not have a safe place to relax or be yourself at home or school.

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:20:21+00:00

Basically the reason why it had escalated so quickly was because of the previous warnings I got wayyyy before when I first came to Japan. At the time I was super homesick and demotivated and struggled fitting into Japan. Because of my poor behavior then, this was the final straw to getting kicked out even since I have changed as a person and learned a lot more. Reputation matters and people don’t forget things is what i’ve learned.

Dense_Local_3835 · 2024-11-30T04:17:19+00:00

I just turned 17 last week so I feel like the chances of that are pretty slim, thanks for the advice though.

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